Guys, Why Will You Only Marry Some Supermodel Instead of a Proverbs 31 Beauty?

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agirlandherguitar

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My greatest form of entertainment was when some guys I knew went through that silly time when they were single and wanted what my mother called "Mother Theresa in Barbie's body". It's a very immature and awkward stage... and most of them ended up with realistic women with great hearts.

Looks DO matter, but looking like Barbie (or Ken for teh ladiez) only sets the tone for a relationship for so long if she's a total dingbat. I don't envy those relationships.

I used to have my ideal "hottie" in mind but I've relaxed my standards in the past year or so. I used to want my guy to have dark hair and be super tall. I never was attracted to shorter men ONLY because I am a tall strapping girl and couldn't help but picture Natasha and Boris if I was next to a guy shorter than me. However, shorter men need loves too! I'm not sure if I'm ready to date somebody a head shorter than me... but I'm willing to give anyone a shot. However I still like dark hair... only because my family is blonde and I don't want to date somebody who looks like my brother!

Oh, and for the lulz:
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JimJimmers

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SeoulSearch, I'll post this here, but it could also go in Rachel's thread about "setting up", LOL.


My brother was working hard the other day, and being himself (He's a very competent guy) And a lady was telling him about her two daughters, and how one in particular "has no life", and "Doesn't do anything to help". But she's "very beautiful". And then she says she should introduce her to him! Apparently in her mind, being pretty would be enough for my brother, and he is fine with a girl who doesn't lift a finger around the house.

So that's my little story to add. Looks will fade, but the heart of a good woman gets better every year.

P.S. My brother didn't fall for it, just for the record.
 
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stone8

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this is something that i feel everyone brings up at some point...i think a person has to be attractive to u...and the more u know them the more you are attracted to them..and you want that to be for the other person as well...not everyone is going to think ur gorgeous..however u dont think everyone is gorgeous either...dont lie its true...and even if the person is the hottest person u ever saw but not compatible or a christian it isn't going to last long anyways..so i say be who r u and embrace it and the person will come along that u think is attractive and they will they you are smokin and will be fantastic...lol
 
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Tintin

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I remember when I first joined CC their were posts by someone convinced that any two Christians who had never met (one guy/one girl) could be put in the same room and become interested in each other. I don't put any stock in the theory but it was interesting nonetheless.

I don't think I'd pursue a girl who was taller than me but as I'm 6 foot 5 inches (roughly 196cm), I don't think that will ever be an issue.
 
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jimmydiggs

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Tintin said:
I remember when I first joined CC their were posts by someone convinced that any two Christians who had never met (one guy/one girl) could be put in the same room and become interested in each other. I don't put any stock in the theory but it was interesting nonetheless.
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When I hear or think someone might be a Christian on campus, male or female, I get pretty excited and want to know and learn more about them. I don't think Christians who are supposed to have brotherly love, should have trouble finding something in each other to be interested in.
 
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Tintin

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True, but it's a whole 'nother step up to say they should be able to be so attracted to each other that they want to get married.
 
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jimmydiggs

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Tintin said:
True, but it's a whole 'nother step up to say they should be able to be so attracted to each other that they want to get married.
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As long as they're Christian, and of sound theology, I'd do it. I would wait a little while given the choice of course, as I am not currently able to provide.
 
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Tintin

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You would? Then you're a better man than I.
 
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I was going to make some jokes, but everybody seems pretty disturbed by this whole topic.

So, here is what I do.
I pray.
I pray God will send me a "Proverbs 31" type of woman, who is "beautiful to me".
And "beautiful to me" is genuinely, and exactly what I really say.
And what does that mean?
It's nobody's business what it means.
Some days I'm not even sure what it means.

Maybe I like women with a pirate patch and a wooden leg.
Maybe I don't like women with pirate patches and wooden legs, but God is going to make one seem beautiful to me.

Cool.

God said he could make sons of Abraham from the stones if he wanted;
if he can make people out of rocks, can't he make one person who is right for each of us?
Just one?

How hard can it possibly be, for God, to make just one person who is right for me?
How hard can it be to make just one who is right for you?
Seriously.
 
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agirlandherguitar

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Tintin said:
I remember when I first joined CC their were posts by someone convinced that any two Christians who had never met (one guy/one girl) could be put in the same room and become interested in each other. I don't put any stock in the theory but it was interesting nonetheless.

I don't think I'd pursue a girl who was taller than me but as I'm 6 foot 5 inches (roughly 196cm), I don't think that will ever be an issue.
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That's an interesting theory... and honestly it seems kind of true but similar to how jimmydiggs said. We are naturally attracted to each other and it's not always in a sexual/romantic/omgbemybf4eva kind of way. Call it the "Gravity of God" - we need to be around other Christians.

And at 6'5" you probably won't encounter many ladies taller than that. I'm 5'10", which is taller than average but wouldn't be considered extremely tall.
 
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Tintin

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Well, the CC member I mentioned was referring to 'interest' in each other to the point of marriage (which I don't agree with) but I understand what you're saying. I have very few similar interests to my friends (guys and girls) but if we share the Christian faith, that's something that unites us. It's very easy to talk about God and His Word, less so to crap on about eg. sport you know nothing about and couldn't care less about. :)
 
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Tintin said:
Well, the CC member I mentioned was referring to 'interest' in each other to the point of marriage (which I don't agree with) but I understand what you're saying. I have very few similar interests to my friends (guys and girls) but if we share the Christian faith, that's something that unites us. It's very easy to talk about God and His Word, less so to crap on about eg. sport you know nothing about and couldn't care less about. :)
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I know a woman that met her husband this way after she was widowed. They have now been happily married for over 10 years. She says that the both of them were met with a lot of resistance from others that didn't "agree" with it.

You personally will probably never meet someone that way because you don't agree with it; not that there is anything wrong with that. You are just limiting the methods by which you will allow it to happen. I'm the same way. I don't agree with dating sites so I will never meet someone that way cause I have limited my methods as well. Neither of us should probably tell anyone else that the methods we don't find suitable should also apply to them.
 
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Tintin

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Sorry, yes. I shouldn't suggest that it couldn't be a valid of option for some people but it's just not an option for me.
 
Markum1972

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Tintin said:
Sorry, yes. I shouldn't suggest that it couldn't be a valid of option for some people but it's just not an option for me.
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Not to go off topic, but I noticed you were away from the Singles Chat forum for a bit. Nice to see you back. :)
 
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Tintin

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I was? True. Thanks, good to see you too. I need something a bit more friendly when the Bible Discussion forum gets heated (which is rather often of late).
 
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