Prenuptial agreement

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christiangamer

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Misty77 said:
I don't understand why logic has elicited such an emotional response on your part. I assure you, there was no malice on my part.
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The "logic" is not the problem as much as the pompous assumptuous nature of your post.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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Well, back on track. As with anything, it's the intent behind it that makes it either acceptable or unacceptable in God's eyes. There have been some valid points here for prenuptial agreements, and valid points against. It's something a couple should decide together, for the right reasons, and then move on to concentrate on the health of a solid marriage.
 
DuchessAimee

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I have no issue with signing a prenup. It's my intention to publish, and if I ever get married, I will protect my intellectual property. If he's a creative guy, then he needs to protect his intellectual property as well.



I also want a cheating clause and a I-Will-Take-Care-of-the-Kids clause. As long as the kids were taken care of, I'd be okay with no spousal support. Unless he cheated... then he goes to the cleaners. :D
 
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kenthomas27 said:
Well OK, then, letsth get things rolling Jullianna! If you'll just ok this paperwork here we'll sthart our dating exsthravganza!


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if you'll go ahead and slide em' a little check, I think we'll all be good to go! What time shall I pick you up?
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christiangamer said:
So would anyone like to tell what it is they cant lose that they cant take with them to the next life, or are we just going to justify clinging on to our material possessions...
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Would you like to tell us what is ungodly about protecting innocent children from the unintentionally wrong choices their parents sometimes make (Which is what most of the people in favor of prenups are talking about)?
 
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Grace-Like-Rain said:
I thought I would be married for a lifetime too. Sometimes you can't control what happens. But I love your attitude about it. We should all go into it that way regardless, if we can.
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I was married once. We were high school sweethearts. Got married at 18. I hate to sound cliche, but I came home from work early one day. I discovered her committing adultery. I divorced her, and I have been shy of relationships since then.
 
Misty77

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jitterbug said:
I was married once. We were high school sweethearts. Got married at 18. I hate to sound cliche, but I came home from work early one day. I discovered her committing adultery. I divorced her, and I have been shy of relationships since then.
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Oh, how terrible! I assure you that not all women are like that. I'm so sorry you went through that.
 
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jitterbug said:
I was married once. We were high school sweethearts. Got married at 18. I hate to sound cliche, but I came home from work early one day. I discovered her committing adultery. I divorced her, and I have been shy of relationships since then.
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A terrible thing to happen. I'm sorry.

Can you forgive her?
 
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I'd sign one.
 
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No because there should be a certain level of trust in the relationship not to mention that to me a pre-nup screams that you're both unsure of your compatibility and probably should not be getting married anyways. Also, in relationships I tend to enter with the faith that this will work out... so the pre-nup seems almost cynical to me. Lastly, let's just say I marry someone who has more things than I do... let's say we live in his house... if the marriage is over I'm not going to try to fight him for that, I pretty much will walk away with only my personal belongings. Why would I fight for things that would only remind me of a failed relationship?
 
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at the risk of sounding condescending, when i was in my early twenties, and all i had to my name was youthful optimism and big dreams, there was no one who rallied harder against pre-nups than me.

funny how a lot of hard work, heartbreak, financial rollercoastering, watching others' lives fall apart and a decade or two will change your mind.
 
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No because there should be a certain level of trust in the relationship not to mention that to me a pre-nup screams that you're both unsure of your compatibility and probably should not be getting married anyways. Also, in relationships I tend to enter with the faith that this will work out... so the pre-nup seems almost cynical to me. Lastly, let's just say I marry someone who has more things than I do... let's say we live in his house... if the marriage is over I'm not going to try to fight him for that, I pretty much will walk away with only my personal belongings. Why would I fight for things that would only remind me of a failed relationship?
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Because when you're 30 without a career because you have been raising your kids, you will need to be able to provide for them if their dad decides to abandon whatever character he appeared to have when you married him.
 
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Elizabeth619

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If two people are entering into marriage they are making a covenant with God to stay together permanently. God intended for marriage to be life-long. Having a pre-nup is allowing the possibility for divorce. If two people promise to God they will stay together forever then why take a "precaution"?

Pre-nups are a man made idea, and aren't even in scripture. If God says marriage is forever then that is how married couples should see it. To me, a pre-nup is not taking the sanctity of marriage serious if one is going into a marriage with a legal document saying "Just in case we split".

In the even a divorce does happen I would worry less about the man made legal agreement and worry more about the broken covenant one made with God. And in the even a divorce happens for biblical reasons(adultery) then that is when you should trust in God that he will take care of His faithful servant, and not worry about wordly things *Matthew 6:25-34*
 
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Misty77 said:
Because when you're 30 without a career because you have been raising your kids, you will need to be able to provide for them if their dad decides to abandon whatever character he appeared to have when you married him.
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child support court. Even the divorce agreement. If the father doesnt follow the agreement he will be reprimanded.
 
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DuchessAimee said:
I also want a cheating clause and a I-Will-Take-Care-of-the-Kids clause. As long as the kids were taken care of, I'd be okay with no spousal support. Unless he cheated... then he goes to the cleaners. :D
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that's an interesting thought. perhaps this is an example of where a pre-nup could potentially provide motivation to maintain the marriage -- using clauses to punitively assess outcomes for bad behavior.

several years ago i used to work for the VP of a large firm. after he got married i heard him bragging to a few guys that he and his wife signed pre-nups. apparently some of the clauses were:

+ if she gained more than 10 lbs (excepting pregnancy) she would forfeit money
+ a "frigidity" clause that would cost her money if she failed to uphold (talk about feeling like a prostitute!!!)

at first i thought he was kidding, but he mentioned it again in another circumstance and i was pretty horrified to realize that he was serious. by the way, who brags about their big pre-nup score???

he was a real charmer, that one. so slimy...

not surprisingly, a few years ago they divorced shortly around their 5th year together.
 
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