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Married people have been posting here for as long as I've been part of CC.
Some of them give really wonderful, helpful advice. I always mention this one, but there was one year when Fenner had a thread that went something like, "What Valentine's Day Is Like When You're Married", and she outlined her schedule of spending time with her husband and caring for her family. It wasn't all chocolates and roses and moonlit dancing.
Instead, it was a really down-to-earth look at what married life is really like, which helps reminds us singles that getting married isn't all rainbows and sunshine like we sometimes think. People like Fenner remind us that the grass on the other side might look greener, but it still has to be mowed and maintained.
MissCris also has an exceptional talent of making any ordinary day with her family sound like a story. I also enjoy mailmandan's quips about traveling with his wife, because I hope to do that someday if I find someone. (I know I'm forgetting some other regulars here who are married... Please know that we appreciate you.)
Most of us here in singles welcome and enjoy compassionate, realistic, helpful advice from our married friends. Who better to ask than those who are living it themselves? If we all want a marriage that lasts a lifetime, it's important that we occasionally hear from someone who's been married their entire life how it's done.
The only time I've seen eyebrows raised are if someone married make assumptions (that our lives are incomplete or we're lacking because we're single), and/or starts to give unsolicited lectures (on what we should be doing or how should be going about finding a spouse.)
P.S. Skittle, this is also an invitation for you to post in Singles more often!!
After all, people often say Singles has some of the most fun and interesting threads. We have arguments like anywhere else at times, but mostly, we all kind of "hang out" and get to know each other and keep each other company, which is why I keep coming back.
Some of them give really wonderful, helpful advice. I always mention this one, but there was one year when Fenner had a thread that went something like, "What Valentine's Day Is Like When You're Married", and she outlined her schedule of spending time with her husband and caring for her family. It wasn't all chocolates and roses and moonlit dancing.
Instead, it was a really down-to-earth look at what married life is really like, which helps reminds us singles that getting married isn't all rainbows and sunshine like we sometimes think. People like Fenner remind us that the grass on the other side might look greener, but it still has to be mowed and maintained.
MissCris also has an exceptional talent of making any ordinary day with her family sound like a story. I also enjoy mailmandan's quips about traveling with his wife, because I hope to do that someday if I find someone. (I know I'm forgetting some other regulars here who are married... Please know that we appreciate you.)
Most of us here in singles welcome and enjoy compassionate, realistic, helpful advice from our married friends. Who better to ask than those who are living it themselves? If we all want a marriage that lasts a lifetime, it's important that we occasionally hear from someone who's been married their entire life how it's done.
The only time I've seen eyebrows raised are if someone married make assumptions (that our lives are incomplete or we're lacking because we're single), and/or starts to give unsolicited lectures (on what we should be doing or how should be going about finding a spouse.)
P.S. Skittle, this is also an invitation for you to post in Singles more often!!
After all, people often say Singles has some of the most fun and interesting threads. We have arguments like anywhere else at times, but mostly, we all kind of "hang out" and get to know each other and keep each other company, which is why I keep coming back.
P.S. Skittle, this is also an invitation for you to post in Singles more often!!
After all, people often say Singles has some of the most fun and interesting threads. We have arguments like anywhere else at times, but mostly, we all kind of "hang out" and get to know each other and keep each other company, which is why I keep coming back.
After all, people often say Singles has some of the most fun and interesting threads. We have arguments like anywhere else at times, but mostly, we all kind of "hang out" and get to know each other and keep each other company, which is why I keep coming back.
Also, that last bit right there, that's exactly why I've wanted to post in other threads in this forum XD A lot of the threads here are very interesting and fun and really might even be better suited for maybe the miscellaneous forum. But because they are in the singles forum, I've always just resisted the urge to join in on them. Like that one thread that was asking if anyone has ever referred to you as a certain cartoon character, or something like that. I had such a good answer but I refused to post it cause the singles forum was basically like...forbidden territory XD
Well thank you, I won't be so scared of it anymore
Also, that last bit right there, that's exactly why I've wanted to post in other threads in this forum XD A lot of the threads here are very interesting and fun and really might even be better suited for maybe the miscellaneous forum. But because they are in the singles forum, I've always just resisted the urge to join in on them. Like that one thread that was asking if anyone has ever referred to you as a certain cartoon character, or something like that. I had such a good answer but I refused to post it cause the singles forum was basically like...forbidden territory XD
Also, that last bit right there, that's exactly why I've wanted to post in other threads in this forum XD A lot of the threads here are very interesting and fun and really might even be better suited for maybe the miscellaneous forum. But because they are in the singles forum, I've always just resisted the urge to join in on them. Like that one thread that was asking if anyone has ever referred to you as a certain cartoon character, or something like that. I had such a good answer but I refused to post it cause the singles forum was basically like...forbidden territory XD
I hope you won't feel this way at all. Everyone is invited to post here in Singles. The reason many of the topics here might seem to fit under different forums is because, to be honest, a good number of us here find Singles to be the CC version of a security blanket (at least I do.)
I'm not sure how others here feel but I don't post threads in Misc. because they seem to get lost very quickly (sometimes they don't hold up long here either, but even the smaller audience in Singles will give very thoughtful responses) and many of us (well, I can only speak for myself) are terrified of the Bible Discussion Forum.
