Ladies. Beware of male Christian players.

[flight316]

I understand and respect your warning about male christian players. Bu witht all due respect the warning should extend to christian women players as well. The advanced and experianced christian should recognize and react properly if this situation arises. I have studied this profile and have had conversation with many of these christians. Some of these people were married at one time and during that time they had a high sex drive. After years of marriage they found themselves divorced yet still highly sexually charged. Not really knowing how to make the transition married life into single life. They mingle with other christians and the saductress that they were with they're former spouses come out. Then there are some people who find themseles wanting to serve christian leadership. Offering themselves sexually trying to please that leader. And let us not forget that fleshly lust is no respector of gender. This includes the heterosexual and homosexual christian. Let us remember that christianty has many levels of growth. Many of us who have elevated in the faith tend to not understand or care about others who have not reached that higher level yet. The enemy, satan, has confused the mind of many single christians using our flesh against us. Many single christians are sexually active. The lust of the flesh is a difficult battle. Those us who have obtained wisdom and dicipline against it, let us not judge but let us try to understand the struggles of others. I say these words with love as I have been on both sides of the fence. Jesus took the thief that was on the cross to paradise with Him and as he said to the crowd who wanted to stone the prostitute, ye who is without sin let them cast the first stone.

 

[Nike]

This thread is kinda confusing to me. did anybody get hurt here or what?
honestly, it sounds bitter..

I think, girls, just seek God's face. He'll give you everything you need in His time. When you meet someone you like, pray harder. Go closer to God. He will show you whether this man is for you or not. if He gives you red light, then stop it.
Guys, just be the man God wants you to be.

God bless

 

[sanglina]

Ladies.
I need to warn you about something.
Males.
Yes Christian men.
Who are players.
They're hard to spot.
But easy to fall for.

Your idealism, and desire for Godliness, is the heartstring these deceptive players manipulate.
You'll fall for them easily, because their deception is wrapped up in packaging that can sway the heart long before your head catches on to the scam.

By then your heart may be so involved, you'll blindly ignore the truth, as you believe the scam, even though you know it's a full on scam.

These men are spiritual, scriptural, idealist smooth talkers.

They know the right spiritual words to say.
They're great with the Bible jargon.
They know how to appeal to your passions for idealism.

On the surface, they look like they're saying things of great depth and importance. You'll think you have just encountered a modern day philosopher who can speak at the deepest levels of the heart.
But underneath the candy-coated mumbo jumbo, is a black chasm of emptiness, who's only purpose is to manipulate your desire for the good, so they can use you for their very selfish desires.

Sisters in Christ, beware of these men.
Watch the strings of your heart, because these men know how to play them well.
All for their own selfish purposes.

No offense but the OP sounds a lot like my two older brothers who keep telling me the same thing about men (though in different words and in different context) since my teenage days. I personally think, offline or online, christian or non-christian, players (both male and female) are everywhere. One needs to be careful not only online but offline as well.

 

[Oncefallen]

Ladies also be aware that so called players can hold positions of authority and power. I have seen first hand how one of these people befriended the owner of a Christian chat room and worked his way into the moderation team I was on. His antics prior to this position of authority was not great to start with, but now with immunity to kicking by other mods he flouted the rules in order to impress the females.

Although I know this is not true at all chat sites, we maintain a high level of accountability among our Moderators. No one is "immune" to being banned.

*Stares at Oncefallen*

**thinks about banning JimJimmers to shift the attention

 

[meggars]

bwahaha.... I have solved the potential for this problem in my life by simply not trusting ANYbody. Look how far I've gotten! ***organizes her troll dolls by hair color according to the color wheel, sits down with a hot cup of ovaltine and 9 cats in her lap and stares at her handiwork***

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

bwahaha.... I have solved the potential for this problem in my life by simply not trusting ANYbody. Look how far I've gotten! ***organizes her troll dolls by hair color according to the color wheel, sits down with a hot cup of ovaltine and 9 cats in her lap and stares at her handiwork***

^ thats me in two years.

As for christian players. The word seems almost like an oxymoron. I have met a few on here. They think there so smooth and so cute... pffft. Im not impressed.
However good thread still waters.

 

[Descyple]

I'm the kind of Christian man your mother's warned you about!!!

Hey Ladies!!! How you doin??? Any of you want to see my autographed Zac Effron Bible cover? I will let you touch it!!!

