Interesting! I had two relationships, one swift and fleeting, one extremely long, both men were from the UK, so maybe it's a cultural thing, but both of them said, "YOU were the one who contacted ME." I asked both of them, "So?", but received no reply. The long-term relationship man visited the US with me, and we went to a mall. A woman slipped her phone number into his hand, and he was shocked! I just said, "Welcome to America! Now throw that darn piece of paper away please."
My daughter tried her hand at an online dating site and said she would never initiate a connection. I asked her why, and she said men like to be the pursuers. If they do not initiate the pursuit, they have an excuse that they are just accepting something good until someone else comes along, or something like that. Or maybe she just wanted a strong man. I'm not quite sure.
As as man, do you have any enlightenment on this?