Hopefully, in the high single digits. Personally, from what I have observed I would say close to 80% of the members of this site are who they present themselves to be. It may even be higher. If I believed that percentage of honest people were in the single digits I would no longer be a member of this site as it would be a waste of my valuable time.
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I believe most people on this site wouldn't intentionally try to deceive others. It seems the majority of CC members honestly want to be accepted for who they are, because they share both their strengths and their weaknesses.
And even if there are folks who don't share negative aspects about themselves, it doesn't mean they're dishonest. They may be in a hurting place and aren't ready to open themselves up to everyone. And some people are introverted and don't feel comfortable sharing themselves with the entire world wide web.
And even if there are folks who don't share negative aspects about themselves, it doesn't mean they're dishonest. They may be in a hurting place and aren't ready to open themselves up to everyone. And some people are introverted and don't feel comfortable sharing themselves with the entire world wide web.
Looks are extremely important. Especially how a person looks around the eyes and mouth. The face is a good indicator of what a person thinks, and over time what a person is usually thinking gets etched into the face permanently.
I always look at the face of a new acquaintance for a cue to what the person is like. I don't let that first impression determine how I treat the person, but I do note the visible indicators. And so far my first impression has always been correct. Even politicians over time get a permanent fake smile etched on their faces, which is very different from a real smile and a good indicator that you can't trust them any farther than you could throw a truck.
So yeah, looks are very important.
I always look at the face of a new acquaintance for a cue to what the person is like. I don't let that first impression determine how I treat the person, but I do note the visible indicators. And so far my first impression has always been correct. Even politicians over time get a permanent fake smile etched on their faces, which is very different from a real smile and a good indicator that you can't trust them any farther than you could throw a truck.
So yeah, looks are very important.
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This is an impossible question because it's so subjective. To some it's highly important, others it's not very important and the rest fall somewhere in between.
As far as trusting pics you should assume that the pic provided is an 'ideal' pic. It may be the real person but the camera angle alone can make a woman look quite different. So it's often safe to assume that the picture presented looks better than they would in person.
As far as trusting pics you should assume that the pic provided is an 'ideal' pic. It may be the real person but the camera angle alone can make a woman look quite different. So it's often safe to assume that the picture presented looks better than they would in person.
Online dating can be a good thing depending on the person. me personally I would never do an online dating site so many people put fake images of themselves on there they find a bulky guy who looks like he has it going on and post that as their pic then when you meet they don't look anything like that. I simply don't trust online dating sites not that need to do online dating but when I was single I stayed far far away from those things.
Looks are very unimportant a person can be good looking but their heart can dark and honestly if there is no real love in the relationship then what is the point? I look to the heart not the body
Looks are very unimportant a person can be good looking but their heart can dark and honestly if there is no real love in the relationship then what is the point? I look to the heart not the body
Hate to say it but a good majority of people, looks are everything. If personality mattered I'd have a girlfriend by now. No most girls (At least the attractive ones) care about looks. As for me, I'm in a sticky situation. I care about looks but I'm not much to look at myself. Maybe thats what I get for being shallow...actually forget all that. If your not me, you have a good chance of finding someone. I also have a bad habit of turning a conversation on myself, but I promise I don't have an ego.
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I think online dating is okay if a person uses wisdom and common sense. If you agree to meet with the person that you have interacted with online in a public place early on, you avoid building this fantasy of a dream person that may or may not actually exist. You really aren't going to have your heart broken if you meet up with someone casually after a few exchanges of emails/ texts. People get crushed because they wait too long to meet in person and develop feelings and hope for the person. Also, sometimes a person doesn't misrepresent themselves but there is just no chemistry when you are together in person. Early meet ups are best to avoid being deceived or led on.
As far as looks are concerned, I think looks are relative. Everyone has different likes or physical preferences.
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They're important and I don't buy anyone saying they aren't, because I can't imagine someone being with someone they aren't physically attracted to. That makes no sense to me lol. But like others have said, that's the initial attraction.. hopefully their character/personality match.
I don't do online dating, but the reality is that most people are going to give you the best possible versions of themselves; not just in their pic(great angle, lighting, etc.), but also in their personality. That doesn't mean they're "fake" and it doesn't mean that they're doing anything wrong, it just means that everyone wants to make a good first impression. Just like in real life, it takes time to get to know someone.
I don't do online dating, but the reality is that most people are going to give you the best possible versions of themselves; not just in their pic(great angle, lighting, etc.), but also in their personality. That doesn't mean they're "fake" and it doesn't mean that they're doing anything wrong, it just means that everyone wants to make a good first impression. Just like in real life, it takes time to get to know someone.
