Its strange to me to think that two people could simply occupy the same space and therefore want to be together.
Given their opposite gender and of similar age and available, thats pretty much how sexual attraction works.
Also There is a fundamental shift in the perception of the reason for getting married.
But who is shifted and who is the shiftee?
It seems as if JGPS, wants to be married for the sake of marriage and all the trappings that go with it.
It is not good for man to be alone.
Whereas, I believe that a person can go their whole life without marriage, unless one particular person comes along and I find that we cannot be separated, therefore I marry them.
There is a popular country song to that effect. But unless one is or chooses to be a eunuch, marriage and family is very much part of their calling.
Marriage was created for man, not man for marriage. I was not designed to arbitrarily fulfill my duty to someone as their husband, for the sake of itself.
It never was arbitrary, it was for many good things, both personal and social.
we live in a Culture that says, there is something missing if we are not keeping up with the Jones and getting married and having children and projecting the image of social success. But we are Christians, we do not need or want such a measure. We do not measure our success or failure by the mate we do or do not have. Our Success is in the Lord, and He is who we take pride in
You live in a different culture than me. I see my culture as looking down on children and marriage in general. Constantly and in full force in fact.
I guess the big point is that romanticism and feelings of obsession don't make a good marriage. These things may be idealized by our culture, but our culture fails at marriage very severely.
You don't need someone you can't live without, you need someone who even when you cant stand Him and want him to go away you know that deep down, right or wrong in this situation, he cares about you and you are able to work things out. It's not the highs that kill marriages, its the lows.
You won't always feel like you can't live without him, even if you feel that way while you're dating.