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Turnoffs
1) puts me down with his words/ undermines me
2) doesn't listen to what i'm saying/doesn't respect my opinions
3) complains about food(picky eater)
4) touches my face without my consent
5)doesn't like dogs
6) talks during a movie
7) doesn't like to share their food
8) drinks irresponsibly, smokes cigarettes and/or marijuana or under the influence of other substances
9) not open to explore new experiences, cultures, food, places and etc...
10)the biggest turn off: doesn't have a relationship with Christ
1) puts me down with his words/ undermines me
2) doesn't listen to what i'm saying/doesn't respect my opinions
3) complains about food(picky eater)
4) touches my face without my consent
5)doesn't like dogs
6) talks during a movie
7) doesn't like to share their food
8) drinks irresponsibly, smokes cigarettes and/or marijuana or under the influence of other substances
9) not open to explore new experiences, cultures, food, places and etc...
10)the biggest turn off: doesn't have a relationship with Christ
When I was looking-
- Showing too much skin (simultaneously a turn on and a turn off, a turn on to the flesh, but makes you have to avert your eyes.)
- Smoking.
- Drunkenness.
- Dirty jokes or dirty flirting.
- Using God's name in a disrespectful way.
- Tatoos
- Poor personal hygiene
- Too aggressive or too needy.
- Figuring out where I live and showing up at 6 AM outside my window on Saturday saying "I love you." (I had a stalker for a while there.)
- Showing too much skin (simultaneously a turn on and a turn off, a turn on to the flesh, but makes you have to avert your eyes.)
- Smoking.
- Drunkenness.
- Dirty jokes or dirty flirting.
- Using God's name in a disrespectful way.
- Tatoos
- Poor personal hygiene
- Too aggressive or too needy.
- Figuring out where I live and showing up at 6 AM outside my window on Saturday saying "I love you." (I had a stalker for a while there.)
Ok.....*takes a deep breath* XD
Hmm...turnoffs. There's a lot XD some of these, i may have written on the "Dateable, Undateable" thread.
1) Short tempered. Gets easily riled up by the smallest of offenses (like being accidentally bumped by another person, getting overtaken in traffic, not being able to decide where to go on a date, short delays in going somewhere, etc....)
2) Impatient (very much connected to number one)
3) Fond of cursing and F-bombing (when i said cursing, i mean REALLY cursing, like wishing that the entire family of the person who offended him would all just die violent deaths and such
4) Immature (a man-child or man-baby XD yeesh!!! Can you imagine a guy who'd shout and curse at you, then walk out on you, just because you couldn't decide where the 2 of you should eat? XD)
5) Couldn't be genuinely happy. Like nothing good ever happens in his life. And he couldn't be happy for me when i have good things coming my way. Or the type who'll resent you, and tell you that you are a jerk for being so well off, and that someday, he'll show you and the rest of the world that he'll be on top and looking down on you all XD unbelievably psycho, with delusions of being persecuted (don't know how i lasted 4 years with said guy >.<)
6) Makes you pay for your dates. To be honest, i don't like being made to pay (unless it's an even split, 50-50). It makes me feel very much used, and not very special. Why would you ask a girl out when you're not ready to treat her to a good time? If you're strapped on cash, you better let her know before going to the place, or be resourceful enough, and set up a date that doesn't require much or any spending (heck, i'm not materialistic! XD We could just go for nature walks or treks, run around the park or playground like kids, play video games, go swimming in a lake, write songs or poems together, and he's won me over!
i'd very much love to be asked to cook for our date, instead of paying for whatever he had in mind XD)
7) Not listening. I am sick and tired of guys who wouldn't even care to really listen >.< i don't care if he thinks i'm pretty or sexy, and couldn't get his eyes, or his hands off of me. As flattering as it all seems, i'd much rather fascinate him with my mind, instead of my looks. I don't want a shallow relationship. I want a man who's engaged with me on a deeper level, being stimulated and inspired by my thoughts and ideas, and he, doing the same for me. More so towards a deeper relationship with GOD at its very core!
8) Not talking or opening up. I'm no mind reader, and if i'm asking what's on his mind, i don't want him to say it's nothing, when it obviously isn't XD if he can't be bothered to spend even just a few minutes to say what he's thinking or what he's about, i'm leaving.
9) Arrogant.I'm tired of men who think they're so good looking, or so rich, or so smart, that they should always be at the top, and everyone else are just a bunch of losers XD
10) Unhygienic.Dirty-looking. Smelly. Doesn't bathe nor brush. Dresses like a slob. Picks his nose in public, then just wipes anywhere. Unless he's so sick or injured, that he couldn't move about and take care of himself, he has no excuse to be gross! >.<
11) Into vices. Smoking cigarettes, drinking heavy liquor regularly, gambling like there's no tomorrow. A big NO.
