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I was in the same situation as BillyTheKid. I dated, and then married someone who was not Christian. When I met her I overlooked the differences in upbringing, and the differences in our faiths. That was a mistake. She left me over trivial things like me working too much at one point. All of my efforts to reconcile fell on deaf ears. She simply does not believe the same things I do in regards to divorce, among other things. When two people meet, and one of them expects the spouse to make them happy 100% of the time, instead of focusing on the Lord, the marriage will fail. If you are thinking about a relationship with a non-believer, heed the advice of those strong in the Lord. We are not to be unequally yoked. It is simply not wise.
B
I know this discussion was a little while ago but I have just seen it and I find it pretty interesting.
I am a Christian, I love Jesus more than anyone or anything in the entire world and I want my life to be entirely lived for him.
BUT.....I did date an non-christian. I loved him and he loved me. He was my best friend, we were brilliant together. He didn't believe but he encouraged me in all I did....including faith related activites. He was brilliant, the relationship was brilliant and I was happier than I think I have EVER been.
On the other hand...I have dated a christian also. This boy was inconsiderate, he assaulted my confidence and my self-esteem. While I was with him I was constantly feeling belittled and low. I was in no way happy. It was a horrble relationship and it result in a lot of hurt and scars.
So I don't think the answer is as clear cut as we'd like to assume. I think it depends on the invidual and the specific situation. I personall beleive in matters such as this you have to pray really hard about what God wants for you (and I don't think the answer is always no regarding non-christians).
Assess on an individual basis, don't tar all christian and non christian relationships with the same brush.
Thats just my thought on it anyway.
God Bless
Becky <><
I am a Christian, I love Jesus more than anyone or anything in the entire world and I want my life to be entirely lived for him.
BUT.....I did date an non-christian. I loved him and he loved me. He was my best friend, we were brilliant together. He didn't believe but he encouraged me in all I did....including faith related activites. He was brilliant, the relationship was brilliant and I was happier than I think I have EVER been.
On the other hand...I have dated a christian also. This boy was inconsiderate, he assaulted my confidence and my self-esteem. While I was with him I was constantly feeling belittled and low. I was in no way happy. It was a horrble relationship and it result in a lot of hurt and scars.
So I don't think the answer is as clear cut as we'd like to assume. I think it depends on the invidual and the specific situation. I personall beleive in matters such as this you have to pray really hard about what God wants for you (and I don't think the answer is always no regarding non-christians).
Assess on an individual basis, don't tar all christian and non christian relationships with the same brush.
Thats just my thought on it anyway.
God Bless
Becky <><
R
i believe betastic that you have to look at the bigger picture.my ex is not a committed christian but he treats me like no man ever treated me before.eventhough we are not togheter he cares for me and still treats me like his girlfriend.but i still believe that if he doesnt love the lord than he can never trully love you the way he is suppose too.you gotte look at the bigger picture.if hes not a christian, how is he going to be the spiritual leader once you guys get married? hes gonna be the descion maker while you support him and if he does not have christ as a foundation than how do you expect him to make the right decisions??? God says if you love ME obey MY commandments...i can not imagine being with someone who does not love my LORD as much as i do.you might not see the problem right now but 95% of the time you do get faced with problems and sadly it is during marriage that these things are discovered.i believe God had a reason why He said ''do not be unequally yoked''.we should not let the charming non christian throw God's commandement out of the window.believe it or not sister,eventually troubles are going to come your way if you ignore that commandment...
i hope i made sense
God bless!
i hope i made sense
God bless!
L
I tried to date a non christian few months ago but i realized that now all the things have sense in my life because of God, so to be with someone that doesn´t love God is a non-sense relationship for me.
Besides that, for me is important not only to be a christian but the most important is that he loves God.
Besides that, for me is important not only to be a christian but the most important is that he loves God.
N
Well, Scripture isn't silent on the matter, but I'll start with why it's a terrible idea. A healthy relationship with Christ places Christ (and the Glory of God) as the central, "gravitational point" of life. All things revolve around, are focused by, and enriched by their relationship to God as the ultimate source of joy.
Does he/she really want to share life with someone who doesn't share his/her most fundamental, essential love? Is love even possible when that which gives your very identity is not shared? Is agreement and enrichment even likely when your worldviews and understandings of the universe are in conflict?
Maybe he/she hasn't thought about that - but they really should. Who we choose to be in relationship with is the (some of the) most important choices we make in life.
2 Corinthians 6:14-16 14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God;
What an unbeliever and a believer share is merely superficial. Those who are in Christ are a New Creation, whose desires (ought) to be dramatically different than someone who is still dead and under the power of Sin. Our Natures are different because of God's work (and continuing work) in us.
When I was dating (happily married now) I had many friends who were lost. I never desired to date them - why would I? They didn't even share my greatest affection. My wife is a Godly woman and a constant edification and encouragement to me. She honors me in ways I never deserved, and never looks to me to be her salvation and ultimate satisfier of that human longing for God. It is wonderful and (though we are imperfect) it's God's intention in marriage that you both live under submission to Christ and in unified relationship with God.
Does he/she really want to share life with someone who doesn't share his/her most fundamental, essential love? Is love even possible when that which gives your very identity is not shared? Is agreement and enrichment even likely when your worldviews and understandings of the universe are in conflict?
Maybe he/she hasn't thought about that - but they really should. Who we choose to be in relationship with is the (some of the) most important choices we make in life.
2 Corinthians 6:14-16 14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God;
What an unbeliever and a believer share is merely superficial. Those who are in Christ are a New Creation, whose desires (ought) to be dramatically different than someone who is still dead and under the power of Sin. Our Natures are different because of God's work (and continuing work) in us.
When I was dating (happily married now) I had many friends who were lost. I never desired to date them - why would I? They didn't even share my greatest affection. My wife is a Godly woman and a constant edification and encouragement to me. She honors me in ways I never deserved, and never looks to me to be her salvation and ultimate satisfier of that human longing for God. It is wonderful and (though we are imperfect) it's God's intention in marriage that you both live under submission to Christ and in unified relationship with God.
L
My thoughts on that is that it should not be done. You may think you can convert them or persuade them over to God's side, but my dear friends it is plan in the Word of God. It says two things that we ought to follow. The first one is in Corinthians ( I believe) saying that we should not be unequally yoked with non-believers. The other one says that evil communications corrupts good manners. It's true. I've done it and failed miserably...