Is singleness a gift?

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Galatea

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Lynx said:
I am abnormal? I am lonely? I am depressed? I'm going to live a shorter life because I'm single?

Really?

(I can't argue with the part about having less sex - you can't get less than zero - but sex does not a life fulfill.) :rolleyes:

Galatea I get that you're single and hating it, but don't project your unhappiness on ALL singles. Some people are happy and single. Yeah, it's a real thing.

Do I not exist? I'm single, been single all my life, and I am neither lonely nor depressed. Are you saying I'm lying or are you merely claiming I'm a figment of this forum's collective imagination?
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Perhaps you are not in love and perhaps you don’t want to have sex. I would think not wanting sex is abnormal. If you ever fall in love, you will know what it means to long for someone.

I maintain that I don’t think most single people are happy. I also maintain that not desiring sex is abnormal. I am nearly as old as you, also a virgin. Virginity is a terrible burden and it gets moreso every year. I would think many old virgins feel this way and are terribly frustrated. I don’t know how you are not incredibly frustrated.
 
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Galatea said:
Perhaps you are not in love and perhaps you don’t want to have sex. I would think not wanting sex is abnormal. If you ever fall in love, you will know what it means to long for someone.

I maintain that I don’t think most single people are happy. I also maintain that not desiring sex is abnormal. I am nearly as old as you, also a virgin. Virginity is a terrible burden and it gets moreso every year. I would think many old virgins feel this way and are terribly frustrated. I don’t know how you are not incredibly frustrated.
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Well it is not abnormal and you insistence to push your ideas to others is getting a bit tiring.
 
Lynx

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Galatea said:
Perhaps you are not in love and perhaps you don’t want to have sex. I would think not wanting sex is abnormal. If you ever fall in love, you will know what it means to long for someone.

I maintain that I don’t think most single people are happy. I also maintain that not desiring sex is abnormal. I am nearly as old as you, also a virgin. Virginity is a terrible burden and it gets moreso every year. I would think many old virgins feel this way and are terribly frustrated. I don’t know how you are not incredibly frustrated.
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I understand that. But please be aware that not ALL singles are lonely, depressed and sexually frustrated. Some of us survive and even thrive as single people.

When you make blanket statements about the prevalent mental states of ALL singles, some singles who are enjoying life might take it badly. ;)
 
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joefizz

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Galatea said:
Perhaps you are not in love and perhaps you don’t want to have sex. I would think not wanting sex is abnormal. If you ever fall in love, you will know what it means to long for someone.

I maintain that I don’t think most single people are happy. I also maintain that not desiring sex is abnormal. I am nearly as old as you, also a virgin. Virginity is a terrible burden and it gets moreso every year. I would think many old virgins feel this way and are terribly frustrated. I don’t know how you are not incredibly frustrated.
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Well for one through God you can have "contentment" so it's really no surprise that single people can be happy not having a spouse or date,it's not really abnormal it's just not always heard of.
 
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claysmithr

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tourist said:
Why would you get a heavenly reward for a gift given to you by God?
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Because I would be living more for God in my singleness than with a spouse.
 
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tourist said:
What would prevent you from living for God if you were married?
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NoNameMcgee said:
But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.



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nothing would KEEP his from living for God

but things would be added to his life outside of living for God


may stumble if his son is bullied or something....
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This is true. I have found in my married life that a happy wife is a happy life. :)
 
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NoNameMcgee

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tourist said:
This is true. I have found in my married life that a happy wife is a happy life. :)
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hahaha

you caught it before i edited it

and before i deleted it...

xD
 
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Tommy379 said:
My exwife should be charged with manslaughter then.
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I feel the same way about my ex from my horrible first marriage. After the divorce I felt blessed by my singleness. That went on for 18 years and then I got lonely and felt like life was passing me by. At that point being single was more like a curse than a blessing. My daily routine consisted of work, eat, sleep. I knew there had to be more than life than that and I was determined to do something about that with God's help.
 
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Pls don't ban me mods

Galatea said:
Perhaps you are not in love and perhaps you don’t want to have sex. I would think not wanting sex is abnormal. If you ever fall in love, you will know what it means to long for someone.

