Ladies also be aware that so called players can hold positions of authority and power. I have seen first hand how one of these people befriended the owner of a Christian chat room and worked his way into the moderation team I was on. His antics prior to this position of authority was not great to start with, but now with immunity to kicking by other mods he flouted the rules in order to impress the females.
From a Christian appearance he walked the walk, talked the talk, if he was genuinely a believer, God only knows, but his actions and fruits said otherwise. After some time he got careless or just arrogant and let slip a few red flags in chat, with a bit of digging and investigation myself and a couple of other moderators uncovered a web of lies and deceit, we found that at least 6 women were under the impression that they were his girlfriend. One women even told us that she had him stay a couple of nights at her place, he persuaded her to have sex, when she woke up in middle of night, she found him naked in front of lap top engaging with an equally naked woman, who was also someone from the same chat room.
So, you have to guard yourself very carefully and do not fall for these people who know how to tick all the boxes for your requirements, they will tell you everything you want to hear and want to know, holding a position of fame, power and trust makes that all the easier.
It is also not just online chat rooms and forums you have to be careful, these people infiltrate churches in order to prey upon women. Use discenment and seek advice from people you trust in your church, what do they think of him, then of course also ask God.
If you keep your head screwed on properly you will not loose it. If you are hunting unicorns and one appears then its almost likely going to be a horse with a fake horn.