 

[Newluke]

I'm the kind of Christian man your mother's warned you about!!!

Hey Ladies!!! How you doin??? Any of you want to see my autographed Zac Effron Bible cover? I will let you touch it!!!

... i thought it was called Queen James Bible

 

[Tintin]

Nod: However good, thread still waters.

Nod, I'm no good at Textiles.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Nod: However good, thread still waters.

Nod, I'm no good at Textiles.

Im sure your no good at a lot of things

 

[Newluke]

Im sure your no good at a lot of things

Picky girls are so popular

 

[zeroturbulence]

He might be a christian player if...

 

[Chey60]

Ladies.
I need to warn you about something.
Males.
Yes Christian men.
Who are players.
They're hard to spot.
But easy to fall for.

Your idealism, and desire for Godliness, is the heartstring these deceptive players manipulate.
You'll fall for them easily, because their deception is wrapped up in packaging that can sway the heart long before your head catches on to the scam.

By then your heart may be so involved, you'll blindly ignore the truth, as you believe the scam, even though you know it's a full on scam.

These men are spiritual, scriptural, idealist smooth talkers.

They know the right spiritual words to say.
They're great with the Bible jargon.
They know how to appeal to your passions for idealism.

On the surface, they look like they're saying things of great depth and importance. You'll think you have just encountered a modern day philosopher who can speak at the deepest levels of the heart.
But underneath the candy-coated mumbo jumbo, is a black chasm of emptiness, who's only purpose is to manipulate your desire for the good, so they can use you for their very selfish desires.

Sisters in Christ, beware of these men.
Watch the strings of your heart, because these men know how to play them well.
All for their own selfish purposes.

I totally agree.. there is another breed of christian man as well..
it's the one who hasn't ever had a true christian relationship, wants one, but sits the fence in his walk.. when it comes down to it..

 

[Chey60]

^ thats me in two years.

As for christian players. The word seems almost like an oxymoron. I have met a few on here. They think there so smooth and so cute... pffft. Im not impressed.
However good thread still waters.

it would be an oxymoron if they were really christians
here is a scripture to back up that not everyone who calls themselves christian is one
15 Beware of false prophets, who come to you dressed as sheep, but inside they are devouring wolves.
16 You will [a]fully recognize them by their fruits. Do people pick grapes from thorns, or figs from thistles?

 

[Chey60]

I understand and respect your warning about male christian players. Bu witht all due respect the warning should extend to christian women players as well.

Oh I so agree and was just about to post something to that affect..for the guys

Proverbs warns men about women..
I know it started in the garden...but that takes to long to go into

anyway.. I have been on the dating sites on and off for the past 5 years and I will say, that while for the most part there has been some really great christian men on them (just either not my age group, not my type or living too far away which is why I haven't actually dated one) many of the women who profess to be christians are VERY compromising about their values...
they will tend to try to lure men into sexual situations, dress provocatively.. even on their profiles..
they try to tempt men in order to control the situation..
They use their sexuality to gain them..which could ultimately take both of them down a bad path..

On the other hand, so many christian men on those sites are the fence sitters and actually try to go for the gorgeous atheist girl...wondering why she turns down their offers of Jesus on a stick..

Anyway its all relative but you are right!! men need to be warned just like women do..and sometimes more so

what is awful is that a woman who really lives what she believes, is respectful of men, does NOT dress immodestly in the way immodesty is defined..serves God with joy, is exuberant .attractive with a larger frame and tall .etc.. men don't want to approach her for whatever reason and they would rather take the quiet or super fit types that are not walking closely with God..

makes no sense to me

 

[Chey60]

Listen you Jackalope riding Moderator. I've had enough of your shallow pedantic point that you've been driving home for the last couple of weeks.

Yes I get it. You see scripture as some cold lifeless thing to be studied in contemplative silence rather than applied. It moves me, it inspires me but, somehow that bothers you. I don't make a very good armchair Christian. I can't just send off my tithe, mark my attendance and disappear when the service is over. Sue me for wanting to go and do likewise. Shoot me for wanting to take a few people with me.


I know that you would want to shut me up about almost everything I say because it rubs you the wrong way. But if you think for a minute that I am any different outside of here or that I am who I am for the sake of women, you are bat nuts crazy. I'm not some fairy loving dreamer who longs for fair pastures of white lace and dewy meadows to trot my Unicorn.