I often feel like I need to go to therapy from just reading that forum, let alone trying to post there.
And so, I keep coming back and torturing my buddies here in Singles.
The only bad experience I've had here personally was when a slightly older man who claimed to be married was making what I saw as flirtatious comments towards me in a few of my threads (I think he tried to contact me by PM as well... because in this whole time I've only blocked 3 people and he was one of them,) but that was many years ago, and he wasn't here long.
The moral of this story is, if you are married but see something you'd like to respond to that could help encourage us as Singles or would be a way of helping us to get to know YOU, please join in on the fun.
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I'm here because I love ya'll who come my insight is accurate in the matters of haggis and neeps And skittlepumkin ur like the best person to be here coz ur soooo welcoming to all ... so much so that I was looking at this fascinating post about why married people frequent the singles forum, which I thought I'd pass by ... but after seeing u there I was like gate crash!! lol
my insight is accurate in the matters of haggis and neeps And skittlepumkin ur like the best person to be here coz ur soooo welcoming to all ... so much so that I was looking at this fascinating post about why married people frequent the singles forum, which I thought I'd pass by ... but after seeing u there I was like gate crash!! lol
No problem, Shamrocker. You're asking a really good question.
In the time I've been here, Singles chat has been treated a bit differently because it's so immediate. Back when I first started, a mod told us they had become aware of a lot of incidences in which married people were coming to Singles chat trying to find a girl/boyfriend, leading to several extramarital affairs and/or divorces. A mod would regularly come into Singles chat, go down the list, and ask each of us to publicly answer via the mic or typing that we were single.
There was also an incidence in chat a few years ago in which an older married man would come in, take over the mic, and started literally giving sermons about how to become married. He thought he was giving us hope, but what he was really giving us was an earful, and he talked to us as if we were adolescents, not full-grown adults with careers, full lives, and in some cases, families (to which he said single parent families were incomplete because they weren't God's original plan. Well, neither was sending Jesus to die on the cross, because God didn't intend for man to sin.)
This man probably had good intentions, but he apparently saw himself as some kind of self-appointed pastor and kept doing it, night after night, and that was back when time on the mic wasn't limited. He'd literally still be talking 10 minutes later.
Several of us singles went to the mods about this, and that's part of why Singles chat has stricter rules.
In the time I've been here, Singles chat has been treated a bit differently because it's so immediate. Back when I first started, a mod told us they had become aware of a lot of incidences in which married people were coming to Singles chat trying to find a girl/boyfriend, leading to several extramarital affairs and/or divorces. A mod would regularly come into Singles chat, go down the list, and ask each of us to publicly answer via the mic or typing that we were single.
There was also an incidence in chat a few years ago in which an older married man would come in, take over the mic, and started literally giving sermons about how to become married. He thought he was giving us hope, but what he was really giving us was an earful, and he talked to us as if we were adolescents, not full-grown adults with careers, full lives, and in some cases, families (to which he said single parent families were incomplete because they weren't God's original plan. Well, neither was sending Jesus to die on the cross, because God didn't intend for man to sin.)
This man probably had good intentions, but he apparently saw himself as some kind of self-appointed pastor and kept doing it, night after night, and that was back when time on the mic wasn't limited. He'd literally still be talking 10 minutes later.
Several of us singles went to the mods about this, and that's part of why Singles chat has stricter rules.
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I'm here because I love ya'll who come my insight is accurate in the matters of haggis and neeps And skittlepumkin ur like the best person to be here coz ur soooo welcoming to all ... so much so that I was looking at this fascinating post about why married people frequent the singles forum, which I thought I'd pass by ... but after seeing u there I was like gate crash!! lol
my insight is accurate in the matters of haggis and neeps And skittlepumkin ur like the best person to be here coz ur soooo welcoming to all ... so much so that I was looking at this fascinating post about why married people frequent the singles forum, which I thought I'd pass by ... but after seeing u there I was like gate crash!! lol
This is an excellent point, Shamrocker.
There are several lovely married people here who might be able to answer your questions, as well as several very compassionate married women in the ladies' forum.
I would suggest maybe asking a married woman here or in the Women's Forum if they would be willing to PM or even meet you in a chat room to talk sometime.
Do we have any married ladies in the audience who would like to help Shamrocker out?
Shamrocker, would it be ok if they PM'ed you?
There are several lovely married people here who might be able to answer your questions, as well as several very compassionate married women in the ladies' forum.
I would suggest maybe asking a married woman here or in the Women's Forum if they would be willing to PM or even meet you in a chat room to talk sometime.
Do we have any married ladies in the audience who would like to help Shamrocker out?
Shamrocker, would it be ok if they PM'ed you?
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The singles forum often has the best threads, in my opinion.
But that's why I generally stay out of the singles forum; so people won't be like
Unless people bring me into it...like they did in the CC awards lol but hay, that should be in a different forum, in my opinion
But that's why I generally stay out of the singles forum; so people won't be like
Unless people bring me into it...like they did in the CC awards lol but hay, that should be in a different forum, in my opinion
Actually I think the Singles forum should just be renamed "the fun forum."
Cheesy, I know, but it would work!