How Long Until Proposal?
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Not a fun situation :/ can I ask without being rude... if you didn't wanna marry her, why did yall date for 2 years ?I'm asking sincerely and not to be a smart butt. And if ya don't wanna answer I won't be offended 
The unfortunate result, I will not make that mistake again.
It's already been said, but it depends on the people. For me personally, I would want to wait at least six months. Even then you're still getting to know someone. My cousin has been seeing the same guy for a few years. Got engaged on April 1 last year. Getting married this Veterans day. Another coupe has been seeing each other for 5-6, and they're not engaged. So it really depends on the people. I will say, though, I never understood how people can just get engaged a few weeks in. I mean congrats for being married 20, 30, and 40 years later. But research shows those who just go with it practicaply after the first day , their marriages generally don't last. I also don't understand how Christians say things like "I saw him/her for the first time and just knew." You don't just know because people change. I also don't in that because Christians generally say "he's/she's the one" and then all of a sudden is saying the same thing about a new person. We tend to be leading and wanting to be in control. All in all, I guess maybe you can say I'm a bit skeptical and need God to do a lot of mending. But then again the Bible says not everyone is to be married.
i will say the first guy i dated, i thought i was going to marry. we dated for 4.5 yrs. during that last year, i asked them when we were gonna get engaged, and he replied with "i don't know." that should have been my first sign lol. later that year, he told me he felt bad for making me wait (on him) to propose, so it would be best to break up.
i.felt.ripped.off.
i honestly felt he wasted almost 5 yrs of my life. although i will say i learned a lot about myself and the opposite sex. i'm GLAD he and i didn't marry because we both had issues we were overlooking.
i.felt.ripped.off.
i honestly felt he wasted almost 5 yrs of my life. although i will say i learned a lot about myself and the opposite sex. i'm GLAD he and i didn't marry because we both had issues we were overlooking.
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Wife #1 - The Crazy Russian (tm)
We dated for about a year and a half. Neither of us really wanted to get married because we were perfectly happy with our situation, but we were both pressured by our families, so we married. Things went to pot after that.
Wife #2 - The Rebound Gone Awry (tm)
I have no excuse for this one. I don't know why I married her. Heck, I don't know why I dated her. She was totally wrong for me in every way. She was a mistake I had to make to figure out once and for all I am supposed to be single.
We dated for about a year and a half. Neither of us really wanted to get married because we were perfectly happy with our situation, but we were both pressured by our families, so we married. Things went to pot after that.
Wife #2 - The Rebound Gone Awry (tm)
I have no excuse for this one. I don't know why I married her. Heck, I don't know why I dated her. She was totally wrong for me in every way. She was a mistake I had to make to figure out once and for all I am supposed to be single.
If I were dating a guy I would say get engaged about 2 years. Me and my boyfriend just broke up over the weekend. We been together for 2 years. He broke up with me because I have a mild learning disability that I was born with and he couldn't handle it and he told me that I'm not a good enough Christian for him because I don't read the bible or do devotionals everyday.
As a purely hypothetical answer to the original question, I'd prefer to know the guy for a while (a year minimum), but I imagine that once I decided I was willing to let him close enough to date, marriage wouldn't need to be that far off. Just a matter of seeing if we could iron out all those differences and practicalities.
That's horrible. I wonder if Jesus' disciples would have been good enough Christians for him. Some of them were likely illiterate or barely literate, bet they weren't reading scriptures everyday either (might have had huge chunks memorized, but that's another issue). Needs to be said more often, not loving to read is not the same thing as not loving God.
That's horrible. I wonder if Jesus' disciples would have been good enough Christians for him. Some of them were likely illiterate or barely literate, bet they weren't reading scriptures everyday either (might have had huge chunks memorized, but that's another issue). Needs to be said more often, not loving to read is not the same thing as not loving God.