I maintain that I don’t think most single people are happy. I also maintain that not desiring sex is abnormal. I am nearly as old as you, also a virgin. Virginity is a terrible burden and it gets moreso every year. I would think many old virgins feel this way and are terribly frustrated. I don’t know how you are not incredibly frustrated.
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Uhh...I have been a virgin my whole life and I find the thought of having sex really unsettling and uncomfortable...am I abnormal, then?
 
Maka

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Tommy379 said:
My exwife should be charged with manslaughter then.
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It feels wrong but this made me LOL. I’m sorry your ex wife was so awful to you, Tommy.
 
Tommy379

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Maka said:
It feels wrong but this made me LOL. I’m sorry your ex wife was so awful to you, Tommy.
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Thanks, it's ok. She was pleasant up until she left.
 
Tommy379

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WineRose said:
Uhh...I have been a virgin my whole life and I find the thought of having sex really unsettling and uncomfortable...am I abnormal, then?
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You more than likely won't always feel that way.
 
Tommy379

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tourist said:
I feel the same way about my ex from my horrible first marriage. After the divorce I felt blessed by my singleness. That went on for 18 years and then I got lonely and felt like life was passing me by. At that point being single was more like a curse than a blessing. My daily routine consisted of work, eat, sleep. I knew there had to be more than life than that and I was determined to do something about that with God's help.
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Oh no, I pray to God this don't last 18 years. I've been on 7 dates since she remarried in August, have another date tonight. I'm trying, but the women these days have issues I don't want.
 
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claysmithr

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Tommy379 said:
You ever think, "living for God" might be being married?
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Umm.. no. Why would you think that?

1 Cor 7:32-33: 32I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the work of the Lord, how he can please the Lord. 33But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, 34and his interests are divided.

I also tried it once as an unbeliever... she wouldn't stop cheating on me so I got divorced... good riddance.

However, now the divorced status makes people avoid me. *shrugs*
 
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toinena

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Galatea said:
Perhaps you are not in love and perhaps you don’t want to have sex. I would think not wanting sex is abnormal. If you ever fall in love, you will know what it means to long for someone.

I maintain that I don’t think most single people are happy. I also maintain that not desiring sex is abnormal. I am nearly as old as you, also a virgin. Virginity is a terrible burden and it gets moreso every year. I would think many old virgins feel this way and are terribly frustrated. I don’t know how you are not incredibly frustrated.
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I don't agree on this at all. Before I ever had sex and before I had a boyfriend I didn't miss sex, intimacy, I never touched myself. It was simply no need for it an no thought of it. But after I got used to being sexually active, it is very difficult not to miss it. I still do, but when I start thinking in that direction, I quickly shift focus, reminding my self who I am in Christ. i don't think it is abnormal what Lynx writes. If I had continued to live as a single and didn't give in for peer pressure, I would have been perfectly fine not having sex. I would miss a man. And I would fall in love. And be rejected. And fall in love again. Perhaps I would learn (and I have and had learned that) not to have any expectations in men, but I still would dream about having a husband. Not sexually so much, but the companionship.
 
Lynx

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Ladies and gentlemen,
I HAVE FIGURED OUT GALATEA'S MISSION!

Observation: Galatea is always talking about how being single is abnormal, lonely and depressing.

Observation: If somebody disagrees strongly enough Galatea will back-pedal, but she always comes back two or three days later with the same song.

Tentative hypothesis: Galatea is deliberately TRYING to convince single people they are miserable. If so, why?

Conclusion: Galatea is a shill for Christianmingle.com and she is here to drum up business. Her mission here is to make singles convinced they are miserable (and abnormal, don't forget we singles are so abnormal) so we will flock to matchmaking sites to find other singles and get a date or maybe get married.

Sorry Galatea, but that's the only conclusion that fits all the facts. I can't think of any other reason you would keep on and on (and on and on and on) about how abnormal and lonely and depressed we poor, miserable single people are.

Galatea if you're not a shill for Christianmingle.com then why do you keep trying to tell us we singles how bad our lives are as singles?
 
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