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ChandlerFan

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#81
If you want to know why disputes happen on forums (or social media in general) nowadays, here is the reason:

Person A makes a thread about a topic.

Person B comes along and one of two things happen: Either Person B criticizes what Person A said, or Person B responds with some reply that is not at all confrontational.

If Person B responds in the first way, then Person A responds with a rebuttal and we have a debate on our hands. Either that or Person C comes along and jumps in to criticize Person B and/or defend Person A.

Look at any social media status update or forum thread where there is bickering and you will see the exact same trend play out over and over again. Someone comes along and criticizes another person's post and all of a sudden you have two perspectives pitted against each other and other people join in and take a side.

If you want to avoid this kind of disharmony, 1) don't respond critically to someone else, and 2) don't respond to another person's criticism. Don't engage in taking sides.

Of course there are some things that I think are worth having discussions about. I'm one who likes to think critically myself. But if it's a topic about the weather or bike-riding, then yeah, not worth anyone's time, and it is lame when someone turns a light-hearted thread into something more serious.
 
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theanointedsinner

Guest
#82
do you want more rewards in heaven?
then let me persecute you, then you will have more rewards in heaven.
 

Jewel5712

Well-known member
Jun 22, 2018
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#83
Ive often found that if IM having a bad day or bad attitude then percieve OTHERS actions etc in a negative way..and visa versa..so sometimes its our mindset when we go into that situation..(sometimes) my gma ised to say is "the good thing about attitudes and opinions is that they can always be CHANGED". :)
 

Lynx

Senior Member
Aug 13, 2014
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#84
Ive often found that if IM having a bad day or bad attitude then percieve OTHERS actions etc in a negative way..and visa versa..so sometimes its our mindset when we go into that situation..(sometimes) my gma ised to say is "the good thing about attitudes and opinions is that they can always be CHANGED". :)
Yup. Like my grandpappy always used to say, "to a man with horse manure on his upper lip, the whole world stinks."
 
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#87
Hmmmm! I see the sarcasim, and am wondering if its really that bad in here? I did notice my thread had to be approved. Before I'm pretty sure they weren't. In this section " singles " I haven't seen the down right crazy as I have in the other sections. I see alot of banter, pokes, and jabs that all seem in good fun. I haven't back scrolled very far though. Sad really!
 

Lynx

Senior Member
Aug 13, 2014
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#88
Yup, in the new forum format you have to wait for a moderator to approve a new thread. It's a measure to keep the trolls contained, y'see, so people can't just pop up some argument-starting or propaganda threads for kicks.

I like the concept, I approve of keeping trolls in check, I see where it is good and needed and right and useful in the forum... but it can get irritating waiting for a new thread to be approved.
 

calibob

Sinner saved by grace
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#89
This is the first non motorcycle related chat room I've been to. Being on the singles thread is especially new to me. I've been single and alone so long that It's a struggle just trying to think of something clever to say. I came here looking to make friends. Rather than just watching the news on you tube. I think the last time I was on a date was 12 or 13 years ago and being in a room full of friends just listening in or joining in when the mood strikes me is a new found joy..
 

Mel85

Daughter of the True King
Mar 28, 2018
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#90
Yup, in the new forum format you have to wait for a moderator to approve a new thread. It's a measure to keep the trolls contained, y'see, so people can't just pop up some argument-starting or propaganda threads for kicks.

I like the concept, I approve of keeping trolls in check, I see where it is good and needed and right and useful in the forum... but it can get irritating waiting for a new thread to be approved.
In saying that, it really doesn’t take that long for a thread to be approved. No longer than 1 hour at the most.
 
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toinena

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#91
In saying that, it really doesn’t take that long for a thread to be approved. No longer than 1 hour at the most.
Nope
I have been waiting 4 hours at times.
 

Lynx

Senior Member
Aug 13, 2014
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#92
Yeah, but you know how long that is in internet time? That's MONTHS!

But it is still a good idea. A bit irritating sometimes when you're waiting and waiting and waiting for a thread to drop, but on the balance it's a great idea. Cuts down on a lot of spam and other unwanted junk.
 

Mel85

Daughter of the True King
Mar 28, 2018
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#93
Nope
I have been waiting 4 hours at times.
I guess it’s just posting at the right time when a Mod is around.

Speaking of Mods, are there only two? RoboOp & OF?
 

Oncefallen

Idiot in Chief
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Jan 15, 2011
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#95
How long it takes just depends on who's around at the time that you post a new thread. If you post during the middle of the day (US time) chances are that it is going to take a while because I am at work and RoboOp (most likely) is in bed since he's on the other side of the world. There are a couple of other users who have the ability to approve new threads but their appearance during those hours is somewhat sporadic.

I usually log in for a couple of minutes before I leave for work in the morning just to clear the approval que but then I don't log back in until after I get home from work in the evening.