How Long Until Proposal?

[JonahLynx]

One of my friends recently proposed to his girlfriend after dating for roughly 3 months and she said yes. That seems insanely quick to me but maybe I'm out of the loop? After how long would you say it is appropriate in general?

 

[notsure]

i married my hubby 3 months after meeting him and we've been together almost 16 years now and have 3 kids. I dont think there is an appropriate time just when the people know its right.

 

[Fenner]

One of my friends recently proposed to his girlfriend after dating for roughly 3 months and she said yes. That seems insanely quick to me but maybe I'm out of the loop? After how long would you say it is appropriate in general?

I think I hated dated my Husband for 6 months when he asked me to marry him. We got married about a year and a half later, we've been married for 17 year's. I guess it depends on the couple.

 

[tourist]

Probably about 2 months. If you don't know the person by then you probably never will. Never date someone that you would not consider marrying. You either know what you want or you don't. Being tentative can destroy a relationship.

 

[JonahLynx]

Thanks for the responses. I made a poll so it's easier to keep track. And I'm also curious if the opinions are different for people who prefer the single life. (If you're married and want to vote then pick the first set por favor).

 

[Fenner]

I think I hated dated my Husband for 6 months when he asked me to marry him. We got married about a year and a half later, we've been married for 17 year's. I guess it depends on the couple.

I have no idea how the word hated got in there.

 

[Ugly]

My last gf wanted to get married fast, but she knew i wouldn't propose before a year of dating, even though i knew i wanted to marry her. But she understood my reasons and was glad i was not rushing. Despite spending months of talk about how she wanted to get married, she dumped me. Now where would we be if i had rushed into marriage, then she had the same reasons later?
Fenner and notsure are the exceptions, not the rule. Most people who rush into marriage end up unhappily married or divorced. And this whole 'people just know' thing sounds good, but everyone 'knows', even though most of those that 'know' end up never getting married, getting dumped or divorced.

 

[JosephsDreams]

While there are always exceptions, it takes about 2 plus years to really get to know someone.

 

[Lynx]

For some reason I'm reminded of a Steven Curtis Chapman song...

"Jimmy and Mary were quite the pair
Back in their younger days
They met and married in six weeks' time
And that was sixty years ago this May"

For me, I have no idea. I'd have to meet her and know her long enough to know that I know her. And probably get a second opinion from some people I know who can tell a lot about people.

 

[Lynx]

I can't vote because my vote isn't up there.

"It all depends."

 

[Dino246]

I proposed after three months, and married within nine. That was twenty years ago. The divorce was finalized earlier this year. I'll be in no hurry next time.

 

[GandalfTheWhite]

Met my wife. 4 months later we were married. Now 9 years ago.

 

[tourist]

Met my wife. 4 months later we were married. Now 9 years ago.

Same with me. Once I knew what I had I went for it.

 

[BruceWayne]

I would probably say that ideally it would be 2 years, but it also depends on how well I knew them before we started dating, as that would expedite the process. I couldn't feel like I really knew someone after only a couple of months. Definitely not well enough to give that type of commitment.

 

[GandalfTheWhite]

I would probably say that ideally it would be 2 years, but it also depends on how well I knew them before we started dating, as that would expedite the process. I couldn't feel like I really knew someone after only a couple of months. Definitely not well enough to give that type of commitment.

my friend if "the one" crosses your path it might be different

 

[GandalfTheWhite]

I proposed after three months, and married within nine. That was twenty years ago. The divorce was finalized earlier this year. I'll be in no hurry next time.

If you have dated her for longer do you think you wouldn't have married her? (Just curious)

 

[GandalfTheWhite]

My last gf wanted to get married fast, but she knew i wouldn't propose before a year of dating, even though i knew i wanted to marry her. But she understood my reasons and was glad i was not rushing. Despite spending months of talk about how she wanted to get married, she dumped me. Now where would we be if i had rushed into marriage, then she had the same reasons later?
Fenner and notsure are the exceptions, not the rule. Most people who rush into marriage end up unhappily married or divorced. And this whole 'people just know' thing sounds good, but everyone 'knows', even though most of those that 'know' end up never getting married, getting dumped or divorced.

This is such a sad story. Love is suppose to be exciting and beautiful.

 

[BruceWayne]

my friend if "the one" crosses your path it might be different

haha I still wouldn't do it even if she was that thing you put in between inverted commas. It sometimes take a bit of time to see people's true colors.

 

[Tintin]

My last gf wanted to get married fast, but she knew i wouldn't propose before a year of dating, even though i knew i wanted to marry her. But she understood my reasons and was glad i was not rushing. Despite spending months of talk about how she wanted to get married, she dumped me. Now where would we be if i had rushed into marriage, then she had the same reasons later?
Fenner and notsure are the exceptions, not the rule. Most people who rush into marriage end up unhappily married or divorced. And this whole 'people just know' thing sounds good, but everyone 'knows', even though most of those that 'know' end up never getting married, getting dumped or divorced.

Same here, brother. I don't understand. I feel for you, I really do.

 

[Tintin]

I put between one and two years. But it's going to take some time for me to trust women again (in a romantic sense).