WHY ARE ALL THE "GOOD MEN" MARRIED MEN?

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Jewel5712

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Yeah, stuff like that. This is obviously not your first rodeo as you seem to have a certain measure of wisdom regarding relationships.
Put it this way..ive ridden enough "bull" to know where NOT to "land" ..lol
 

seoulsearch

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#23
You MIGHT make yoir first million seoul n EVERY woman will THANK YOU..lol
Lol... Thanks for the vote of confidence, but...

I'm pretty sure I need to get a few advanced degrees in understanding men and how to encourage them first. 😉
 

Jewel5712

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#24
Lol... Thanks for the vote of confidence, but...

I'm pretty sure I need to get a few advanced degrees in understanding men and how to encourage them first. 😉
I have a whip you can use..lol
 

Solemateleft

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This is a goodie...
Having been raised by an amazing woman who raised 4 boys and 2 girls all by herself (father passed young) - there was absolutely A LOT of LEARNING that was done... Was raised to treat girls and women with respect...
Even though I liked to believe that I was one of the good ones - going into my marriage - little did I realize how so much more I had to learn about communication in the process.... ie 'Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus'...
Over the course of our 27 years of marriage (currently separated 1.5 years - doesn't look like she's coming back) we participated in counseling, faith-based marriage retreats, numerous self-help programs ie 'Five Agreements', '5 Love Languages' etc...
Surprisingly, I learned something new and useful every time...
In hind-sight, at the end of the day the most important lesson of all that I learned was:
"That it is more important to be married, than it is to be right." (ref: Mort Fortel's 'Marriage Bootcamp') While applicable for men, and women - suspect this may not resonate with many men (even the good ones) until it is too late...
A few key things that most men need to learn (even the good ones) that women want us to know:
- Listen slowly - they're not carburetors - don't try to fix'm...
- Make her feel special...
- let her influence you...
 

Jewel5712

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#32
This is a goodie...
Having been raised by an amazing woman who raised 4 boys and 2 girls all by herself (father passed young) - there was absolutely A LOT of LEARNING that was done... Was raised to treat girls and women with respect...
Even though I liked to believe that I was one of the good ones - going into my marriage - little did I realize how so much more I had to learn about communication in the process.... ie 'Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus'...
Over the course of our 27 years of marriage (currently separated 1.5 years - doesn't look like she's coming back) we participated in counseling, faith-based marriage retreats, numerous self-help programs ie 'Five Agreements', '5 Love Languages' etc...
Surprisingly, I learned something new and useful every time...
In hind-sight, at the end of the day the most important lesson of all that I learned was:
"That it is more important to be married, than it is to be right." (ref: Mort Fortel's 'Marriage Bootcamp') While applicable for men, and women - suspect this may not resonate with many men (even the good ones) until it is too late...
A few key things that most men need to learn (even the good ones) that women want us to know:
- Listen slowly - they're not carburetors - don't try to fix'm...
- Make her feel special...
- let her influence you...
AWESOME..ive read those books as well :)
 

melita916

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#33
I married a good man. How we found each other was all the Lord’s doing. :)
 

Jewel5712

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#34
This is a goodie...
Having been raised by an amazing woman who raised 4 boys and 2 girls all by herself (father passed young) - there was absolutely A LOT of LEARNING that was done... Was raised to treat girls and women with respect...
Even though I liked to believe that I was one of the good ones - going into my marriage - little did I realize how so much more I had to learn about communication in the process.... ie 'Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus'...
Over the course of our 27 years of marriage (currently separated 1.5 years - doesn't look like she's coming back) we participated in counseling, faith-based marriage retreats, numerous self-help programs ie 'Five Agreements', '5 Love Languages' etc...
Surprisingly, I learned something new and useful every time...
In hind-sight, at the end of the day the most important lesson of all that I learned was:
"That it is more important to be married, than it is to be right." (ref: Mort Fortel's 'Marriage Bootcamp') While applicable for men, and women - suspect this may not resonate with many men (even the good ones) until it is too late...
A few key things that most men need to learn (even the good ones) that women want us to know:
- Listen slowly - they're not carburetors - don't try to fix'm...
- Make her feel special...
- let her influence you...
Ive raised 4 kids mostly on my own as well..did the counselimg thing..but why do couples wait SO LONG to get counseling aftet so much damage is done to find out the HEY..these simple little things could really help my spouse out n make thier day ? Everyome is so afraid of being CHAMGED by the other person..theres no such thing..n if a person doesnt want to chamge..STAY SIMGLE..lol
 

calibob

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Ive raised 4 kids mostly on my own as well..did the counselimg thing..but why do couples wait SO LONG to get counseling aftet so much damage is done to find out the HEY..these simple little things could really help my spouse out n make thier day ? Everyome is so afraid of being CHAMGED by the other person..theres no such thing..n if a person doesnt want to chamge..STAY SIMGLE..lol
I HALF AGREE. attn MEN and WOMEN; marry the person you want. not the person you want them to be. Always be willing to compromise rather than force your own way or surrender. what works for both is the best for the modern marriage.
 

Solemateleft

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#36
Ive raised 4 kids mostly on my own as well..did the counselimg thing..but why do couples wait SO LONG to get counseling aftet so much damage is done to find out the HEY..these simple little things could really help my spouse out n make thier day ? Everyome is so afraid of being CHAMGED by the other person..theres no such thing..n if a person doesnt want to chamge..STAY SIMGLE..lol
So True, lol... re willingness to change: I suspect that a lot of people don't get around to doing the self-reflection until it's too let, and to be honest too many of them do not realize if there is any remote chance for them to uphold the conviction of their vows that sacrifices will have to be made... Unfortunately, I guess too many people are conflicted in finding the right balance between their commitment and willingness to make sacrifices... It really is a sad reality, as well as a reality check for many - learning that too many people are incapable of genuine self-reflection and therefore unlikely/unwilling to change...
 
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LittleMermaid

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You know..train a man to put toilet seat down..dont drink out of the milk carton..put tge laundry IN the hamper instead of right oitside..hang up wet bath towels off the floor..etc. Lol
Ew!!!! Men do those things?


As the neat control freak that I am...that would really piss me off! :LOL::LOL::LOL:
 
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Good day Jewel5712 and ladies,

Do you want the truth where to find a few “good men?”... The more important question is, CAN YOU HANDLE THE TRUTH?

Here’s where you’ll find A Few Good Men:

 
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#39
Is this what a woman advising a man looks like? I can almost hear her saying, "Why can't you put the seat down!" or "Wh with the housework?"
Ew!!!! Men do those things?


As the neat control freak that I am...that would really piss me off! :LOL::LOL::LOL:
It would tick me off too. Unicorns require cleanliness! (y)