Hi have you been in the situation when you think someone likes youβ€ and start thinking all sorts then realise they were actually just being friendly towards you and that you had misinterpreted their behaviour?Or has your naturally friendly interaction with someone been misread by them whereby they'e thinking that you like them β€..and at some point you have to let then know that you are just being friendly and have no romantic feelings towards them?When I was a young Christian there was someone in my bible study who i got on so well with..she was super friendly and i soon misinterpreted her beautifully friendly manner as a sign that she like me β€..so one day we had a chat and it turned out she didn't like me at all in the way..just saw me as a friend thats it...
It did clear the air for me coz for weeks I was thinking all sorts and kept analysing her interaction with me as being displays of romantic affection when she was just actually being friendlyπ
Also i have noticed over the years that sometimes single Christians may have issues mixing together sometimes because there is somehow the presumption that someone gonna mistake their friendliness for something elseπ€·ββοΈThis can make singles Christian have feeling of unease sometimes and sometimes it doesn't even happen like that anyway...natural friendships are formed between the sexes without anything being misread...although it can and does happen sometimes too.
People can even be a bit defensive coz they somehow assume you're gonna get clingy or think they like you or even like them..
I mean most of us can have platonic friendships without assuming the other person is gonna somehow think we like them β€..just because we're being friendly and enjoying their company..
Love to hear from you..π
Has your friendliness been mistaken for something else by someone or have you misread someones friendliness to you..thinking they have feeling for you..when infact they're just
being friendly?
Sometimes it can be embarrassing or uncomfortable pending on what happens..
I'm no expert in this, so I'm not gonna claim that this is something like an advice. More like sharing what I feel and understand. If you're single then you are going to be attracted by other single women and they will feel attracted to you too when you show interest and even when you don't sometimes. The attraction is natural. There's just a very thin line between falling in love and maintaining a good friendship. Because if you like someone, it's easy to fall in love with that person.
Falling in love is something that happens in a matter of seconds. It's not as complicated as people make it to be.
Although in between the attraction, you have a lot of factors. You look for compatibility. If two people think it's going to go well between them, then most likely it will. But people draw a line and friend zone someone when they feel that they're looking for some other qualities or expect something different from the partner to give to them. And if they think they're not going to get that from you then they won't go for you.
A simple way to succeed in love is to keep an open heart, pray to God for the right kind of life partner you want to have and allow the person to have a place in your life when they want in. And see where it goes from there. If you feel that you love someone, make sure you tell them quick, you may not get a chance to say it otherwise to that person. A rejection is better than to never have tried. It could be embarrassing, but if you look at it that way, it's going to make it harder.
Then again, God knows better for you should the person you love say no. Get used to the NOs. And most people say no initially. You could try again, if you aren't satisfied with the first rejection. But I personally prefer to move on once I know my feelings are not reciprocated by the Lady. I definitely move on when the woman has already found a man or if I find out she's seeing someone. Some people would still try even then. I'd say that's a good sign to move on and find someone else.
Or keep in prayer and wait. God will provide. Just be aware when He provides.
All the best