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When you're chatting, how many conversations do you have all at once?
I try to approach my behaviour online as I do in real life, to keep some consistency.
When I first came here I'd get a PM and start talking to someone and their response would seem to take 2-3 minutes, I chalked it up to the normal stuttering nature of most first conversations.
But the longer I've been here the more I realise that it's actually because people tend towards having multiple PM's on the go whilst also continuing to follow and join the discussion in the main room.
I know the internet is unique, but you'd never do that in real life, and it's not because you couldn't, it's because it's incredibly rude, and you desire undivided attention from the person you are speaking with and so you give it in return.
I find it hard to understand when it's all about fellowship, how can you dig deeper with someone if your dividing your time and attention to several people all at once, does it lead to genuinely enjoyable chatting, or is inane small talk with multiple people simultaneously just far more satisfying than I think?
I ask because no matter how hard I try I can't seem to get involved in the chat rooms, and part of it is me, I'm not so comfortable there I admit, but it's hard enough without feeling like it's a war just to get someone's full attention.
Are the social butterflies here just eager to get to the next new person? or am I just a pariah>
Anyone else encounter this?
I try to approach my behaviour online as I do in real life, to keep some consistency.
When I first came here I'd get a PM and start talking to someone and their response would seem to take 2-3 minutes, I chalked it up to the normal stuttering nature of most first conversations.
But the longer I've been here the more I realise that it's actually because people tend towards having multiple PM's on the go whilst also continuing to follow and join the discussion in the main room.
I know the internet is unique, but you'd never do that in real life, and it's not because you couldn't, it's because it's incredibly rude, and you desire undivided attention from the person you are speaking with and so you give it in return.
I find it hard to understand when it's all about fellowship, how can you dig deeper with someone if your dividing your time and attention to several people all at once, does it lead to genuinely enjoyable chatting, or is inane small talk with multiple people simultaneously just far more satisfying than I think?
I ask because no matter how hard I try I can't seem to get involved in the chat rooms, and part of it is me, I'm not so comfortable there I admit, but it's hard enough without feeling like it's a war just to get someone's full attention.
Are the social butterflies here just eager to get to the next new person? or am I just a pariah>
Anyone else encounter this?