12) Lazy. Doesn't take care of himself, doesn't workout, doesn't work, doesn't know how to clean up after himself. Ugh!!! >.<
13) Messy. I don't mind the occasional clutter. But if his house looks like it's become a nesting ground for rats and roaches, that's not cute at all!!! >.<
14) Doesn't take correction. I so dislike men who think they could never be wrong. If they couldn't open their mind to the fact that they thought, or did, or believed wrong, i couldn't open my heart to them at all >.<
15) Lusty. Couldn't take his eyes or hands off me in a very sexual manner. Into pornography and sexual thoughts and habits. Tempts me sexually. I'd run away from this man >.<
16) Inconsistent. Says one thing, but does another. Very confusing. Or a liar.
17) Unreasonably noisy. Talks too loud. Chews too noisily (if it's 'coz the food is really crunchy, i'd understand. But if you make me picture how your food is ending up inside your mouth...i'd run and puke >.<). Gracelessly moving about, handling objects carelessly...i want a man, not a toddler >.<
18) UnGODly. Not a man of GOD, therefore, not living for GOD, nor ruled by GOD, nor loving GOD. Impossible for me to like this kind of man anymore. 'Nuff said. He's just gonna bring me down.
Hmm...turnoffs. There's a lot XD some of these, i may have written on the "Dateable, Undateable" thread.
1) Short tempered. Gets easily riled up by the smallest of offenses (like being accidentally bumped by another person, getting overtaken in traffic, not being able to decide where to go on a date, short delays in going somewhere, etc....)
2) Impatient (very much connected to number one)
3) Fond of cursing and F-bombing (when i said cursing, i mean REALLY cursing, like wishing that the entire family of the person who offended him would all just die violent deaths and such
4) Immature (a man-child or man-baby XD yeesh!!! Can you imagine a guy who'd shout and curse at you, then walk out on you, just because you couldn't decide where the 2 of you should eat? XD)
5) Couldn't be genuinely happy. Like nothing good ever happens in his life. And he couldn't be happy for me when i have good things coming my way. Or the type who'll resent you, and tell you that you are a jerk for being so well off, and that someday, he'll show you and the rest of the world that he'll be on top and looking down on you all XD unbelievably psycho, with delusions of being persecuted (don't know how i lasted 4 years with said guy >.<)
6) Makes you pay for your dates. To be honest, i don't like being made to pay (unless it's an even split, 50-50). It makes me feel very much used, and not very special. Why would you ask a girl out when you're not ready to treat her to a good time? If you're strapped on cash, you better let her know before going to the place, or be resourceful enough, and set up a date that doesn't require much or any spending (heck, i'm not materialistic! XD We could just go for nature walks or treks, run around the park or playground like kids, play video games, go swimming in a lake, write songs or poems together, and he's won me over!
i'd very much love to be asked to cook for our date, instead of paying for whatever he had in mind XD)7) Not listening. I am sick and tired of guys who wouldn't even care to really listen >.< i don't care if he thinks i'm pretty or sexy, and couldn't get his eyes, or his hands off of me. As flattering as it all seems, i'd much rather fascinate him with my mind, instead of my looks. I don't want a shallow relationship. I want a man who's engaged with me on a deeper level, being stimulated and inspired by my thoughts and ideas, and he, doing the same for me. More so towards a deeper relationship with GOD at its very core!
8) Not talking or opening up. I'm no mind reader, and if i'm asking what's on his mind, i don't want him to say it's nothing, when it obviously isn't XD if he can't be bothered to spend even just a few minutes to say what he's thinking or what he's about, i'm leaving.
9) Arrogant.I'm tired of men who think they're so good looking, or so rich, or so smart, that they should always be at the top, and everyone else are just a bunch of losers XD
10) Unhygienic.Dirty-looking. Smelly. Doesn't bathe nor brush. Dresses like a slob. Picks his nose in public, then just wipes anywhere. Unless he's so sick or injured, that he couldn't move about and take care of himself, he has no excuse to be gross! >.<
11) Into vices. Smoking cigarettes, drinking heavy liquor regularly, gambling like there's no tomorrow. A big NO.
12) Lazy. Doesn't take care of himself, doesn't workout, doesn't work, doesn't know how to clean up after himself. Ugh!!! >.<
13) Messy. I don't mind the occasional clutter. But if his house looks like it's become a nesting ground for rats and roaches, that's not cute at all!!! >.<
14) Doesn't take correction. I so dislike men who think they could never be wrong. If they couldn't open their mind to the fact that they thought, or did, or believed wrong, i couldn't open my heart to them at all >.<
15) Lusty. Couldn't take his eyes or hands off me in a very sexual manner. Into pornography and sexual thoughts and habits. Tempts me sexually. I'd run away from this man >.<
16) Inconsistent. Says one thing, but does another. Very confusing. Or a liar.
