Guys, Why Will You Only Marry Some Supermodel Instead of a Proverbs 31 Beauty?

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livingepistle said:
Good thread and honest question in my opinion. In my opinion: Each individual defines beauty to themselves. Unfortunately, we men have one thing in common, animal like instincts can override our cognitive reasoning.
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LOL, I'm picturing the pick-up line that would be derived from this:

"My animal instincts really want Kate Upton, but fortunately I was able to override them with cognitive reasoning and chose you."

What woman wouldn't be flattered by that???!!! :D

Just kidding, Living Epistle!! Loved your answer and thanks so much everyone for your honest replies--that's what makes me happiest when reading threads, to see what everyone's respectful, but truly honest answers really are!

Please keep sharing, married or single, guy or girl, whichever side(s) of the situation you've been on!
 
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seoulsearch said:
LOL, I'm picturing the pick-up line that would be derived from this:

"My animal instincts really want Kate Upton, but fortunately I was able to override them with cognitive reasoning and chose you."

What woman wouldn't be flattered by that???!!! :D

Just kidding, Living Epistle!! Loved your answer and thanks so much everyone for your honest replies--that's what makes me happiest when reading threads, to see what everyone's respectful, but truly honest answers really are!

Please keep sharing, married or single, guy or girl, whichever side(s) of the situation you've been on!
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Best line given thus far.
 
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My best friend (aside from my husband...so, my only female friend...wait, my only friend?! oy!) is the same height as me; 5'9". And she has always, always, always, ALWAYS attracted much more male attention than I have. She's very naturally thin and willowy, her blonde hair is past the middle of her back, she has big blue eyes.

Totally sickening (kidding).

When we were teenagers, one of the boys we both happened to like told myself, my friend, and another girl we were with why he liked each of us: to the 3rd girl in our group, he said, "You're so short and just cute", to my friend he said, "You're like a super model!" And to me...

"I like you because you're weird looking, so it's different."

*sigh*
 
seoulsearch

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*hugs Cris*

I can totally relate, hon! I'm the girl guys talk to because they want to date my friends.

The closest thing I get to a compliment is, "Well... you're not... (HUGE PAUSE) bad... to look at... (if I HAVE to look at you, with my eyes closed, so as not to permanently burn out my retinas.)" In other words, I seem to qualify as one step up from hideous! :)

It's ok! Like I said, I'm just gonna take my "great personality" and go eat my dinner in the corner! (The timeout spot, most likely, for causing some sort of trouble.) :)

OH, and by the way, Cris... YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, ESPECIALLY with the pink hair. I love that!! Looks that show your personality are truly the most beautiful. :)
 
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MissCris said:
My best friend (aside from my husband...so, my only female friend...wait, my only friend?! oy!) is the same height as me; 5'9". And she has always, always, always, ALWAYS attracted much more male attention than I have. She's very naturally thin and willowy, her blonde hair is past the middle of her back, she has big blue eyes.

Totally sickening (kidding).

When we were teenagers, one of the boys we both happened to like told myself, my friend, and another girl we were with why he liked each of us: to the 3rd girl in our group, he said, "You're so short and just cute", to my friend he said, "You're like a super model!" And to me...

"I like you because you're weird looking, so it's different."

*sigh*
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Boys are stoopid!:rolleyes:
 
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*hugs Cris*

I can totally relate, hon! I'm the girl guys talk to because they want to date my friends.

The closest thing I get to a compliment is, "Well... you're not... (HUGE PAUSE) bad... to look at... (if I HAVE to look at you, with my eyes closed, so as not to permanently burn out my retinas.)" In other words, I seem to qualify as one step up from hideous! :)

It's ok! Like I said, I'm just gonna take my "great personality" and go eat my dinner in the corner! (The timeout spot, most likely, for causing some sort of trouble.) :)

OH, and by the way, Cris... YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, ESPECIALLY with the pink hair. I love that!! Looks that show your personality are truly the most beautiful. :)
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I was gonna say that to you, after reading the first paragraph! And you beat me to it! So I'll just say thank you, and next time I'll be quicker with my compliments :eek:
 
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seoulsearch said:
*hugs Cris*

I can totally relate, hon! I'm the girl guys talk to because they want to date my friends.

The closest thing I get to a compliment is, "Well... you're not... (HUGE PAUSE) bad... to look at... (if I HAVE to look at you, with my eyes closed, so as not to permanently burn out my retinas.)" In other words, I seem to qualify as one step up from hideous! :)

It's ok! Like I said, I'm just gonna take my "great personality" and go eat my dinner in the corner! (The timeout spot, most likely, for causing some sort of trouble.) :)

OH, and by the way, Cris... YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, ESPECIALLY with the pink hair. I love that!! Looks that show your personality are truly the most beautiful. :)
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Unless you're using someone else's picture (or a photoshopped or old pic), you definitely don't have a problem in the looks department. I'm not sure what that says about your relationship status. :)
 
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Unless you're using someone else's picture (or a photoshopped or old pic), you definitely don't have a problem in the looks department. I'm not sure what that says about your relationship status. :)
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Thanks for the support, guys--I really appreciate it!! But... I only seem to appeal to... guys I'm not attracted to in return... Turns out to be a friend thing... Many of you out there probably know the drill!

