What's holding you back?

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GreenNnice

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PopClick said:
Like ordering dinner FOR your date, instead of asking her what she'd like. Let her pick... the guy AND the grub.
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I don't understand 'the guy or the grub' part pop.click!, i understand other part, I think, saying guy doesn't need to ask her what she wants to eat , just order for her.

I think.the guy should ask her what she wants to order then order for her, but ordering for her without consulting her first, THAT could be disastrous . Maybe she doesn't hear what you say or Thai noodles ordered and she,not aware peanut sauce is on it and shes allergic to peanuts :eek:

Jullianna said:
I agree, Popclick. If a guy does the hot/cold thing too often/too long, the woman might get the idea that he's playing games with her and order a bunch of cats instead of dinner :)
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Are my green brains sleeping tonight up there , I wonder, cuz this I understand neither, julieannie. Hot/cold, huh, sounds like a hide the Polly pocket in the sand game I play witn my nieces , 5 and 2, on the beach :D
Snackersmom said:
I think that if a guy respects a girl enough that he would want to date her, he should also respect her enough to tell her how he feels, and let her make her own decision. Regardless of what her decision is, at least he won't spend the rest of his life wondering what she MIGHT have said.....I suppose you could say "Nothing ventured, nothing gained", but to me it's more a matter of "Do I trust this lady enough to let her decide for herself?"<<<< (hopefully with serious prayer included)
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If the guy trusts in God, snackers, then he will have the understanding, not to mention, bravery, to ask a girl out and be just fine with whatever decision the girl decides because....the Lord leads. :)

Note: Prayer is integrally important too. Let God know, guys, YOU really like this girl and will respect and treat her Godly, and, yes, like a princess :)
 
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GRA

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Liamson said:
When I see a woman who seemingly has everything that I'm looking for...
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When I see a woman who seemingly has everything that I am looking for...

She is married.

("Sorry -- she is already taken...")

"Oh, well..." :( :rolleyes:

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Jullianna

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I can't even begin to imagine how the guys would have reacted if a woman had implied that all of the good ones were taken :)

*placing my order for the two dozen cats*
 
Oncefallen

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Jullianna said:
I can't even begin to imagine how the guys would have reacted if a woman had implied that all of the good ones were taken :)

*placing my order for the two dozen cats*
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I think all of us guys have been there at least once in our lives, I know I have been in the past. I for one am well aware that there are not just some good, but some great ladies out there, some of them right here.



 
Liamson

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Oncefallen said:
I think all of us guys have been there at least once in our lives, I know I have been in the past. I for one am well aware that there are not just some good, but some great ladies out there, some of them right here.
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Indeed. (amen)
 
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GRA

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Jullianna said:
I can't even begin to imagine how the guys would have reacted if a woman had implied that all of the good ones were taken :)

*placing my order for the two dozen cats*
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"Sorry, ladies --- I did not mean it like that..."

Jullianna:

I was referring to women that I have actually [physically] met personally (in the past) --- saying that, the vast majority of women that I have ever met who "fit the profile" were already married...

I am not saying that all of the good ones are taken -- I am not implying that at all...

Nor am I implying that those who do not "fit the profile" are not "good ones" -- absolutely not! Certainly they are! For someone - just not necessarily for me.

I am referring to my particular experience with women (in the past) "who seemingly have everything that I am looking for" -- i.e., who "fit the profile"...

It is only those women that I am talking about.

("You just want to 'chew me up and spit me out' to see how I react - don't ya?" :D )

"What is holding me back? Severe communication problems..."

:)

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PopClick

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PopClick said:
Like ordering dinner FOR your date, instead of asking her what she'd like. Let her pick... the guy AND the grub.
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GreenNnice said:
I don't understand 'the guy or the grub' part pop.click!, i understand other part, I think, saying guy doesn't need to ask her what she wants to eat , just order for her.

I think.the guy should ask her what she wants to order then order for her, but ordering for her without consulting her first, THAT could be disastrous . Maybe she doesn't hear what you say or Thai noodles ordered and she,not aware peanut sauce is on it and shes allergic to peanuts :eek:
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Sorry, Mr. Green, looks like MY brains were a little green this time.

I meant, if a guy likes a lady but decides that someone else is better for her, and bows out... without ever telling the gal that he's interested in the first place... that reminds me of guys who order at a restaurant, "I'll have the blah blah blah, and she'll have the X Y Z." Without asking her what she wants. Maybe the dudes have only the best motives... but PLEASE, let her make her own decisions... after she knows all of her options. Fear of rejection is, I'm sure, a terrible thing. But, classy girls will let the guys down as easily as they can. That is all. :D
 
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Jullianna

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NOOOOOOOOOOOW they tell us! :rolleyes: Too late. They already delivered the cats...
 

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GreenNnice

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Indeed...

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Indeedy.

PopClick said:
Sorry, Mr. Green, looks like MY brains were a little green this time.

