I am only looking for girls that are virgins as potential for someone to marry.

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Desdichado

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Well then, it's still more possible, but I would actively pursue that now if it's your end all to be all. The clock is ticking and virgins in your age range are disappearing at the same clip as World War II vets.

So it's really more of a dodo hunt than a unicorn hunt.
 

BruceWayne

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I still call women girls. It's just natural to me. and when I say I'm looking for a girl I do mean 18+.

Actually, I'm looking for someone around 18-30. Remember that I'm actually 28.
Don't worry, man. I still call pretty much any woman under 40 a girl. Idk what the big deal is; I knew what you meant lol.
 
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Aw, you edited your OP and now my first comment doesn't make any sense. :p

Seriously though, you do what you feel is right. No, there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a virgin for a wife and sticking to those standards. I do feel that at your age, this limits your choices drastically. I also feel that when choosing a mate, their virginity is not even a percentage as important as their character, spiritual life or compatibility with you.

She will only be a virgin until your wedding night. After that it isn't going to matter at all. So this would not be my criteria for choosing a spouse.

I understand there's more to it than that, for you. However... later when you look back on it, you might find that it wasn't as important as you felt it was at this moment. But in the end, of course it's fine for you to want a virgin for your wife.
 
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Well, you aren't a virgin, are you? Yes, the computer sex counts.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Good.

I wonder though, if you meet a woman you like, how do you intend to find out if she is a virgin?
I'd get quite offended if a man asked me that
(there are plenty of non- virgin men who want a virgin because it makes them feel manly, and the woman you meet cannot know whether you are really a virgin)
 

Yeraza_Bats

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Waiting until marriage is a wonderful thing. But, you have acknowledged that you have done things you are ashamed of. And thats great. But do you really think its fair to expect the woman you get with to be perfect when you yourself are not? Maybe you shouldnt focus on her past and focus more on who she is now. We have all fallen to sin, and being a virgin wont make a woman a "better wife".

Is my two cents anyway.
 

Fenner

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I don't think it's unrealistic that he would find a Virgin at his age or the age group he's looking for. If he's involved with a church and meets like minded people his chances are good. There are also people who are virgin's well into their 30's. It's not impossible.

You can edit your profile and change your age.
 
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Waiting until marriage is a wonderful thing. But, you have acknowledged that you have done things you are ashamed of. And thats great. But do you really think its fair to expect the woman you get with to be perfect when you yourself are not? Maybe you shouldnt focus on her past and focus more on who she is now. We have all fallen to sin, and being a virgin wont make a woman a "better wife".

Is my two cents anyway.
More than that, he might consider focusing on himself.
 

blue_ladybug

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I still call women girls. It's just natural to me. and when I say I'm looking for a girl I do mean 18+.

Actually, I'm looking for someone around 18-30. Remember that I'm actually 28.

Lemme get this straight. You create a thread asking if girls would give you a chance even though you have a porn addiction. You put your age as 38, even though you're actually 28, and now all of a sudden you want an 18- plus year old virgin? If a grown woman won't give you a chance, what makes you think an 18 year old CHILD would? Not to mention I find it creepy that you're 28 and want an 18 year old child as your gf.. JMO
 

seoulsearch

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A long time ago, we had a male poster here in Singles who was extremely adamant about marrying ONLY a virgin someday. It didn't matter to him if she had been abused, he wanted ONLY a "true", untouched virgin.

After some pressing, he later admitted that his biggest reason for this was his own insecurity--he was afraid of being compared to ANY of the partners a woman may have had before him--and not measuring up or being as "good" as anyone else, whether in size, skill, or both.

I'm not saying this applies to the OP or anyone else who demands only pure, snow-white virgins as potential...

But it always reminds me of that very honest answer from that former male poster.
 
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After some pressing, he later admitted that his biggest reason for this was his own insecurity--he was afraid of being compared to ANY of the partners a woman may have had before him--and not measuring up or as "good" as anyone else, whether in size, skill, or both.
That's pretty much my reason too. Though I'm not really the being compared part(I'm willing to take the time to learn) that bugs me. It's just the fact that another guy has been in there. It's more of a problem with the guy than the girl.
 

Nice_Lady

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I think that if a man s heart is corrupt (without fear of the Lord) and he allows himself to look at a woman with sexual desire, that is for me the same as to kiss her or whatever other touch (using human body parts) can be described for between humans. So surely u r not virgin in Jesus eyes too, my friend.
 

Desdichado

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Lemme get this straight. You create a thread asking if girls would give you a chance even though you have a porn addiction. You put your age as 38, even though you're actually 28, and now all of a sudden you want an 18- plus year old virgin? If a grown woman won't give you a chance, what makes you think an 18 year old CHILD would? Not to mention I find it creepy that you're 28 and want an 18 year old child as your gf.. JMO
10 years isn't that much of a difference in this realm. I have family members who have had successful marriages with that age difference.

The rest of the situation seems cockeyed. That I'll grant you.
 
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kaylagrl

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That's pretty much my reason too. Though I'm not really the being compared part(I'm willing to take the time to learn) that bugs me. It's just the fact that another guy has been in there. It's more of a problem with the guy than the girl.
I think you're not really in a position to point fingers over others failings with your admission in the other thread. You want mercy for your failings but have none for a potential girlfriend? How is that fair?
 
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I don't think it's unrealistic that he would find a Virgin at his age or the age group he's looking for. If he's involved with a church and meets like minded people his chances are good. There are also people who are virgin's well into their 30's. It's not impossible.

You can edit your profile and change your age.
You can't edit your age. No reason for people to be able to edit their age at will.


A mod needs to do it and it Should be done soon as it can be considered bannable.
 
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That's pretty much my reason too. Though I'm not really the being compared part(I'm willing to take the time to learn) that bugs me. It's just the fact that another guy has been in there. It's more of a problem with the guy than the girl.
"In there"? Even at 71, I'd be willing to bet I could kick your butt from here to tomorrow if you said something like that in front of my wife. What was the necessity of that?
 

Desdichado

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I think you're not really in a position to point fingers over others failings with your admission in the other thread. You want mercy for your failings but have none for a potential girlfriend? How is that fair?
All's fair in love and war!

Couldn't resist...
 

Desdichado

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"In there"? Even at 71, I'd be willing to bet I could kick your butt from here to tomorrow if you said something like that in front of my wife. What was the necessity of that?
My troll detector is going off.
 
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kaylagrl

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All's fair in love and war!

Couldn't resist...
Apparently not! Me,I can fail,you better be perfect! Relationship is going down in flames before he even gets started.