Save this phrase godsslife, this was one of my lifesavers
It has two sides I think. I understand it in the way that if it's my responsibility, there's something I can do about it. There is hope and I can choose to feel better. If I pass on this responsibility to others, I have no control over what they do with my feelings. And I cannot change others. It's hopeless and miserable when my happiness depends on what 'others' do and say to me. This transition in my life (still ongoing) is one of the few that gives me reason to get up in the morn
I believe it's about the process of renewal of the mind. God initializes the work, and we respond and say yes too Him. My firm belief is that when people come to Christ, they all have emotional baggage. Some deeper than others. But when it comes to restoration of the soul, our minds have to respond and say Yes to His work. We need to work out of what God works in us. So just saying your responsible for your own happiness, is actually untrue, because we're not. Our fullness of joy and peace our dependent on the creator who chooses to reach out the the created.
Saying you are responsible for your own joy, to someone who is broken and hurting, is like rubbing salt into a cut and then walking away without treating it. If were responsible for our own joy, and for the change that happens in our life, then are we responsible for our own destiny and the choices we make? If all we do is follow a scriptural method to get around in life, and to renew our thinking then who's leading who? And who's God of who, and where does the relating to the creator come into it? Our christian experience becomes merely deistic philosophy.
We're on a road of transformation, but who transforms who?