That awkward moment when this site doesn't classify itself as online dating, yet folks still met and fell for others on said site. Didn't you meet someone here? It classifies as online dating because you met online. Just because CC doesn't advertise as online dating, that doesn't change the situation. It's not a bad thing. I just find it odd you don't trust dating sites, yet essentially found someone online (even if it wasn't intentional).
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It's baffling to me seeing people say how looks are extremely important (even if it's just initially) when God says to look at a person's heart. True you can't see a personality trait. But we shouldn't let our eyes dictate who we approach. It shouldn't be hard to look at everyone as the same. God does. He created everyone. Yet too many folks don't, and it's sad.
I have to add that even though I beleive looks are important, I also believe that everyone is attractive to somebody out there... Sometimes it takes a little knowing for that person's looks to grow on you. I've been attracted to some women that I didn't think I could be attracted to but became attracted to once I got to know them a little.. (true story!)
i'm happily married now for almost two decades, so this isn't really my forum --
-- but i decided a long while ago, before i met my wife, that the better tactic for 'dating' was not to go all over the place 'pursuing' a mate, but instead, because what i figured was ideal was to find a woman who shared the same interests as me ((at least in part)), the best thing to do was to just go on pursuing the things that i liked to do, and was interested in, and that naturally the type of woman that would be best for me would be in some of those same places, doing the same things.
for example, even though i am certain that the Bible doesn't condemn alcohol outright, i don't like bars and nightclubs -- why should i look there for a woman who doesn't like nightclubs either?
this was before online dating sites. it was generally before "online" at all.
"OK but what's that got to do with looks, post??"
well -- looks aren't nothing, but they're certainly not everything. and one day, not actually very many years from now, those looks will be gone. a happy relationship isn't built on what your mate looks like -- it's built on loving each other, and loving the same things as your mate does. i think that it ought to be obvious that you are going to have issues later on if you are with a person that you can't stand to look at, or if virtually every other person who walks by turns your head, but it seems to me to be even more tragic to see people aging who are doing everything they can to disguise the fact, and i always wonder how much of that is based on not only their own vanity, but on some perception that the main thing their husband or wife sees in them is how pretty or handsome they once were.
you've got to move past that.
God made us creatures who appreciate beauty. we shouldn't deny that. but He also made us a people able to see beauty in more than just skin and hair: and that is far more important and satisfying. most importantly, beauty that is beneath the skin is something that will last.
try to imagine the pictures you see aged 30 years.
remember that you are looking for someone to grow old with and eventually die beside.
-- but i decided a long while ago, before i met my wife, that the better tactic for 'dating' was not to go all over the place 'pursuing' a mate, but instead, because what i figured was ideal was to find a woman who shared the same interests as me ((at least in part)), the best thing to do was to just go on pursuing the things that i liked to do, and was interested in, and that naturally the type of woman that would be best for me would be in some of those same places, doing the same things.
for example, even though i am certain that the Bible doesn't condemn alcohol outright, i don't like bars and nightclubs -- why should i look there for a woman who doesn't like nightclubs either?
this was before online dating sites. it was generally before "online" at all.
"OK but what's that got to do with looks, post??"
well -- looks aren't nothing, but they're certainly not everything. and one day, not actually very many years from now, those looks will be gone. a happy relationship isn't built on what your mate looks like -- it's built on loving each other, and loving the same things as your mate does. i think that it ought to be obvious that you are going to have issues later on if you are with a person that you can't stand to look at, or if virtually every other person who walks by turns your head, but it seems to me to be even more tragic to see people aging who are doing everything they can to disguise the fact, and i always wonder how much of that is based on not only their own vanity, but on some perception that the main thing their husband or wife sees in them is how pretty or handsome they once were.
you've got to move past that.
God made us creatures who appreciate beauty. we shouldn't deny that. but He also made us a people able to see beauty in more than just skin and hair: and that is far more important and satisfying. most importantly, beauty that is beneath the skin is something that will last.
try to imagine the pictures you see aged 30 years.
remember that you are looking for someone to grow old with and eventually die beside.
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I'd be willing to bet that it's higher than single digits, but not much higher if you were using absolute honesty as the measuring post since by nature most people are going exaggerate their good qualities and minimize (or outright overlook) their bad qualities. I'm not implying that the majority of users here are bold faced liars, just that we all are human and that humans are not very capable of being objective in self appraisal.