Single Men It's Time to Step Up!

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Lynx

Lynx

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Ouch.....
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Yeah! What do you think this is, the singles forum? We don't do that mushy junk here in the Bible Discussions forum....

*Lynx scrolls up...

Wait, this is the Singles... but... but I thought... Okay so how did this thread get here?
 
Grace-Like-Rain

Grace-Like-Rain

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Lynx said:
Yeah! What do you think this is, the singles forum? We don't do that mushy junk here in the Bible Discussions forum....

*Lynx scrolls up...

Wait, this is the Singles... but... but I thought... Okay so how did this thread get here?
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Hey I know... let's relocate this thread to Pluto!
 
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kenthomas27

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wisebeardman said:
after reading all this.. I think I am just going to go jump off a bridge.
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I'm watching a movie about that right now! It'd be right different without you Wise. Did i earn my wings?
 
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GodIsSalvation

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kenthomas27 said:
I'm watching a movie about that right now! It'd be right different without you Wise. Did i earn my wings?
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I think I just detected an It's A Wonderful Life reference. Heh, reminds me how many years a go on Christmas I was super sick with a stomach ailment. As I could not sleep between wretching I ended up watching It's A Wonderful Life on TV for the first time. Probably one of the best movies ever made.

Anyways, sorry to digress, single men can resume stepping up.
 
Tinkerbell725

Tinkerbell725

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seoulsearch said:
When older men mention the P.I. (Philippines) as a place to scout for beautiful young brides, why do they also never mention things such as sex trafficking (young girls being sold by their own families) and the fact that many of those beautiful young Pinoy women are looking for a means of survival, both for them and their families?

As with any place, not everyone is like that, but the family I was married into was 3/4 Filipino and lived in the Philippines as well. My then-husband was watching a talk show in which the P.I. was being criticized for prostituting its young girls and looking to American and European men as cash cows.

The native Filipinos on the show were visibly shaken, and my ex-husband, who is half Filipino and was raised there all his life, said, "Why in the world are those people getting upset? It's not like they can argue because it's all true!"

I just think it's crazy that so many times here on CC, one extreme will be mentioned... but not all the things that go along with it. I am certainly not trying to slam the P.I. or its people, BUT, I think it's important to keep a balanced view and older men tend to only mention all the "benefits." ("Grandpa's With Benefits" instead of "Friends With Benefits"...)

In other words, sure, the P.I. CAN be a great place to find a child-aged wife.

It's also a great draw for pedophiles as well.

And of COURSE a woman in a very poor country typically isn't going to divorce her foreign husband. He's paying for her and her family to survive.
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Its all about convenience and self preservation. Old foreigners marry young filipinas to have a caregiver and filipinas marry them for money. Everybody happy. People are the same wherever you go regardless of culture. There is good and bad in everyone...but some are worse like those filipinas who leave there foreigner husbands when the money runs out and those americans who insure their wives and then murder them and make it look like accident so they can claim for insurance, and most specially those pedophiles...they are the worst...
 
Tinkerbell725

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I think single men have stopped stepping up long time ago...they became lazy since women began stepping up for them...specially non christian ungodly women...
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Tinkerbell725 said:
I think single men have stopped stepping up long time ago...they became lazy since women began stepping up for them...specially non christian ungodly women...
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Why step up when you can side step? Just kick back, play some call of duty, and embrace the lazy irresponsible male sterotype. It's actually quite gratifying to just embrace all the sterotypical ideas directed against the "modern man" and his deficiencies rather than defend ourselves against them. Once we embrace them, it defeats the purpose of the criticism to begin with (which is to modify our behavior, which ironically just inspires us to crank it up to the next level). No one expects any better from us anyway, so some of us just say to ourselves "hey, this could be alllooooooot of fun!". lol

[video=youtube;z5X5zh00rdg]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5X5zh00rdg[/video]
 
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SparkleEyes

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agirlandherguitar said:
I know this is a complicated and touchy subject for all of us, so think clearly before you respond. The title of this post was taken from the following article.

The first post I wrote just now (and promptly deleted after a change of heart) complained bitterly about the passivity of men in the Christian community. I had written a similar post a few years ago regarding single men and their lacklustre approach towards single women, leaning heavily on my own frustrating experiences with men who always admired from afar but were too chicken to actually approach me. I'm not gonna be easy... and no woman who is worth it is gonna be easy for you, stallion.

In my experience beautiful Christ-centred women (I know many!) are sitting there waiting for a Christ-centred man to approach them, to make a move, to be a leader, to fight... and yet there they sit waiting and waiting and the men don't come. Why is this happening? Where are you guys?

But there are two sides to every story and I'm trying to do some fair research on the topic after an older woman approached me and incredulously asked me why I wasn't married and the best answer I could muster up was, "I guess I just haven't met him yet", which sits on my chest heavily laden with spiritual concern for the men in our church. I have my own issues to deal with, as all women do, so I'm not going to blame men entirely for my own experience. But I don't want to make this post about me.

The article I linked is a good first glimpse inside this matter. If you feel that it's a TLDR (Too Long Didn't Read) type of deal then allow me to highlight some of, what I feel, are the best points made:

Women still want men to lead them. This means being an initiator of the relationship. Don't give us that "it's the 21st Century" spiel. WE. WANT. YOU. TO. LEAD.

Men are not preparing themselves to be the men they should be. That means morally, financially, spiritually and relationally.

It is okay to ask God for a wife! My favourite part of this article is this: Spiritual development also involves the building of a prayer life. Speaking of which, it is surprising how few men actually ask God for a wife. Of all things, why would we leave this matter off our prayer list? Perhaps some would argue that it is unspiritual to pray about such a thing, that if God intends us to be married we should disengage from the process and allow Him to override our neutrality. Being neutral is fine if it means surrender and waiting by faith on God's answer (which, by the way, first demands that a request be made), but it is not fine if it implies apathy or cowardice.

The key words here are apathy and cowardice. Does this sound like you or somebody you know?

Lastly, this life is a journey. Take a risk, trust in God, surround yourself with other Christians and meet single women, befriend us and don't be afraid of us! If you want to be loved then you must first love. Ask yourself this: If you believe God has already met you in the depths of your soul then what have you got to lose? Open your hearts, gents. We are waiting for you and we love you!
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What's wrong with a Godly church going single woman being a bit more assertive in letting a man (or men) know she is interested in at least a friendship. I am not saying she should be the dominate one in the relationship, but why not let a man know you are interested in getting to know them better? :cool:
 
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ServantStrike

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Roh_Chris said:
*looks around nervously*

Um, Grace, Pluto used to be a planet a loooooooong time ago. It's not the 60's anymore.

*hides behind Lynx*
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You're right. Pluto isn't a planet.



It's just a rock. Like all the man hating feminists chase after. They like rocks.

 
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ServantStrike

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Aww man.. did I just post that?


I meant to post a picture of elizabeth taylor. Oh well, that's a lot better any ways.
 
Roh_Chris

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Wait, are man-hating feminists actually half-bald men? :eek:
 
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