Singles forum has 125000 treads. So why is the Singles Room always empty?

[Descyple]

I was in the Singles Chat room once, and I too was there by myself for a while. Eventually, an actual tumbleweed drifted across the screen (I knew then it was time to log out!!!).

But in all seriousness, I haven't been in the chat rooms since October 2011. I have no problem with the idea of "live" chatting with CC members (I actually like the idea, in theory) my only issue is when you are chatting with someone, and the response time from them takes forever and then you find out the reason is because that person is private chatting with a couple of other people. Or in reverse, a few times I was in the middle of having a private chat with someone and two or three other people would start sending me pm's and I simply could not keep up with all the chats at one time.

Apart from the difficulty of having to keep up with all the multiple chats going on at once, I also believe it is very disrespectful to each chatter to not have your full and complete attention. But I guess that is the unfortunate reality of chat rooms. If general group chat was the agreed-upon focus, and PM's kept to a minimum, chat rooms would be much more respectful, and therefore more enjoyable.

That's my two cents. Now I'm off the Singles Room to watch tumbleweed grow!!! Anyone can join me if they like, just don't talk me, because I like to watch tumbleweed in silence.

 

[adekruif]

I used to be in chat allot, but now I only venture there every once in a while to see if there is anyone I know to talk to. I kinda got spooked when I got married off in chat one time.



I've met some wonderful people there and have had some good times. My biggest problem with chat nowadays is that if something interesting isn't being talked about I lose interest and end up muting it and listening to music, thereby inadvertently ignoring people who PM me. *oops*

 

[Fenner]

I used to go to chat a lot. I met a lot of nice people, especially in the Bible Study room but then someone would disagree with someone and it would go back and forth. No one has time for that. I like the forums better .

 

[seekingg]

seoulsearch
that's understandable and fair. i only asked you to do it because you with your 2900 + postings have way more experience than i do. i don't even know if you are going to see this... oh and if i do it just think 1000 members could show up ....ALL BOYS.. HOW DUMB WE WOULD LOOK....LOL

 

[seoulsearch]

seoulsearch
that's understandable and fair. i only asked you to do it because you with your 2900 + postings have way more experience than i do. i don't even know if you are going to see this... oh and if i do it just think 1000 members could show up ....ALL BOYS.. HOW DUMB WE WOULD LOOK....LOL

I have experience with POSTINGS... but not chat. I used to hang out in chat back in the day and found out quickly that I was much better at listening to other people there than trying to lead a discussion in a room. Now, some people there are extremely talented at that.

I used to love to listen to Stillwaters and Trilogic interact with the young people there because they would become a big brother or uncle to many of the younger crowd who needed a positive word in their life.

There were also a few great leaders (all hail the great K, for those who remember her!!) who were excellent at keeping a chat room conversation flowing.

As for me... I'm much better at typing rather than facilitating a bunch of lonely single people (of whom I would be one) who are too shy to talk to each other.

 

[kessy001]

Singles forum is just my favorite spot. No arguing, good people and I don't have to reply right away if I don't want to . I'd be down for going to the chat more often if everybody in here actually gathered in the singles chat at the same time, but I don't see that happening. We all have different schedules and some of us are in completely different time zones.

...plus it would most likely be an awkward gathering. I've never been to the chat rooms (and with all that has been said about it, i don't intend to visit). I absolutely love the forums, a good place to get your 'laughter needs' met! LOL!

 

[seekingg]

I confess; I'm a chicken
Even on here.

HEY PIPER27 HOW can you be chicken on here you seem very out going with your 247 post... right..

 

[Donkeyfish07]

...plus it would most likely be an awkward gathering. I've never been to the chat rooms (and with all that has been said about it, i don't intend to visit). I absolutely love the forums, a good place to get your 'laughter needs' met! LOL!

Ha ha, I don't know about awkward. Everybody in the singles area is easy to talk to. Not a one of us if difficult that I can think of. We do occasionally get trolls on the forums.....but when a troll comes to chat, it's usually an Uber troll so that is the big downside to the chat rooms .

