"So Just Why ARE You Single, Anyway?"
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Why am I single. Hmm.
Hermit with lots of hobbies. Eccentric. That would be one reason.
There are people in the world that seem to always have to be around/interacting with/in a relationship with another person. I'm sort of the opposite of that. I don't mind being alone.
Except when it gets extreme - or for very long periods. Then I am miserable.
So I would say that the overriding reasons are general lack of exposure - and for those women I already know...not enough interest to pursue something. For various reasons. I know enough single women in my area that have shown or are interested that I could be in a relationship tomorrow. Unfortunately for them the enthusiasm on my end isn't shared and I'd rather not go through the business of emotional entanglements and hurt just to satisfy a temporary need - be that loneliness relief or something else.
Hermit with lots of hobbies. Eccentric. That would be one reason.
There are people in the world that seem to always have to be around/interacting with/in a relationship with another person. I'm sort of the opposite of that. I don't mind being alone.
Except when it gets extreme - or for very long periods. Then I am miserable.
So I would say that the overriding reasons are general lack of exposure - and for those women I already know...not enough interest to pursue something. For various reasons. I know enough single women in my area that have shown or are interested that I could be in a relationship tomorrow. Unfortunately for them the enthusiasm on my end isn't shared and I'd rather not go through the business of emotional entanglements and hurt just to satisfy a temporary need - be that loneliness relief or something else.
I'm too picky- I want a nonsmoker, non drinker, who can live without indoor pets- that alone narrows it down to like 2 lol. Then not only does he have to be a Christian, but rooted in my religion, and not only that but part of the faithful few who attend more than once a week, teach, and help with church duties.
He has to be a family man- not gone all the time. I'm not a gold digger, but since it's up to the man to bring home the bacon, he would have to provide for us adequately, just as I would give him a clean home and hot meals. He has to be genuinely loving and kind- not easily angered, impatient, or intolerant. He has to be of good integrity and not abuse his position.
He has to love me for me- not what I look like- we're going to both be old and wrinkly anyways, I need true blue love that will last. And our feelings have to be strong and mutual. I want just the mention of my name to make him smile, and visa versa.
He has to be a cuddler. I don't want to marry someone who is only lovey-dovey when he wants 'intimacy'. He can't gamble, watch porn, listen to heavy metal or loud music, or be unreasonable like want our family vehicle to be a motorcycle. He has to be humble and Christ-like. If Christ were married, would He help a his wife with the dishes once in a while? I bet my life He would. Would he be willing to die to save me and our kids?
Is he man enough to cry and be vulnerable, without being wimpy and whiney? I understand he will have faults, but not ones that cross the line- like music so loud everyone else in the house is covering their ears, but he thinks of only himself. Can he look past my imperfections? Can he communicate? Can I talk to him without him rolling his eyes and saying "Do we have to?"
If he is taller than me, and has a really deep voice, that would be a plus.
There are just so many things I look for, and I have to spend time with him to get to know him first. So this is why me getting married seems impossible- because I can't find 'him' and I will never lower my expectations for a man again.
He has to be a family man- not gone all the time. I'm not a gold digger, but since it's up to the man to bring home the bacon, he would have to provide for us adequately, just as I would give him a clean home and hot meals. He has to be genuinely loving and kind- not easily angered, impatient, or intolerant. He has to be of good integrity and not abuse his position.
He has to love me for me- not what I look like- we're going to both be old and wrinkly anyways, I need true blue love that will last. And our feelings have to be strong and mutual. I want just the mention of my name to make him smile, and visa versa.
He has to be a cuddler. I don't want to marry someone who is only lovey-dovey when he wants 'intimacy'. He can't gamble, watch porn, listen to heavy metal or loud music, or be unreasonable like want our family vehicle to be a motorcycle. He has to be humble and Christ-like. If Christ were married, would He help a his wife with the dishes once in a while? I bet my life He would. Would he be willing to die to save me and our kids?
Is he man enough to cry and be vulnerable, without being wimpy and whiney? I understand he will have faults, but not ones that cross the line- like music so loud everyone else in the house is covering their ears, but he thinks of only himself. Can he look past my imperfections? Can he communicate? Can I talk to him without him rolling his eyes and saying "Do we have to?"
If he is taller than me, and has a really deep voice, that would be a plus.
There are just so many things I look for, and I have to spend time with him to get to know him first. So this is why me getting married seems impossible- because I can't find 'him' and I will never lower my expectations for a man again.
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I haven't been asked that question not because they don't want to ask but they already have answers and solutions. The most common solution I get is.... go get yourself pregnant because not only are you a lost case but your clock is ticking. So what I do after such suggestions is politely keep quiet while I tackle the person to the ground in my mind.
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I do ask myself that question and I have two answers.... I am yet to meet this wonderful guy with the same level of madness as I do and second answer,
Well, I have met many who were all bad for me not necessarily because they are bad but because God has the perfect one for me as I am for him. Perfect madness in equal measure.
Well, I have met many who were all bad for me not necessarily because they are bad but because God has the perfect one for me as I am for him. Perfect madness in equal measure.
I don't get asked this question. I think in recent years the reason is that I am really terrified if anyone shows any interest, I am so shy and frightened I run a mile! Rather than relatives saying "why are you single?" I get comments like "for you it is game over." It is never considered anyone would want to marry me. I think my family would die of shock!
Four years ago, I went out on a blind date and took this beautiful girl to church.
Afterwards, we had a wonderful dinner together.
We then walked downtown to watch fireworks explode above our heads after a baseball game in the city.
Fast forward to today, we have each other blocked on social media, and this is some random picture I found on Google.
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Afterwards, we had a wonderful dinner together.
We then walked downtown to watch fireworks explode above our heads after a baseball game in the city.
Fast forward to today, we have each other blocked on social media, and this is some random picture I found on Google.
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I'm in a relationship with my house and my garden. Especially the garden needs a lot of attention, and right now my back is hurting from mowing the lawn. I think I'm about to reach that point in life where I have to get someone over here to help. Maybe I'll start nagging about the lawn to my daugther and my SIL. LOL.
Anyways, random information alert I really want a red convertible to make my singleness more fun.
Anyways, random information alert
I really want a red convertible to make my singleness more fun.
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