17) Unreasonably noisy. Talks too loud. Chews too noisily (if it's 'coz the food is really crunchy, i'd understand. But if you make me picture how your food is ending up inside your mouth...i'd run and puke >.<). Gracelessly moving about, handling objects carelessly...i want a man, not a toddler >.<
18) UnGODly. Not a man of GOD, therefore, not living for GOD, nor ruled by GOD, nor loving GOD. Impossible for me to like this kind of man anymore. 'Nuff said. He's just gonna bring me down.
Oh! I like your writing here but, point 6, is general thought: Most like to be paid! (men or women). It plenty fair what you mention on that 50 + 50, but my experience tells me many women tend to spent more and my 50 is more than what I have already consumed: If I don´t have to pay for a date, I PROBABLY DON´T HAVE TO PAY FOR THE WHOLE LIFE... Your alternative of cooking (or willing to help in that) soundS quite interesting, because the other could bring food and a working hand (Good for you and for him who haves you as neighbor).
In my case I would write point 18 above all. All those shortcuts you mentioned are in both, men and women, but the fact you mentioned this exact and acute list, will serve to correct or amend us all. I hove you don´t mind I copy this. And thanks! This type of things make real good for human relationships.
In my case I would write point 18 above all. All those shortcuts you mentioned are in both, men and women, but the fact you mentioned this exact and acute list, will serve to correct or amend us all. I hove you don´t mind I copy this. And thanks! This type of things make real good for human relationships.
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See, for me, dating and marriage kinda lead to one another. I wouldn't just date to have a date. I date with intent. So with that, I have plenty of turn-offs. But I think I will just give top 5.
1) Dating turnoffs for me would definitely have to be dating someone who is deeply into fashion. Fashion (no offense to you fashionistas) is one of the least favorite things of all time. I personally see no value to fashion and clothing. It's just so silly. I go out and I wear basically t-shirt and shorts. If a woman tried to change that up, I would be a little mad. Plus, I don't have the money to afford super-expensive clothes. That money needs to go to different places, like missions and food care. Fashion is just pointless to me.
2) Cussing and yelling in general. This is a personal one. Now the cussing, you just don't need to do that. But the yelling is a bit more personal. I grew up hearing my parents yell and argue all the time, which created a lot of distress for me in my heart. I personally am a big peace guy, and I don't like there to be discord and chaos within a relationship. I just don't want to feel like I am fighting against my partner. If we're going to date/marry, we need to be a team. My partner should not be my enemy. I personally am not big for arguments.
3) Dreading her presence. Simply put. If I sense a dark cloud coming into the room and you are in it, it's a bad sign. The relationship is over. I would rather have it where I enjoy you being around instead of getting ulcers when you come near me.
4) Party girls. I am so not a party person. I can dance to a Christian song here or there, but I do not like to do the whole nightclub thing. I don't want the bar girls that dances close to every guy. Not even cool. Not my scene.
5) Someone who doesn't respect my convictions & values. My commitment is to marriage and marriage only. My partner will have to know that there will be no hanky-panky before the rings are on. If the partner does not agree with me or tries to break me before getting to the altar will this as the message:
1) Dating turnoffs for me would definitely have to be dating someone who is deeply into fashion. Fashion (no offense to you fashionistas) is one of the least favorite things of all time. I personally see no value to fashion and clothing. It's just so silly. I go out and I wear basically t-shirt and shorts. If a woman tried to change that up, I would be a little mad. Plus, I don't have the money to afford super-expensive clothes. That money needs to go to different places, like missions and food care. Fashion is just pointless to me.
2) Cussing and yelling in general. This is a personal one. Now the cussing, you just don't need to do that. But the yelling is a bit more personal. I grew up hearing my parents yell and argue all the time, which created a lot of distress for me in my heart. I personally am a big peace guy, and I don't like there to be discord and chaos within a relationship. I just don't want to feel like I am fighting against my partner. If we're going to date/marry, we need to be a team. My partner should not be my enemy. I personally am not big for arguments.
3) Dreading her presence. Simply put. If I sense a dark cloud coming into the room and you are in it, it's a bad sign. The relationship is over. I would rather have it where I enjoy you being around instead of getting ulcers when you come near me.
4) Party girls. I am so not a party person. I can dance to a Christian song here or there, but I do not like to do the whole nightclub thing. I don't want the bar girls that dances close to every guy. Not even cool. Not my scene.
5) Someone who doesn't respect my convictions & values. My commitment is to marriage and marriage only. My partner will have to know that there will be no hanky-panky before the rings are on. If the partner does not agree with me or tries to break me before getting to the altar will this as the message:
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I thought of a few more, for silly purposes only (well, mainly )
- Puts the toilet paper roll with the toilet paper going under the roll instead of over
- Doesn't like bacon
- Doesn't like breakfast food (I don't even know how this is possible, but it is)
)- Puts the toilet paper roll with the toilet paper going under the roll instead of over
- Doesn't like bacon
- Doesn't like breakfast food (I don't even know how this is possible, but it is)