 

[surprisingrose]

Men are afraid women will think they are availible if seen in the singles only room, lol. I suggested a single's bible study room. Where the topic are surround around singles issues. Maybe that will give men a reason to show up in a single's only room.

 

[Shouryu]

Now that I'm on the forums, I like the forums much more. I think you can get to know people better, to start with, that way. Chat started off fun, I met some cool people that I still talk with, but then you get tons of "Heyyyy girrrrlll, you single?" type people. Or people who say "Hi" and then have nothing else to say besides "lol".

*raises an eyebrow in Rachel's direction*

Heyyyy girrrrlll, you single?

*cackles and runs away*

Arwen, how do you know me so well? Have you been stalking me?

Bro, we've over this.

EVERY SINGLE LADY IN THE SINGLE FORUMS IS STALKING YOU.

Get with the program. ^_^

I've met some wonderful people there and have had some good times. My biggest problem with chat nowadays is that if something interesting isn't being talked about I lose interest and end up muting it and listening to music, thereby inadvertently ignoring people who PM me. *oops*

I agree - this is one of the more frustrating things in the lounge. It's also very common for the audio chat and the text chat to be on two separate topics, and ignoring each other. For someone like me, who wants to participate in the audio conversation, but has no desire to get on the microphone, it gets frustrating when some of the audio chatters ignore my responses in the text box.

But there are still are some really great people in the chat section. They're just not in the Singles room; everyone just hangs out in the Lounge. I can tell you that one of the most spiritually insightful characters that I'm always happy to hear from is Cee, and he only shows up on the forums about once a month. It's kind of a shame, because that cat knows his Word, and he definitely makes me want to step up my game when he starts talking about Christianity. Iron sharpening...well, whatever I am...and all that jazz. There are a couple of people like that in chat who I wish were active here.

(And NO, I'm not really flirting with Rachel like that. Yes, she's a doll. Yes, we get along great. But I know she's single, so I wouldn't actually pull that with her. ^_^ )

 

[seekingg]

THANKS I APPRECIATE THAT..

 

[thecreationtutor]

Good question!

 

[GRA]

Are people embarrassed or shy or do they just do there singles chat on one of those ungodly chat sites?
there are 125,000 threads on the singles forum . that ranks it number 2 on christian chat .. but know one is in the singles room.

What say you?

I believe that the true answer to this question is really quite simple...

When it comes to the singles forum, it is "well accepted and understood" that there are no attached "overtones" for romantic interest among the CC members that venture in - simply for venturing in; whereas, with the singles chat room - there seems to be "a cloud of insinuation hanging over the room" which implies that simply coming into the room labels a person as "looking" for something romantic, etc.

I personally have never been afraid to go into that room. I have even held private conversations with women in that room - having no romantic interest at all whatsoever for that person. Just conversation between friends.

I know what my intents are - and that they are innocent. God also knows...

Why should single CC members not be able to have good fellowship in that room?

It is just the 'singles' version of the lounge...

( It's just another room, folks! )

If everyone would view the singles chat room as simply the real-time audio / video version of the singles forum...

"Personally, I don't see the problem..."

EDIT: We all know that CC is not intended to be a "dating site" - right? Sooooo.....

 

[TigerScent777]

...I had a good conversation w/cam in the lounge last night; met some nice people and was up till after 3:30 am chatting

...yeah, singles room is empty..., don't know why exactly; maybe singles are shy and self-conscious about their appearance and putting themselves 'out there' ??? - lots were in the lounge...

 

[Jullianna]

I prefer the forums because whatever I have to say is right out there in the open. PMs seem to lead to a lot of problems with some folks so I'd rather avoid that. That's pretty much why when I do chat, I prefer to chat in main unless it's someone I know fairly well.

 

[garet82]

i think it must be every one think they arent single n has lots of friends here so they dont feel "hey iam single" LOL

 

[Ugly]

 

[Lynx]

Good luck. You can't eat what I ain't got.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Good luck. You can't eat what I ain't got.

ahem.. no comment..

 

[missfairy]

Maybe someone could start a singles room date night? I elect arwen83 to coordinate that.... can i get a 2nd...

Singles Room Date night! I'm in. Ice cream, and breakfast foods allowed!!!