Single and alone?

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Aug 13, 2013
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If you are non social, meaning you dont want to be social at the moment you are being anti social or against being social. Simple.
 

jsr1221

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If you are non social, meaning you dont want to be social at the moment you are being anti social or against being social. Simple.
Actually no. It's called being asocial. Antisocial is feeling a lack of apathy. A personality disorder. Read the dsm.
 

mar09

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It's The Carpenters, they had a lot of big hits in the 70's. Karen Carpenter is the singer and her brother plays the piano and I think he writes all the songs too. The words are only in english, but the video shows spanish so spanish-speaking people will know what she's singing about. :)
Yes, i think they were our grade 1 teacher's favorite bec. she taught us Top of the World at the time. I did try to sing the first lines in spanish, and it wasnt easy. i thot i just didnt know how to put the accents where-).
 
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Being single and alone has allowed me to travel the world. The freedom to just go and choose to serve in missions and to go the most remote places of the world. Looking back to the last seven years after I broke up with my boyfriend, I see how God has been showing me more of His heart in different cultures and situations. I learned to make decisions myself, to step out in faith and to face tough situations. Even if a relationship would come on my path, I would not like to give up my travelling and meeting people from different cultures. It has brought me a lot :)
 

tourist

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Being single and alone has allowed me to travel the world. The freedom to just go and choose to serve in missions and to go the most remote places of the world. Looking back to the last seven years after I broke up with my boyfriend, I see how God has been showing me more of His heart in different cultures and situations. I learned to make decisions myself, to step out in faith and to face tough situations. Even if a relationship would come on my path, I would not like to give up my travelling and meeting people from different cultures. It has brought me a lot :)
Being single does have its advantages. You can get quite an education traveling, meeting new people and experiencing different cultures. I'm glad that in the course of your travels you found this site. Welcome to CC.
 

Deidre

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I was engaged earlier this year, and now I'm in a new relationship. Before the engagement, I was dating a lot, but not in anything serious for about a year, and I think being single and not getting serious for at least one year, is good advice, because you find out who you really are, without it getting blurred by a relationship. I've seen people jump from relationship to relationship, never really taking a breath and learning to like who they are and their own life.
 

blue_ladybug

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Yupp, single and alone.. and happy about it. :)
 
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debRed70

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I look at this differently.
I was married for 15 years. We met at church; we served in together in various ministries.

Did I question God when my marriage feel apart? Yes, I will admit that I did. I questioned how could this be? Why did we even meet? Then I look at the two miracles we were blessed with. Both my ex and I contributed to our marriage issues.

Now that I am divorced and back in the dating game (though I am taking a break from actively dating--unless I happen to meet someone), I am aware of what is important to me.

I know that God knows the desires of my heart. Not every man I meet is the ONE...I believe that I will know; and he will be a Godly man. I am not in too much of a hurry. I have learned to trust His timing--not mine!
 

Fenner

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If you are non social, meaning you dont want to be social at the moment you are being anti social or against being social. Simple.

I know I haven't been single for a long time. However I do enjoy spending time alone sometimes. I love to sit and read outside and enjoy the peace of nature. I also like to bird watch and go to art museums alone, because I can take my time. I also enjoy these things with my family, but it's not anti social behavior to want some time to yourself.
 
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I have been a single mom since my son was 3 and he is now 18. I have dated during this time period as I wanted to experience the gift of true biblical intimacy as God intended through marriage. It didn't happen for me and while I do not know the why, I'm so grateful God gave me the courage to not remarry for the sake being married as I saw so many friends make that mistake. As someone in this thread said, being lonely and alone is one thing but being lonely in a marriage is an entirely different level of loneliness.

I worked very hard and by the grace of God was able to earn an advanced degree to financially support my son and I. The Lord has blessed us but I still prayerfully wonder sometimes why I never found the husband of my youth. Scripture says it is not good for man to be alone yet not everyone is called to be married. Admittedly I still don't understand that. Seems contradictory yet I'm sure some who have a stronger understanding of the scriptures could shed some light on that.

I remain grateful for all my blessings and while I still have periods of sadness that I never experienced marriage, Im not lonley. I have wonderful family and friends to fill my life. I've made the mistake in my early years of being single of waiting to do X, Y, or Z until I was married and although it took me to long to learn I have moved out of that waiting period, years ago. I am very active in my church, have traveled some, have actively pursued hobbies, etc. I feel like I have learned to not only accept all the riches of the life I have been blessed with but embrace it and courageously walk it for Him.

I have my days of course where I feel cheated out of the riches of marriage, if I'm honest with myself and am getting better about laying them at His feet. I think those singles who are truly content with being single have realized that there really is so much more to living your life with Christ than marriage. It is one big slice of the pizza but not the only one!

I'm not 100% content but I'm working on it and can say that I enjoy being single and continue to look for the next challenge and adventure.
 
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Man4TheWord

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I'm new to this journey myself. I have 3 boys. I really struggle. I like the tone to just clear my head and just ponder and think, but I miss having someone to hold and be held by. I also really struggle with genesis, God made everything, and the same day he makes man He says, it's not good that man should be alone. So I hanged to agree. But I'm like you I don't want to sell out and just be married to be married.