(Dashadow--I'm NOT saying this to offend you at all but I am generally attractive to much older men and I don't feel comfortable with that at all. When I was 12 and at a Christian school, a teacher had a crush on me. He was twice my age. Which, yes, was 24... and God kept me from any harm... But it has forever made me cringe when older men find me attractive--one of the reasons I am still single is that this seems to be the most general population to which I appeal.)
 
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iTOREtheSKY: Hormonal stupor...like that of a male moose during rutting season. Not their fault..."Hormonal Stupor" not "Stupid". lol
 
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seoulsearch "Hmm. Don't worry, I didn't try contacting him! (I'll just hold on to my "great personality" and stay single... ha ha ha!)"

Your post depicts you as intelligent, attractive, and sincere. That scares allot of men off; e.g., commitment. This society is not about commitment or accountability. The Bible says, "...he that finds a wife, finds a good thing...". After the Cross this applies without gender. This guy is in "rut" with the personality of what he represents--"a bull moose". lol

Any Christian Woman would do better without that "type" guy; in my opinion. Finding a corporal male that loves you-for-you is a dilemma faced by all Single Christians without exception to gender. Being equally yoked is not easy.

I am a Christian male and that is my opinion.
Respectfully submitted,
Living Epistle
 
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well I was "fearfully and wonderfully made" and created in God's own image. If that is not good enough then I have no idea what is. :)
 
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Leelee I've read your post ... the inside of your cup is Spiffy!!!
 
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Great cuz currently the outside is in pjs with messy hair and no make up, although my hair is mental curly and i don't really wear make up so the only outside change is the clothes lol!
 
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Looks matter to an extent but sometimes its just how a guy carries himself - I have found that many many times with me!
 
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I think marriage has made me a little lazy. I will wear a little makeup but I don't want to spend a lot of time on hair or makeup. Sometimes I wake up with a huge mess of crazy on my head. I try to look nice. I still shave does that. Count as effort?
 
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seoulsearch said:
Thanks for the support, guys--I really appreciate it!! But... I only seem to appeal to... guys I'm not attracted to in return... Turns out to be a friend thing... Many of you out there probably know the drill!

(Dashadow--I'm NOT saying this to offend you at all but I am generally attractive to much older men and I don't feel comfortable with that at all. When I was 12 and at a Christian school, a teacher had a crush on me. He was twice my age. Which, yes, was 24... and God kept me from any harm... But it has forever made me cringe when older men find me attractive--one of the reasons I am still single is that this seems to be the most general population to which I appeal.)
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There Are Laws of Operation Associated with Courtship

These are the laws of human courtship; "The Older Want The Younger and the Younger Want the Young";it is human nature to seek what we want and want what we cannot have. In the United States they call older women that want younger men "Cougars". Older men that want younger women; that would be 20-years their junior, "Old Buzzards", "Pimp Daddy", "Hustlers": In Christendom, "Perverts".

Since ancient times in the Middle-east younger women were always preferred and married because they stood the best chance of producing many children; children are considered a treasure with regards to being the ones to perpetuate the family lineage.

In my circle of influence, females across the spectrum of adult age groups have expressed similar concerns. Too young to want a "Buzzard" and too old to be desired by the younger. It is cyclical, and mating is tied directly to time, motion, emotion, and events. To land the man/woman of individual desire, changing to new tactics might be needed:"It is a game of chance and circumstance that must be skillfully engaged."

The last law of courtship and finding a compatible mate is "What soever we sow, we shall also reap": "That older man/woman, which appears to be a "Buzzard" or "Cougar" may just be a Mom/Dad playing matchmaker for a daughter or son." Hmmmm; just a thought.

Thank you to everyone for the chance to comment. I enjoyed participating.

Respectfully submitted,
Livingepistle
 
seoulsearch

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Living--

I actually have the in profile... that if a man is, say 65 and older (because the men who try to contact me are generally 55-89, no joke), I hope the only reason he's looking at my profile is because he has a son, or grandson, that he wants to introduce me to. :)

Unfortunately, none of them have ever said that was the case.
 
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Ladies, if you're the type that someone would describe as having 'a great personality', you are not for me. If you wouldn't approach me in a social situation, it would be best that you not approach me here, either.
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I don't even know what that means. My first thought was that there was a typo in it. Then my second thought was that it meant the woman had such a great personality that men would always be crowding around her and she wouldn't have time to approach him. I don't know. I don't see anything in there about looks - only personality. And that remark is confusing at best. So I'll just go ahead and take your word for it, seoulsearch.

I think looks attract but personality keeps. If there's no initial attraction or if there's a bad personality then either would be a deal breaker. So it's not that I'm not looking for a Proverbs 31 woman; I'm just looking for a Proverbs 31 and Song of Songs 4 woman so-to-speak.
 
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the term great personality has a cultural negative connotation. basically if you say a woman has a great personality it is seen as being to make up for something else. usually looks. of course you can have both
 
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leelee said:
the term great personality has a cultural negative connotation. basically if you say a woman has a great personality it is seen as being to make up for something else. usually looks. of course you can have both
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I understand that. But then he goes on to say...

If you wouldn't approach me in a social situation, it would be best that you not approach me here, either.
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To me "social situation" just had more in common with personality than looks. So it seemed like he was saying, "If you're described as having a good personality but then you wouldn't have a good personality in a social situation... etc." But you guys are probably right.
 
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