When is it ok for a man to cry?

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When is it ok for a man to cry?

  • During a sad movie

    Votes: 5 10.4%

  • Birth of his child

    Votes: 8 16.7%

  • End of a romantic relationship

    Votes: 5 10.4%

  • When he's depressed or lonely

    Votes: 5 10.4%

  • Death of an acquaintance

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Death of a family member or friend

    Votes: 13 27.1%

  • Minor pain (paper cut, shaving injury)

    Votes: 3 6.3%

  • Moderate pain (gunshot/stab wound, broken limb)

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Extreme pain (torture)

    Votes: 3 6.3%

  • Never

    Votes: 6 12.5%
  • Total voters
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erika83

Senior Member
#61
Dec 17, 2008
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It's ok for men to cry in different situations but in my opinion, in private. I wouldn't like to see a guy crying in front of me.
 
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Meridoc

Guest
#62
#62
ChristopherMichael said:
Only OK to cry if you're alone, I think. Any other time and people think you're a nancy, or it's an attention thing. That's not saying you can never cry, just that you should leave or cover it up or something. For the most part. There's always exceptions though, I guess.

Sound kinda harsh, but life's rough like that, I guess.

- Topher
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Yea but since when does someone else's opinion really matter in this. I really don't care if someone thinks I am a nancy or looking for attention thats there issue not mine. I will cry when I ever I need to and let other people get over it.
 
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oopsies

Guest
#63
#63
Sharp said:
In touch with his feelings? Or just a big nancy boy?

What do YOU think?


Married women, does it bother you when your husband cries!!!


I think its acceptable in some circumstances, but I want to hear what you all think first.
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I can't speak for other guys but if I need to cry, I would do it in private. If there's no privacy at the moment, I would hold it in. If I can't hold it in, it would probably be something very moving or hurtful.
 
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erika83

Senior Member
#64
Dec 17, 2008
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oopsies said:
I can't speak for other guys but if I need to cry, I would do it in private. If there's no privacy at the moment, I would hold it in. If I can't hold it in, it would probably be something very moving or hurtful.
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I think that's the ideal for both men and women :)
 
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Cobblepot

Guest
#65
#65
Meridoc said:
Yea but since when does someone else's opinion really matter in this. I really don't care if someone thinks I am a nancy or looking for attention thats there issue not mine. I will cry when I ever I need to and let other people get over it.
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I'm with you, Meridoc.

Very rarely, once every few years, I'll experience a work of art so moving that it makes my eyes slowly swell with tears. A special euphoria like that occurs only so many times over the course of one's life, and I'm not about to squelch it in the name of some arbitrary notion of masculinity. If Michelangelo restrained his tears as he painted the Sistine Chapel, what a loss to human history.

I honestly don't care if anyone would think any less of me for feeling intense emotions when I encounter something truly magnificent. The opinions of Philistines rarely venture away from general disapproval of everything uncommon, so why bother trying to accommodate them?
 
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PJSM

Guest
#66
#66
I think crying should be more accepted (also in social situations). For men and women it should be equal. But on the other hand: it should for both equal when they dont want to cry. When I look to myself: crying makes me unhappy. In strong situations is crying inevitable, and sometimes a relieve. But I think it should also be ok to be a 'less crying' person as well as being a 'more crying person'. I think that you cannot see the amount of grief on the amount of tears...
 
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Cako53

Guest
#67
#67
hmm. that's odd I never would have thought that a gunshot wound or a stab wound was moderate pain.
 
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ramesses

Guest
#68
#68
Sharp said:
That poll is wrong. Can someone please change it to allow more than one option to be selected?
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I agree with you there is always more then one reason for a person to cry. Sometimes a person has a medical condition where they are not able to control crying...such as ALS
 
loveschild

loveschild

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May 21, 2009
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A man has feelings just like we do. I think the Lord helped them to hold in their emotions better than women.
 
