Is It True That Singles Have More Money?

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It is just me, or does it all seem... rather overwhelming at times?

I mean, not only do we have to find someone we're supposedly attracted to and they're attracted to us, but then you have to find someone who has similar views on:

* faith and how to express it
* doctrine (Does an argument break out every time "Speaking in tongues" is mentioned?)
* family, how many children to have, and how to raise them
* where to live, and how (Renting vs. owning? Country vs. city? Staying in one place forever or moving from here to there?)
* finances and how to handle them

And then, of course, there's "minor" things like diet, fitness, lifestyle, pets, "other" family values (how many times is the mother-in-law on either side allowed to drop by unannounced)... etc. etc. etc.

Talk about... finding a needle in a haystack? I know everything is possible with God. But... every time I wander into the Family Forum, I think about the reality that there seems to be a lot more misses than hits (Are people misinterpreting what God wants for them or do many of us just have a knack for choosing the wrong person?)

All so so very true but when God brings two people together and you get to observe what true biblical intimacy looks like.....it literally takes your breath away as there are no words. I have seen it in a few wonderful Godly unions.
 

Lynx

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It is just me, or does it all seem... rather overwhelming at times?

I mean, not only do we have to find someone we're supposedly attracted to and they're attracted to us, but then you have to find someone who has similar views on:

* faith and how to express it
* doctrine (Does an argument break out every time "Speaking in tongues" is mentioned?)
* family, how many children to have, and how to raise them
* where to live, and how (Renting vs. owning? Country vs. city? Staying in one place forever or moving from here to there?)
* finances and how to handle them

And then, of course, there's "minor" things like diet, fitness, lifestyle, pets, "other" family values (how many times is the mother-in-law on either side allowed to drop by unannounced)... etc. etc. etc.

Talk about... finding a needle in a haystack? I know everything is possible with God. But... every time I wander into the Family Forum, I think about the reality that there seems to be a lot more misses than hits (Are people misinterpreting what God wants for them or do many of us just have a knack for choosing the wrong person?)
It's a loooooooooooot more simple when you're not looking. =^.^=

If I happen to find her, great! But I find it's a lot less stressful to go on with my life as though I will never find her.
 
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I think married couples who don't have kids probably have more money because they've got two incomes.

Married people with kids probably have a lot less money to spend than singles though.

I think singles in general are either very frugal or very spendy.
 

Lynx

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I think married couples who don't have kids probably have more money because they've got two incomes.
I thought about this comic when I first read this thread. But when you made that comment... I just HAVE to post this!

 
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Generally I think "yes they do", but I also think it depends on your income bracket as well...
I totally agree with you, jb.

Again, whether what your income bracket is, how you spend your money is very important too. Everybody have their own difficulties and needed to spend a bit more than another individual. Take for example, if a single person have some health issues and needed to constantly consult a specialist, do an MRI occasionally, get some blood tests done every few months, etc. versus a single person who earn the same amount of money but paying only for his/her meals, accommodation, bills, transportation, clothes, etc. the earlier mentioned single person may not have as much money as another person.

Hey, how many of you guys actually do come up with your own accounts to monitor how much you spend daily, monthly, etc.?
 

Mo0448

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I totally agree with you, jb.

Again, whether what your income bracket is, how you spend your money is very important too. Everybody have their own difficulties and needed to spend a bit more than another individual. Take for example, if a single person have some health issues and needed to constantly consult a specialist, do an MRI occasionally, get some blood tests done every few months, etc. versus a single person who earn the same amount of money but paying only for his/her meals, accommodation, bills, transportation, clothes, etc. the earlier mentioned single person may not have as much money as another person.

Hey, how many of you guys actually do come up with your own accounts to monitor how much you spend daily, monthly, etc.?
I have created an excel spreadsheet that I update on a weekly basis...things like expenses, how much I'm putting away, The Lord's 10%, etc. it makes things convenient easy and I can see where I am spending more money and where I can save money by cutting out the expenses...I wouldn't do life without it
 

Mo0448

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I have created an excel spreadsheet that I update on a weekly basis...things like expenses, how much I'm putting away, The Lord's 10%, etc. it makes things convenient easy and I can see where I am spending more money and where I can save money by cutting out the expenses...I wouldn't do life without it
To expand...I also set up a want vs. need for spending on certain things...sure it's nice to splurge on in a while but it's about having the self control for what I need vs what I want...examples:

- do I need a new Iphone 6? No the 4s I have is fine... on a scale 1-5 its a 1 as in I don't really need it
- dress clothes for work on a scale of 1-5 it was a 3-4 so I went out and got some
- new computer scale 1-5 it was a 4-5 so I went out and got one (spent a few months looking at the right price, specs I wanted, etc.