I meant, if a guy likes a lady but decides that someone else is better for her, and bows out... without ever telling the gal that he's interested in the first place... that reminds me of guys who order at a restaurant, "I'll have the blah blah blah, and she'll have the X Y Z." Without asking her what she wants. Maybe the dudes have only the best motives... but PLEASE, let her make her own decisions... after she knows all of her options. Fear of rejection is, I'm sure, a terrible thing. But, classy girls will let the guys down as easily as they can. That is all. :D
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Affirmative, poppity-click-click, absolutely, positively correcto amundo, a guy should let the girl make her own decision, however, the 'R' word is tough to take for we guys.

A classy rejection. Who has heard of such a thing :D

I hope you don't start off the classy rejection by referring to being dumped dude as 'dude.' :D
Maybe an exception to.that rule could be all those guys in california that call each other, 'dude.' :D

But, yes, with God, the rejection should be easy to understand and get through, even though it's not really easy at all, especially if you really like the girl and THOUGHT she really liked you, too.

Pop.click!: 'MY brains a little green this time'

Lol, now you know what I go through ALL THE TIME, milady, sigh, it's so hard being a 'green' of very little, and, very confuzled, heffalumped, and, woozled brains. Oh, the bother :D

Thx for the explaining :)

Liamson said:
Agreed.

When a women, doesn't get it and just randomly goes out with someone who doesn't deserve the time of day with her. I get mad, and I randomly ask out some random woman, because that is apparently what we are suppose to do. Be random and shallow d-bags, who spontaneously make irrational choices about women.

Then which ever one says yes, we forgive them of all of their faults, ignore them for 3 days, get dressed up and go shopping with them.

Because how well you know someone and how well they know you, is at the end of the day irrelevant.
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We are supposed to do what the Lord wants us to do, liams, and we do that via faith, for, in having faith we see hope, and, without faith,there's no hope, because one can only see our hope for love grow in faith, which is given unto us by The Great Hope.

Put your trust of finding love in The One who first Loved you as, as your Love for Him grows more and more your choices for picking love will become clearer and clearer until totally clear.

The Lord will lead you on your personal faith journey, growing in knowledge and wisdom of Him, so, have faith, you'll hold hope, and, you will see relationship building YOUR way, from resignation of His way not for you, with a whole new hope.

God bless ya, Christ bro :)
 
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Snackersmom

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^^^Says the guy with severe communication problems.......:D ;) :p
 
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GRA

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Snackersmom said:
^^^Says the guy with severe communication problems.......:D ;) :p
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*Walks away slowly, feet dragging, hands in pockets, head hanging, looking down, and mumbles:

"Can't even try to be funny..." :(:(:(

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Ugly said:
Well, seems that most of these women just don't seem open. Perfect example, this forum. There are a number of great Christian women in here, and guys, you know it. I guarantee you many of these guys have some kind of interest in a number or at least one of these women. Yet none of the women on this site keep all the men in 'nice guy' mode. And some of these guys would be good men to marry.
I often sit and read, especially in the singles forum, why some of these people aren't together. They're nice looking, single, Christians wanting to marry, talking daily, getting along, etc. I'll see where he'll make her laugh, make her think, show his faith, and do and say all the things she (as in the women in general) say they want in a man, and there are a few men like that, and they bypass them straight to 'nice guy' status. So, to me, thats a part of it.
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I get what your comin from with this. However this is the internet. I could sound awesome online, but be totally different in reality. A man or woman on this site could appear to have all the qualities someone would want in a husband/wife, but when you actually talk to them... it might be like night and day.
There have been a few people on here i thought were one way, but turned out to be a whoooooole other way in reality, And not in a good way.
Thats why this whole internet thing is tricky business, you never know who your really getting.
 
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djness

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I'm shallow and immature.

Ladies start your bidding.
 
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Jullianna

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Confusion is holding me back...waaaaaaaaaaaaay back at this point.

A guy expresses serious interest in you, then you get other women up in your business before you can even respond. You walk away.

He comes back. You try again. He asks for your phone number and your skype. You have trouble reaching one another. There's no skype request. You shrug and think...okay..I misunderstood. Moving on.

He says he wants to get to know you. He says he wants you to come into chat more. You do. You wait. He barely says more than hello to you and when he finally does, he tells you that you shouldn't be up so late. You give up.

He calls you, but leaves no message.........

You run over your phone with your car.

I don't chase men.
 
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Stephen63

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Ok, guys, it's time to quit typing and start talking! Just ask her for crying out loud! Just ask her," Are you looking for a relationship? If so, would you consider someone such as myself?" If she turns you down flat, and doesn't talk to you anymore, she's not worth having as a friend, let alone a girlfriend! A mature woman will be sympathetic enough to let you down gently, and still be your friend. Besides, I'm getting tired of reading these threads and I've already shaved three times! Just saying.............................:rolleyes:
 
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