I want to see people get married because they actually deeply love each other. I want to see people escape the Churchianity trap that emasculates men and leads women to believe that their ideal man isn't right next to them waiting for her to see it. Christianity is not just a safe harbor for raising children in sunday school. It should be who we are and what we do with our lives.


Well said, oh not the stuff about the moderator tho the jackalope thing was funny (on my end he's hotchner but that's ok)
Glad to see a christian man wanting to truly be a christian man it's about time...wish you were 20 years older haha!

be blessed

 

[Chey60]

This thread is kinda confusing to me. did anybody get hurt here or what?
honestly, it sounds bitter..

I think, girls, just seek God's face. He'll give you everything you need in His time. When you meet someone you like, pray harder. Go closer to God. He will show you whether this man is for you or not. if He gives you red light, then stop it.
Guys, just be the man God wants you to be.

God bless

ok this is true
I met someone who was the "trying hard to be Christ like" with the christian pants..
dated him for about 3 /12 months..
the first 2 1/2 were wonderful.. I had that christian man I longed for after so
many failed relationships with abusive men who didn't know GOd. (my fault I know...daddy issues and long story)
anyway.. we both prayed, ALLOT ..together and separately ...and in the end, when he began to be rude to me..yes very rude, I put my foot down respectfully..and well point being, God put a stop to something that was not going to be fruitfull !!
God will take care of you if you actually LET Him..and well yea, sometimes when you don't

 

[Chey60]

Most of the "Christian players" I know of are pretty transparent. I'll never forget my first night of prayer at LU. This one gent was going from group of girls to group of girls offering to pray for them, if guys showed up he would include them too so as to not look obvious. I thought it was sickening yet somewhat funny.

Maybe he knows that all he has to do is appeal to one particular target audience. The rest can think anything they want of him.

I think sometimes they aren't players..they are just really insecure needy men. I get it that the need for female helpmeet was established long ago (garden anyone) however, there is a way to find your potential spouse and I don't think going desperate is the way.
There is a guy at my church who is single who will insert himself right into the middle of our prayer circle between two women and grab their hands (we do hold hands when we pray in the mornings before our service... I am on the praise team and he is a greeter) so no, I don't know if he is interested in me, I am not in him...but this is desperate to me..
well maybe I wouldn't mind if if I were interested hehe

There was a guy however I used to know who loved to hug the women in the church.. you know.. "THAT" kind of hug..the squeeze your chest against a woman hug.. it was totally creepy and everyone knew he was like that. its been sooo many years ago I can't remember if someone was trying to stop him tho I know they told the women to try to avoid him (should have pulled the matthew 18 on him but didn't..)
I got wise and used to carry a binder for taking notes in church and would put that up against my chest when I saw him coming..

Here's the thing.. men totally show their true colors very quickly..they can't really hide them very well..it's women who can be really deceptive as they tend to get a man hooked quite quickly and a man will give up God for a woman.. I have seen it.. it starts small then after awhile...poof, they are gone sad.. but true..

 

[Chey60]

bwahaha.... I have solved the potential for this problem in my life by simply not trusting ANYbody. Look how far I've gotten! ***organizes her troll dolls by hair color according to the color wheel, sits down with a hot cup of ovaltine and 9 cats in her lap and stares at her handiwork***

Trust God that way you will know someone has your back

 

[Blain]

Ladies.
I need to warn you about something.
Males.
Yes Christian men.
Who are players.
They're hard to spot.
But easy to fall for.

Your idealism, and desire for Godliness, is the heartstring these deceptive players manipulate.
You'll fall for them easily, because their deception is wrapped up in packaging that can sway the heart long before your head catches on to the scam.

By then your heart may be so involved, you'll blindly ignore the truth, as you believe the scam, even though you know it's a full on scam.

These men are spiritual, scriptural, idealist smooth talkers.

They know the right spiritual words to say.
They're great with the Bible jargon.
They know how to appeal to your passions for idealism.

On the surface, they look like they're saying things of great depth and importance. You'll think you have just encountered a modern day philosopher who can speak at the deepest levels of the heart.
But underneath the candy-coated mumbo jumbo, is a black chasm of emptiness, who's only purpose is to manipulate your desire for the good, so they can use you for their very selfish desires.

Sisters in Christ, beware of these men.
Watch the strings of your heart, because these men know how to play them well.
All for their own selfish purposes.

Dang... I've been found out.... but no,in all seriousness that is not okay. it's twisted and sick and makes me angry