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IloveyouGod

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I know exactly what you're talking about. The other day I had to help in church for an event were children from grade 9 to kindergarten were not allowed to attend, so I was looking after them, along with other servants. But they drove us all nuts. But they were A LOT of fun still. :)


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I have a horrible headache. I think it was brought on by 10 3 year old's, they all demonstrated their lion roar's for me today. Loud squeaky lion roars. How can these cute little people be so loud? :)
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IloveyouGod

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There are cons and pros for being single and cons and pros for being married. But seriously, being married "Could" be more complicated still. So I REALLY thank God for whatever status He's allowing me to be in right now.

I agree with what Monica said about moving. As a matter of fact, I won't even have this fear factor at all. The ONLY thing that annoys me is the cost to move my stuff from one place to the other.


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yes, i am so perhaps my answers are biased.

as far as i am concerned, one of the best things about being single is the opportunities that i've been able to take advantage that required or allowed me to move. in some ways i envy aspects of my married friends' lives, but i know a number of them also envy what i've been able to do as well.

as to the fear, i think moving (especially alone) is scary (on some) level for everyone. every time i've moved i've had pockets of fear and trepidation amongst the excitement and anticipation

i'm a big believer that changing your surroundings and interrupting the status quo can offer amazing potential for growth in many ways. just like any muscle training, once you're going through the motions on anything, the potential for gains goes in sharp decline.

moving gives you a chance to re-invent aspects of yourself, improve behaviors and a "tough love" approach to making new goals, friends, activities.

as to the introversion: one of my rules when i move is that i go to church the first sunday i get there, if possible. it forces me to start meeting people right away. usually churches provide lots of service opportunities to meet others too.

i'm not saying be willy-nilly and flighty. make sure you do your due diligence and pray about it. plan and prepare.

but it's helped me to grow in faith and trust God more. : )
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IloveyouGod said:
There are cons and pros for being single and cons and pros for being married. But seriously, being married "Could" be more complicated still. So I REALLY thank God for whatever status He's allowing me to be in right now.

I agree with what Monica said about moving. As a matter of fact, I won't even have this fear factor at all. The ONLY thing that annoys me is the cost to move my stuff from one place to the other.
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Sometimes I wish I had that fearlessness about moving. My life seems so rooted to this spot in this small town... My unique job situation is such that I can't just pick up and find another job somewhere else easily. My kids won't stay overnight with their dad, so we need to be within reasonable driving distance for visits. I do feel tied down sometimes. Aside from those things, moving to an area where you don't know anyone, you don't know the churches in the area, what sort of employment you'd be able to find... so many unknowns. I could do it, but I would need a HUGE push out of the nest, and I imagine I'd bounce off the ground a few times before I found my wings. :rolleyes:
 
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IloveyouGod

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I do agree with you Grace that sometime our own personal circumstances can make it difficult for us to move if we want to. My point was about those who don't have any problem to move except their fear. As for employment, I would guarantee this before moving any where because someone has to pay the bills and this person is C'est Moi and no body else!! :eek: The rest, like you said, can be dealt with, no problem.


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Sometimes I wish I had that fearlessness about moving. My life seems so rooted to this spot in this small town... My unique job situation is such that I can't just pick up and find another job somewhere else easily. My kids won't stay overnight with their dad, so we need to be within reasonable driving distance for visits. I do feel tied down sometimes. Aside from those things, moving to an area where you don't know anyone, you don't know the churches in the area, what sort of employment you'd be able to find... so many unknowns. I could do it, but I would need a HUGE push out of the nest, and I imagine I'd bounce off the ground a few times before I found my wings. :rolleyes:
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Lately, I've been really content with the whole "single" thing. I mean, I think it sounds weird for me to say it'd be nice to have a boyfriend. Mainly because I'm so used to being the baby of the family and treated as such. I've heard the words, "You're too young." probably since I was old enough to ask if I could do certain things with my sisters that was in their age range but not mine.
I always wished I was grown up and I couldn't wait until I got older and could do the things they could do. But I guess there's a time where I'm gonna be grown up. In about 9 months I'll be a legal adult. The reason I haven't thought about wanting a boyfriend is because I'm wanting my childhood back. I was wishing away my childhood and I didn't even realize it.
As soon as Spring is here and the weather is warm, I'm going go out in my backyard like I used to. I'm just gonna blow bubbles and try to hulahoop and fail just like I did 11 years ago. Sit on the patio and eat a Popsicle. Maybe I'll go down to the park and swing till the sun sets. I might not be able to get my childhood back, but maybe just this once I'll be a kid again. Too bad I don't have anyone to play hide and seek with or ride my bike with (though I always did that at Grandma's house since the neighborhood is safe where she lived).
 
