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Years ago, we had a married friend who was gone for a while, then came back to tell us that they had always liked hanging with us singles but felt a bit sorry for us.
This person had kind of picked up in church that marrieds were the more mature members and singles were untamed drifters without a cause.
This person explained that in their absence, they had unexpectedly gone through a separation from their spouse, and it was a lesson to them to value single friends - because a married person might very well find themselves being single.
I've been single about 20 years now, and some of the people who patted me on the head back then and said I was just a baby are just now starting their own single journey, whether through death or divorce.
So now who is going to pat them on the head as they did to us and then welcome them to the club? (I don't, out of respect. But I long for respect to go both ways.)
The marrieds I appreciate most are the ones who realize we aren't much different, and they could be filling out shoes at any time.
To all our married friends who laugh, cry, study, ponder, and fellowship with us while seeing us as peers rather than lesser beings or children, thank you. ❤️
This person had kind of picked up in church that marrieds were the more mature members and singles were untamed drifters without a cause.
This person explained that in their absence, they had unexpectedly gone through a separation from their spouse, and it was a lesson to them to value single friends - because a married person might very well find themselves being single.
I've been single about 20 years now, and some of the people who patted me on the head back then and said I was just a baby are just now starting their own single journey, whether through death or divorce.
So now who is going to pat them on the head as they did to us and then welcome them to the club? (I don't, out of respect. But I long for respect to go both ways.)
The marrieds I appreciate most are the ones who realize we aren't much different, and they could be filling out shoes at any time.
To all our married friends who laugh, cry, study, ponder, and fellowship with us while seeing us as peers rather than lesser beings or children, thank you. ❤️
You enter the world on your own, leave the world on your own and are answerable on your own.
It doesn't make you any more special being married, it just means you have companionship. I remember when I finished high school there seemed to be a mad rush for girls to meet someone, marry and have kids. Then they paraded it.
Roll on a few years and these very same girls were struggling as single mothers desperately wanting to meet someone else who could help raise the kids.
This of course was not everybody's story but it seemed to be the story of many.
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