What Do Men REALLY Mean When They Say, "God Made Men Visual"?

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What Are Men REALLY Saying When They Say, "God Made Men Visual?"

  • Men have a God-given right to a physically beautiful wife.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Men have a God-given right to trade in a no-longer beautiful wife for one he thinks IS beautiful.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Men have a God-given right to have wives who are much better-looking than they are.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • It's no big deal that when a guy looks at or is addicted to porn. After all, God made men visual!

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Men's sexual needs are more imporant than the sexual needs of their wives.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Men's sexual needs are more important than the emotional needs of their wives.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Men's sexual needs are greater than women's and so men should be allowed more freedoms.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Men need more grace and understanding with sexuality than women.

    Votes: 1 11.1%
  • Men and women have equal needs that require equal amounts of respece and fulfillment.

    Votes: 4 44.4%
  • Hold your wild horses! I have my own answer, which I'm going to post:

    Votes: 6 66.7%

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JustEli

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dear diary..............
 

JustEli

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the woman in the black n white gif, I find attractive..............
 

Demi777

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Im reminded of a video on youtube...i dunno if i should post...hmmm talking about men being visual 😂
 
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RodB65

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When guys say "God made man visual"... They are saying it's ok for them to look like a slob but their woman has got to be sports illustrated swim suit caliber.
 

GHClarkII

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Hey Everyone,

We had a recent discussion about what women really mean when they say they're looking for a man to be a good provider, which was actually meant to explore the stereotype that women are only out for money.

Now it's time to check out the flip side and take a look at the counter-stereotype, that men are are only out for sex.

I've lost count of the number of times I've heard men say, "God made men visual!" But what exactly does that mean? Maybe I've just had bad experiences with this phrase, but I tend to brace myself every time I hear it, because the only way I've heard it used was as an excuse:

* (From the boyfriend who was printing out porn from the internet) -- "Boys will be boys. After all, God made us visual... no big deal."

* The profile of a guy on a Christian dating site who wrote that he was only interested in talking to "former cheerleaders, gymnasts, and women with slim, athletic bodies, because God made men visual." I'll at least give this guy points for theoretically posting an honest picture, because he was clearly at least 50 pounds overweight and had a very obvious, protruding double chin.

I wanted to write and ask him, "If God made men visual, do you think that He made women blind?"

Please note--I'm not shaking my head over the fact that he was overweight--almost everyone has struggles in that area. But what had me questioning his statement that "God made men visual" is that he clearly believed he had a God-given right to expect standards in a partner that he clearly did not meet himself.

* Another dating profile on the same Christian site in which a guy stated, "If you're the kind of girl that everyone says has a great personality, don't bother writing me. God made men visual, and so I need an exceptionally beautiful wife."

I admit that this statement about God making men visual has always made me cringe because I've never heard it said in any other context.

And so, I'm asking all the fellas (and the ladies, and everyone else) to enlighten a sister and tell us what it REALLY means when men say that God made them visual. I've given some of my own interpretations in the poll (which is anonymous and multiple choice,) but please feel free to write in your own answers as well.

I should also write a disclaimer in that I am NOT trying to bash men AT ALL, and am hoping to have a respectful discussion of a phrase I might very well be misunderstanding.

I'm not arguing that God didn't make men visual. But what I would argue is that God didn't make this as an excuse for sinful choices or a means by which to demand qualities that one does not qualify for. And I realize that not every guy who says this has bad intentions in mind.

Is there actually a positive way of looking at such a commonly-made statement?

(And for any guy who would tell me that God made men visual, I would have to counter that with, "God made women emotional.") If I would ever marry again, he would have to be someone who would already understand that just as a man would expect his visual/physical needs in marriage, he would be just as dedicated to meeting the emotional needs of his wife.)

But I could very well be wrong.