It's all about prioritizing and defining NEED vs WANT...always works for me
 
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Mo, you win the internet today.
I get especially excited to hear that anyone around my age keeps track of their finances on paper/spreadsheets instead of winging it
 

Mo0448

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Mo, you win the internet today.
I get especially excited to hear that anyone around my age keeps track of their finances on paper/spreadsheets instead of winging it
Lol Hello Helooo! My pops was an accountant so he taught me and my sibbles early to manage our finances well...I'm by no stretch of the imagination a scrooge (in fact I could probably save more money if I didn't go out to eat as often as I do :rolleyes: ) but it's all about keeping track of where your expenses are your savings and being in line to meet your goals based on those calculations...and there's always something there for "rainy days" or unexpected expenses :)
 
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I have created an excel spreadsheet that I update on a weekly basis...things like expenses, how much I'm putting away, The Lord's 10%, etc. it makes things convenient easy and I can see where I am spending more money and where I can save money by cutting out the expenses...I wouldn't do life without it
Well, my spreadsheet covers a whole year comprises of the following worksheets:-
1. Account Summary
2. Bank account where my salary is banked in
3. Bank account where I set aside for housing loan
4. Bank account where I set aside for furniture and fittings purchase (when my property is ready to move in)
5. Bank account where I set aside for savings and emergency
6. Credit card account monitoring my expenditure
7. Fixed deposit account where I compute the estimate of returns and the variance if I keep them in the savings
8. Daily Expenditure by the respective month

I will know how much I have at the end of each month and year. I've prepared mine up to 2019 to help myself work on my finances.
 
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Hellooo

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Mo, you win the internet today.
I get especially excited to hear that anyone around my age keeps track of their finances on paper/spreadsheets instead of winging it

also, here:

 
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Hellooo

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Lol Hello Helooo! My pops was an accountant so he taught me and my sibbles early to manage our finances well...I'm by no stretch of the imagination a scrooge (in fact I could probably save more money if I didn't go out to eat as often as I do :rolleyes: ) but it's all about keeping track of where your expenses are your savings and being in line to meet your goals based on those calculations...and there's always something there for "rainy days" or unexpected expenses :)
Unfortunately, a lot of people don't learn budgeting/investing/saving skills from home, but from experience - which can be kind of an expensive way to learn.
 
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JustViv

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That's very true, Mo and Helloo. I started to work on my own cash flow when I was about 17 years old when I earn the first salary. Mo, are you an accountant?

Budget and forecast, is very important. Doesn't matter whether you are single, married, divorced, etc. coz the wants and needs factors are still there when making financial decision.
 

Mo0448

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That's very true, Mo and Helloo. I started to work on my own cash flow when I was about 17 years old when I earn the first salary. Mo, are you an accountant?

Budget and forecast, is very important. Doesn't matter whether you are single, married, divorced, etc. coz the wants and needs factors are still there when making financial decision.
I am not an accountant I think all the numbers would drive me nuts :rolleyes:... I'm a biochemist! My dad was though and he instilled that thought process on myself and my siblings (i have an older bro an older sis and a younger sis as well).
 
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Great job, Mo! You are the finance steward of the money that God has blessed you with! :D
 
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* If you are single, how does the hope for marriage and a family impact your financial planning? (Do you save for a future ring, wedding, or family?)
Seoulsearch, excellent topic!!! It was good to read everyone's posts and experiences.

I am single. If I have a family, I think I would have my own personal savings account, as well as a joint account with my husband. I think, before we marry, my husband should pay for the rings as well as the wedding banquet. After marriage, I will contribute money to our joint accounts. The joint savings account will go towards a house, furniture, car, and emergency purposes. The joint checking account will go towards bills, gifts, grocery, tithing, and other expenses.

On a side note, I think I will discuss our beliefs on the stewardship of our finances before we date or marry.

MarvelousLight
 

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the guy i dated did not know how to keep a budget. that.was.stressful. i helped him out a couple of times paying off certain debts because.. well.. i thought we were gonna eventually get married so yeah.

totally different outcome lol i just couldn't understand how he couldn't keep up with his numbers.
 

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I think it's a common misconception singles have more money than married folks. Married folks aren't the only ones that have lives..
 
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I agree. Hi how are you:) ( it wouldn't let me just type agreed)
 
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This is also an interesting topic when we talk about God's roles of Leadership within Marriage.

* Should a man expect when he goes from being single to being married that he will pay for most everything?

* Should a woman be expected to cover at least 50% of the bills?

* Does a "traditional" marriage mean the man works and the wife stays at home?
Really? Really, Kim, you're going to throw these out there, knowing EXACTLY what's going to happen if someone takes the bait?

That's it. I'm calling you out. You're a provoker. Yup. You pot-stirrer, you! I know exactly what's going down, all the way to Chinatown, dude.

You troublemaker.