How important are looks?

[Yeraza_Bats]

I would agree with anyone who said "it depends on the person", as everyone is different and we are not all focused on the same thing.

Personally, I both care and dont care about looks. I dont care about things like uhhh... physical stuff I guess : p That kind of attraction is not important to me. BUT, I do care about how a person presents themselves.

Like, how do they dress and what do they wear? Do they take care of themselves? For me, I dont like wearing fancy clothing, or clothing that exposes the body, or fancy jewelry or makeup or junk like that. So yeah Im judgmental when it comes to that and the possibility of dating. I think they way a person presents themselves says alot about who they are as a person, as they are intentionally reflecting themselves by the way present them self : p

Lets say I was judging a potential partner by her looks, the things that I would focus on would be how she presents herself, what she wears and how she takes care of herself in that manner. As for the physical stuff though, no. Im not worried about such things, and I also keep in mind that one day were all gonna grow old, our hair will thin out and our skin will wrinkle, so these things are meaningless to me anyway : p

So uhhhh both important and not important : p

 

[BrokenSparrow]

I'll be honest and say that looks are somewhat important to me. I feel like I need to be somewhat attracted to someone. But I have noticed how looks can change when getting to know someone. I have met people who seemed so attractive at first, but as I got to know them and their personality then their looks changed and they become totally unattractive. I've also met people who weren't really that attractive to me at first, but when I got to know them they became attractive because they had a good personality and good traits.

So I always try and give people a chance and don't just go off my first instinct or first impression of people.

 

[JesusLives]

Having met my husband on this site I have to say that I fell in love with his personality way before I had any idea what he looked like. He was funny, pretty reasonable with his responses to people as in not so judgmental, sounded like we liked some of the same things and by the time we met face to face it didn't matter what he looked like to me as I was already in love with him.

Our second anniversary is right around the corner on the 27th of this month and I am as happy today as the day we met, however, it's more fun and I am more in love with him now than then because we have gotten to know each other more and have shared experiences now.

It is so much fun being married to your best friend.

 

[Elizabeth619]

Hopefully, in the high single digits. Personally, from what I have observed I would say close to 80% of the members of this site are who they present themselves to be. It may even be higher. If I believed that percentage of honest people were in the single digits I would no longer be a member of this site as it would be a waste of my valuable time.

Not saying some aren't honest. I am. Unfortunately I've run into many who aren't who they say they are. Some I ignore. Others I'll bring attention to those who run the site. At the same time I don't talk in pm with people on her anymore and don't enter the chat room so I don't worry about who they are. Some members here are Facebook friends and seem to be who they say they are. I'm also a pretty big supporter of being discrete at the same time. Even on a religious site one cannot be too safe

 

[Elizabeth619]

I'd be willing to bet that it's higher than single digits, but not much higher if you were using absolute honesty as the measuring post since by nature most people are going exaggerate their good qualities and minimize (or outright overlook) their bad qualities. I'm not implying that the majority of users here are bold faced liars, just that we all are human and that humans are not very capable of being objective in self appraisal.

You know me better than most here, and I agree that many exaggerate their good qualities. One big reason I don't go to chat and get on webcam anymore.... my negative qualities showed through. And the southern accent. The annoying southern accent.

 

[AuntieAnt]

I know for a fact that Miss Melita is a beautiful, honest and genuine friend because she's now engaged to my son. ♡ And I can name at least 20 CC members who are my genuine friends, because they share their friendship with me apart from this site.

I imagine most of you on CC can vouch for lots of other folks here who are your genuine friends. Praise God for friends!

 

[seoulsearch]

You know me better than most here, and I agree that many exaggerate their good qualities. One big reason I don't go to chat and get on webcam anymore.... my negative qualities showed through. And the southern accent. The annoying southern accent.

But... but... Southern accents are beautiful!!!! I can never get enough of them.

I once went to a church (in the north) and the pastor's wife had worked diligently to erase her accent (she was from Alabama.)

It was such a tragedy. The only time it came out was when she used phrases like, "All right, now I'm gettin' in your Kool Aid, girl!"

I've often found accents to be even more fetching than looks!