What are YOUR thoughts on the statement that "God Made Men Visual?"
I can't speak for all men, but I'll give my thoughts. Some men use that phrase as a catch-all excuse to do stupid things like cheat or look at porn. Some use it to claim they only go for beautiful women because they can't help how they were made. I will recognize that the visual aspect of relationships is important to men. A beautiful women catches our eye, it is how we are wired. But that does not mean only looks matter or that we can do whatever we want because we can't help ourselves. We can!!!!! It isn't a biblical phrase so I wouldn't use it myself, as if it were the truth from God. But it is a part of us we have to deal with.
 

Subhumanoidal

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I have to admit that the constant message that women are only seeking status and wealth really frustrates me.
Of course you say that from the point of view of a woman talking to women. Not a man dating women. Most women won't admit to such things, but it will arise when the choices come up.
The women I've known who are not focused on such things are often still influenced by it, even if it's to a lesser degree.
I was once dumped 9 months into a relationship because I wasn't doing well enough financially. And this was someone that did not seem financially motivated typically. And that wasn't the only relationship where similar issues arose.
And I don't attract, nor attracted to, shallow women. So it IS a real thing, to varying degrees. Just that many women don't admit it.
 

seoulsearch

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Of course you say that from the point of view of a woman talking to women. Not a man dating women. Most women won't admit to such things, but it will arise when the choices come up.
The women I've known who are not focused on such things are often still influenced by it, even if it's to a lesser degree.
I was once dumped 9 months into a relationship because I wasn't doing well enough financially. And this was someone that did not seem financially motivated typically. And that wasn't the only relationship where similar issues arose.
And I don't attract, nor attracted to, shallow women. So that IS a real thing, to varying degrees. Just that many women don't admit it.
I understand what you're saying about financial matters, and can assure you that it most definitely goes both ways.

One of the things I've fought very hard to do in the years I've been single is to pay down as much debt as possible and work towards being as financially responsible as I can.

One of the reasons I'm single is because I've met plenty of men who seek out a woman who is financially stable to marry so that he doesn't have to pay off anything for her, but will then expect her to use all the money she earns towards paying off the debts he accrued before meeting her. Now of course, if I genuinely fell in love with someone, there might still be a way to make things work. But in the past, I was content with just having someone pay attention to me and that somehow (at the time) seemed to make up for the fact that I was being used.

I understand that money matters to everyone in some degree, and that many people, whether man or woman, are looking for someone whom they think will elevate their financial position.

Just as an observation... It's interesting to see the shift in dynamics as people get older. There are far more single women than men (at least in the 70-90 age range I've been around), so the men basically have their pick, and the women who are chosen are generally the ones who were left with some kind of estate, house, inheritance, etc., when their former husbands died.

The women with nothing are quickly looked over and left alone. If people are concerned about material survival when they are younger, I can see why it would be an even more prevalent consideration as they get older.

I was thinking about this as I attended an event with older family members today in which there were about 20 single women, and maybe 2 men.

However, this is just my own observation, and maybe others with more experience in this area might have seen things go differently?
 

JustEli

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Man in his mid 40's iso super hot, level headed woman, willing to pay all my bills and debt.
accepting resumes, I mean, uh, pm me, or somethin
 
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One of the things I've fought very hard to do in the years I've been single is to pay down as much debt as possible and work towards being as financially responsible as I can.

I understand that money matters to everyone in some degree, and that many people, whether man or woman, are looking for someone whom they think will elevate their financial position.
Awesome Kim! It’s commendable. This type of attitude is really what I would want more than someone who I think will increase my financial position, if that makes sense? For instance, I’d rather the woman make 10K a year and be financially responsible, than make 100K, and blow 5K randomly on whatever. What I would really want though is a woman who is content to let me worry about finances, working, not work herself, stay at home, and raise a family. From my view, this is awesome, to be commended, and not to be looked down on in any way. Though, I think today's society would have us believe otherwise.

I don’t think money buys happiness, which is a pretty cliche statement. And yet it still seems to be important to a lot of people. A better way to put that might be, more important than it should be. We absolutely struggled early on when I was in the military, but through a lot of hard work, and without a doubt being blessed by God, it turned around over the years. More money made things easier, but I don’t think we were happier because of it. The improvement in that area didn’t help the marriage at all. Could you make the argument that if we had it in the beginning, it would have made a difference? Maybe…

Has anyone seen The Family Man with Nicholas Cage and Tea Leoni? It kind of delves into this whole area.
 

