Well, I hear you guys and gals, but I think it may sometimes be a little more complicated than that.
For my case, as an example, I have long (and sometimes desperately) wanted a woman to love who would love me back. I've cried fountains of tears for numbers of reasons over many years due to this fact.
Sometimes, I did pursue and play 'the man' role as much as appropriate, but I long found that relationships are a team effort. You have to interpret for the other person. If you don't speak the same language (usually meaning you have to learn a new one), a number of complications arise, and it more or less will not work out.
In spite of this, I learned all 'the rules' and could 'play the game' for whatever the situation, but I find that empty and shallow. You just have to truly be yourself (good, bad, and ugly), and let your partner be his/herself. If you can't love one another for who you really are, then often should you make it to marriage...well, let's just say that's one of many reasons why counselors and pastors are so busy.
No, even all that aside, I would actively seek out and start relationships, only to find that they were not what God had planned for me. In the long run, though we may have grown from the experience, I only ended up hurting myself and those I loved.
After all of that, I finally got the message, and decided I would seek God first in having a relationships. Now, I don't just go looking, but seriously pray and await God's answer, in His time, for who he'll have me be with. There's more to it than that, but I'll give you this short version for now. ^_^