DuchessAimee

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It amazes me that people don't know who they are. They invent things about themselves, things that they want to be, aspects they prize for various reasons, and they ignore who they actually are.


A friend of mine went on a date this weekend with a guy she met on Eharmony. She was really excited about the date, but come to find out, the guy wasn't really who he thought he was. He answered the profile questions according to who and what he wanted to be, not to who he actually was. Everyone does this to a point, and I personally don't believe we can know ourselves completely. However, most people don't pay attention to what they do, who they are, or what they believe. They create a persona for many reasons, but in the end it just doesn't pay.


Paying attention to who we actually are may hurt for a while, but when we accept reality, it's actually quite freeing.
 
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DuchessAimee said:
It amazes me that people don't know who they are. They invent things about themselves, things that they want to be, aspects they prize for various reasons, and they ignore who they actually are.


A friend of mine went on a date this weekend with a guy she met on Eharmony. She was really excited about the date, but come to find out, the guy wasn't really who he thought he was. He answered the profile questions according to who and what he wanted to be, not to who he actually was. Everyone does this to a point, and I personally don't believe we can know ourselves completely. However, most people don't pay attention to what they do, who they are, or what they believe. They create a persona for many reasons, but in the end it just doesn't pay.


Paying attention to who we actually are may hurt for a while, but when we accept reality, it's actually quite freeing.
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I found that to be a HUGE problem, both in who I met and in filling out the profile myself. As Monicat reminded me, I'm still in a stage of transition, so who I recently was and who I am soon to be actually vary quite a lot. As the Doctor says, "It's still in flux."
 
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IloveyouGod

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Mind you also, the fact that he answered the questions saying what he wants to be as suppose to what he really is could be a sort of lying which happens all the time on those dating website, that's why I'm totally against these dating websites. So it's not necessary that he didn't know what he wants. I'd say maybe he was trying to show off as a better person than he really is.


DuchessAimee said:
It amazes me that people don't know who they are. They invent things about themselves, things that they want to be, aspects they prize for various reasons, and they ignore who they actually are.


A friend of mine went on a date this weekend with a guy she met on Eharmony. She was really excited about the date, but come to find out, the guy wasn't really who he thought he was. He answered the profile questions according to who and what he wanted to be, not to who he actually was. Everyone does this to a point, and I personally don't believe we can know ourselves completely. However, most people don't pay attention to what they do, who they are, or what they believe. They create a persona for many reasons, but in the end it just doesn't pay.


Paying attention to who we actually are may hurt for a while, but when we accept reality, it's actually quite freeing.
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Nothing beats walking 10 miles home from work, in an ice storm, in just a t-shirt and a light jacket that doesn't zip up
 
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IloveyouGod

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Did you get home as a piece of ice then or you didn't even make it home?!! ;)


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Nothing beats walking 10 miles home from work, in an ice storm, in just a t-shirt and a light jacket that doesn't zip up
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lil_christian said:
As soon as Spring is here and the weather is warm, I'm going go out in my backyard like I used to. I'm just gonna blow bubbles and try to hulahoop and fail just like I did 11 years ago. Sit on the patio and eat a Popsicle. Maybe I'll go down to the park and swing till the sun sets. I might not be able to get my childhood back, but maybe just this once I'll be a kid again. Too bad I don't have anyone to play hide and seek with or ride my bike with (though I always did that at Grandma's house since the neighborhood is safe where she lived).
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i like that idea, LC.

if you were closer, i'd soooo challenge you to a hula-hoopathon. ; p
 
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IloveyouGod said:
Did you get home as a piece of ice then or you didn't even make it home?!! ;)
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I was frozen. Still thawing out as we speak. lol, I've probably got a bout of pneumonia coming my way after that one
 
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Jullianna

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"in flux"

I like the sound of that...
 
lil_christian

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just_monicat said:
i like that idea, LC.

if you were closer, i'd soooo challenge you to a hula-hoopathon. ; p
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And if you were closer I'd say to that, "As long as we can go biking later!!" :D I seriously miss being able to bike around. But the only safe place was my grandma's neighborhood, and she's in the nursing home now. Though someday I'd love to go back there. It's a great place because everything is in walking and biking distance. I would only have to use a car to go to church and visit people.
 
DuchessAimee

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When I said that people don't know themselves and project who they want to be as opposed to who they are, I was talking about more than online dating. I meant everyone does it. To a certain extent, it's okay. It can even be seen as healthy. However, we as people routinely create personas, and then wonder why we feel so lonely when no one knows who we really are. How can people know us when we refuse to be honest about ourselves?
 
rachelsedge

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lil_christian said:
I always wished I was grown up and I couldn't wait until I got older and could do the things they could do.
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I remember doing this, too. I specifically remember telling my parents, "I can't wait to be an adult, so I can drive, and have a job, and do whatever I want!"

:rolleyes:
 
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