Mel85

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Man in his mid 40's iso super hot, level headed woman, willing to pay all my bills and debt.
accepting resumes, I mean, uh, pm me, or somethin
My criteria is, do you watch wrestling?
 

Didymous

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I understand what you're saying about financial matters, and can assure you that it most definitely goes both ways.

One of the things I've fought very hard to do in the years I've been single is to pay down as much debt as possible and work towards being as financially responsible as I can.

One of the reasons I'm single is because I've met plenty of men who seek out a woman who is financially stable to marry so that he doesn't have to pay off anything for her, but will then expect her to use all the money she earns towards paying off the debts he accrued before meeting her. Now of course, if I genuinely fell in love with someone, there might still be a way to make things work. But in the past, I was content with just having someone pay attention to me and that somehow (at the time) seemed to make up for the fact that I was being used.

I understand that money matters to everyone in some degree, and that many people, whether man or woman, are looking for someone whom they think will elevate their financial position.

Just as an observation... It's interesting to see the shift in dynamics as people get older. There are far more single women than men (at least in the 70-90 age range I've been around), so the men basically have their pick, and the women who are chosen are generally the ones who were left with some kind of estate, house, inheritance, etc., when their former husbands died.

The women with nothing are quickly looked over and left alone. If people are concerned about material survival when they are younger, I can see why it would be an even more prevalent consideration as they get older.

I was thinking about this as I attended an event with older family members today in which there were about 20 single women, and maybe 2 men.

However, this is just my own observation, and maybe others with more experience in this area might have seen things go differently?

I don't know about other races or ethnicities, but Native American women often try to spend money on men-the way men used to be known for doing for women. When I was younger and unsaved, I sometimes benefited from this.
 

Subhumanoidal

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I understand what you're saying about financial matters, and can assure you that it most definitely goes both ways.

One of the things I've fought very hard to do in the years I've been single is to pay down as much debt as possible and work towards being as financially responsible as I can.

One of the reasons I'm single is because I've met plenty of men who seek out a woman who is financially stable to marry so that he doesn't have to pay off anything for her, but will then expect her to use all the money she earns towards paying off the debts he accrued before meeting her. Now of course, if I genuinely fell in love with someone, there might still be a way to make things work. But in the past, I was content with just having someone pay attention to me and that somehow (at the time) seemed to make up for the fact that I was being used.

I understand that money matters to everyone in some degree, and that many people, whether man or woman, are looking for someone whom they think will elevate their financial position.

Just as an observation... It's interesting to see the shift in dynamics as people get older. There are far more single women than men (at least in the 70-90 age range I've been around), so the men basically have their pick, and the women who are chosen are generally the ones who were left with some kind of estate, house, inheritance, etc., when their former husbands died.

The women with nothing are quickly looked over and left alone. If people are concerned about material survival when they are younger, I can see why it would be an even more prevalent consideration as they get older.

I was thinking about this as I attended an event with older family members today in which there were about 20 single women, and maybe 2 men.

However, this is just my own observation, and maybe others with more experience in this area might have seen things go differently?
I was merely pointing out that this thing you were tired of hearing, and feel that it's not true, is actually true. Of course not for every woman, but it is prevalent. Some women simply take it to further extremes. The same way some men take a womans appearance to be a greater priority than anything else. I could as easily say that's not true, based off of men that i've spoken to, but taking a look around outside of my circle i see it a lot.
And that the perspective of a woman may be different than that of a man that's dating women.

Equally i could say i've never known a man that wanted a woman with money for the reasons you stated. But i'm not going to state it doesn't happen because i've not witnessed it. And thus is the problem with defining behavior by the people we surround ourselves with. You're likely to have many people around you with similar degrees of priorities and morality. It's not feasible to believe that a small group of like minded people are a good indicator of the whole of society.

:)