DinoDillinger

DinoDillinger

Senior Member
#70
Jul 28, 2009
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MahogonySnail said:
You are less of a man if you cry. The release of tears in the tear duct results in a drop in testosterone and increase in female hormone. Excessive crying can lead to male PMS, manopause, and other such phenonemon. The breast tissues enlarge to accomodate the increase in production of fluid to support tear production, and the pitch of the voice increases by one or two pitches. Sperm production also decreases to support the inreased fluid production in the tear ducts to the point where you cannot have children.
And if you believe what I just said you'd believe anything.
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LOL.

No I wouldn't!
 
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Walt

Guest
#71
#71
Mostly if I cry its tears of joy when I think about the love of God.
 
Moviefan2k4

Moviefan2k4

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#72
Mar 18, 2009
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Sharp said:
I think its acceptable in some circumstances...
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This pretty much sums up my own opinions as well. I think that society has placed a lot of shame and ridicule on men for crying, and that attitude is wrong. There's nothing wrong whatsoever with a man shedding tears, but for decades different families have raised their sons with this nonsense of "Men don't cry!"...it's really sad, to be honest. Being a man - and a Christian one at that - is difficult enough sometimes, without bearing a ton of false guilt for being vulnerable.
 
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jonnoboy

Guest
#73
#73
This is stupid! Are men Human! YES! So why would there be a problem with men crying it doesnt make them look weak it makes them look NORMAL! Honestly i worry about the world these days!!!!

Jonno
 
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Sharp

Senior Member
#74
May 5, 2009
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#74
jonnoboy said:
This is stupid! Are men Human! YES! So why would there be a problem with men crying it doesnt make them look weak it makes them look NORMAL! Honestly i worry about the world these days!!!!

Jonno
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So you would cry if you got a paper cut then? Or if you saw a cute duckling?
 
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greatkraw

Guest
#75
#75
Sharp said:
So you would cry if you got a paper cut then? Or if you saw a cute duckling?
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(mincingly with a lisp) 'oh, I think cute duckings are diviiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine'
 
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Charlotte91

Guest
#76
#76
everyone needs to cry , its not a sign of weakness, its more a sign of strength,(meaning its like a way of helping to deal with certain events in life . like who sets out that men shouldnt cry - society - and whats that given us ....... erm nothing really but a bunch of problems .Jesus cried - did that make him any less of a man- NO- and he has given us live so shouldnt we all follow him and be like him ??.if the man wants to cry let him cry , i would if man actually understood to express their feelings(by this like crying, more sensitive side) , it would help in the cases of suicide , like able to actually talk about it .

so man up and just cry !!
 
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lightbliss

Guest
#77
#77
If a man cries that's okay. I myself am very sensitive (though not like Brendon Fraser in Bedazzled :)) so it doesn't bother me. Although if I saw my [nonexistent] boyfriend or [future] husband crying during a sad movie and I'm not crying, maybe because of the bad acting IDK, then I would have to crack a slight smile while thinking "cheese ball" :rolleyes:
 
Red_Tory

Red_Tory

Senior Member
#78
Jan 26, 2010
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#78
I cried this morning when my pinky finger was caught in the drawer!!

:p
 
MyBagsRPacked

MyBagsRPacked

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Nov 12, 2009
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Sharp said:
In touch with his feelings? Or just a big nancy boy?

What do YOU think?


Married women, does it bother you when your husband cries!!!


I think its acceptable in some circumstances, but I want to hear what you all think first.
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It's impossible to vote on this on!!!...you only allow us to choose one option.. I can't say he's allowed to cry at the birth of a child and not at the death of a friend, etc....
 
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LoryMcB

Guest
#80
#80
I personaly don't like when men cry in front of me, it makes me laugh, not in a demeaning way, but more as a maternal kind of way (Unless, of course, it is for something like a relative death)... But I'm one of those kind of women who thinks that men should express their feelings more often even if it is by crying...But that's me after all.
 
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