 

[Fenner]

You know me better than most here, and I agree that many exaggerate their good qualities. One big reason I don't go to chat and get on webcam anymore.... my negative qualities showed through. And the southern accent. The annoying southern accent.

When I was in chat more often I always enjoyed what you had to say. I like it when people seem to be real and honest, it's a good thing.

 

[Fenner]

But... but... Southern accents are beautiful!!!! I can never get enough of them.

I once went to a church (in the north) and the pastor's wife had worked diligently to erase her accent (she was from Alabama.)

It was such a tragedy. The only time it came out was when she used phrases like, "All right, now I'm gettin' in your Kool Aid, girl!"

I've often found accents to be even more fetching than looks!

That's how I am with a British accent, I swoon, actually most European accents make me weak in the knees. Please don't tell my husband that.

 

[Elizabeth619]

When I was in chat more often I always enjoyed what you had to say. I like it when people seem to be real and honest, it's a good thing.

There was one day when i demonstrated how to use a netti pot. On webcam. That was an unforgettable moment in the Bible study chat that day.

 

[Fenner]

There was one day when i demonstrated how to use a netti pot. On webcam. That was an unforgettable moment in the Bible study chat that day.

Hey at least you weren't demonstrating an enema. Lol

 

[zeroturbulence]

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[Nautilus]

Um if given the choice of someone I'm attracted to physically or not assumin all othe r things are equal? Definitely taking he pretty one,

 

[missy2014]

im not sure why looks would be important only for my future husband imo its a blessing but thats it looks are not neccesary

 

[Fenner]

I think most of us are drawn to someone we find attractive but if their personality is dullsville or you don't mesh then at least it was this way for me, the attraction doesn't last long.


To the original poster, most women are drawn to smart and funny. When I was dating smart and funny got my attention. If I was talking to someone and we could have a good discussion about an issue or book and we could laugh together and be comfortable around one another that was very attractive to me. Looks don't last forever, even Jon Hamm would become unattractive to me if he just sat there and looked pretty.

 

[missy2014]

With saying that its not vainity to do modeling IF your heart is right about it as a Christian apparently there's ways of modeling without being anoxeric i think certain magazines even i forget and anyway its a personal choice not to compromise. I highly respect a lady on here she wasn't afraid to say she has modeled and ive wanted to model for ages but there's money and complications God said I could do it so I'm not gonna accept judgement or hatred whatever for that if you're envious and hate yourself that's your problem not mine our value is in God not our appearance and don't hold back Christian models . its like a christian can be a singer they're not vain if God trusts them . If I and a few others do end up modeling pray for us OK? Its not easy has alot of challenges and never do it if God says you not meant to. I'm fat at the mo as a side of humour so I could prob only go plus size modeling nah .. J/k

 

[Lynx]

You know me better than most here, and I agree that many exaggerate their good qualities. One big reason I don't go to chat and get on webcam anymore.... my negative qualities showed through. And the southern accent. The annoying southern accent.

Whoa there, hold on! Ain't nothin' wrong with a suthern aksint.

Though everybody mentions it when I talk in chat, as though it is a major surprise or something... Yeah I can see how you would be a bit self conscious about it. And that's why I don't talk a lot in chat any more. >.>

Move down here to Tennessee. We all talk like that so nobody makes a big deal over it.

 

[PinkDiamond]

Whoa there, hold on! Ain't nothin' wrong with a suthern aksint.

Though everybody mentions it when I talk in chat, as though it is a major surprise or something... Yeah I can see how you would be a bit self conscious about it. And that's why I don't talk a lot in chat any more. >.>

Move down here to Tennessee. We all talk like that so nobody makes a big deal over it.

We all have an accent regardless of where we live. Some accents are just a bit more pronounced. I think the southern drawl is very nice. I've enjoyed listening to people talk when I've visited NC or KY.

 

[Sillychick723]

I agree Ugly. Sometimes people use that snapchat thing and that can make someone look like a different person. Luckily, some of us are honest about how we look. You know what's more important than looks? A guy who writes you poetry on the spot. I'm a sucker for a guy who's a writer at heart. Especially, a romantic one.

 

[Lenardzw]

There was one day when i demonstrated how to use a netti pot. On webcam. That was an unforgettable moment in the Bible study chat that day.

Good grief! I had to google netti pot!