Why is your crush not attracted to you?

[Lighthearted]

There are a lot of interesting "crushes" but they all live far away...

 

[shineyourlight]

Actually, no. Lol.

There can be a thousand reasons as to why your crush is not pursuing you. There is not always just one answer.

1) They're not ready for a relationship.
2) They just don't see you in that way.
3) Yes, they might have another crush
4) They might have feelings but not knowing that you do and just not doing anything on it.

THere are a thousand of reasons and it doesn't stem just from one answer.

With that being said, I have a crush. Whenever I see him, he pursues to a point where there is an interest on his end and it is obvious (and as much as I try to avoid him). But there are a few things that are mixed signals. I'm keeping my options open.

I don't think anyone should hang up their hats on one person. Keep your options open. I'm talking, meeting new people, etc. etc. I've already had a few opportunities to go on dates.

I'm not going to put my heart on one dude.

 

[tourist]

l haven't had a crush since my first. Years ago.

It was a simpler time. A time when classic rocks songs were the soundtrack to my life.
She lived down the street and would ride her bike past my house everyday.


Yup, I'll never forget Winnie Cooper.
As for why she never crushed on me?



...she was into some guy named Kevin.

Kevin's ride was probably a 10 speed.

 

[tourist]

There are a lot of interesting "crushes" but they all live far away...

Maybe you can find a way to shorten the distance.

 

[Pipp]

I've seen your pic in the other thread. To be blunt, you simply don't qualify as "ogre" material.

Aw thanks D

 

[J0Hnnatcc3]

Right now I'm still stalking, er, casually surveying a couple of candidates to possibly have a crush on.

As soon as I find him and find out who he likes instead of me, I'll be sure to let you know.

It's a crush, not a new home purchase!

 

[seoulsearch]

Right now I'm still stalking, er, casually surveying a couple of candidates to possibly have a crush on.

As soon as I find him and find out who he likes instead of me, I'll be sure to let you know.

It's a crush, not a new home purchase!

"I'm only interested... if I can have you for life.
I know it sounds serious, and baby, I am.
You're a fine piece of real estate...
And I'm gonna get me some land." -- Shania Twain, "Getcha Good."

When I get a crush, I be sure to join the Homeowner's Association!

 

[J0Hnnatcc3]

"I'm only interested... if I can have you for life.
I know it sounds serious, and baby, I am.
You're a fine piece of real estate...
And I'm gonna get me some land." -- Shania Twain, "Getcha Good."

When I get a crush, I be sure to join the Homeowner's Association!

I think I getcha. The only relationship you want is a serious one right? Me too, but sometimes you meet someone and you're like "whoa".

 

[Tinuviel]

Currently, I don't have a crush. The last guy who was crushing on me I didn't feel attracted to because he swore; which is never attractive to me. Besides that, he was an absolute sweetheart and a lot of fun, but he wasn't "attractive".

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

If I had a crush she wouldn't be attracted to me because:

I have no confidence, and it shows through my body language, my gate, my lack of eye-contact, and my lack of chit-chat

I'm not an "attractive" man. Too short, too fat, too pale, too out of touch with fashion, ugly teeth

She knows she could throw a rock in a crowd and hit a guy 1000x better than me

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

Reading through this thread, I feel like I've heard this song before.

I don't think I receive many crushes, but then I don't put myself out there a whole lot.

 

[Socreta93]

I'm not it interesting or attractive by any possible metric.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Well, this begs the question: was the problem with him, or was the problem with you? Assuming that your crush is an honest person (that may be a big "IF", depending on the person in question), perhaps he may tell you, in a kind, winsome, and loving manner, what it is that prevented him from taking the "next step" with you. Perhaps he will be unkind, and yell, at the top of his lungs, a laundry list of problems he has.

You may not like what he has to say. Perhaps it really is "him and not you". What I do know is that in proverbs 27:6 it says "Faithful are the wounds of a friend, and deceitful are the kisses of an enemy." So, if you really want the truth, the only way to find out is by asking him, and hope that he's an honest person. Just make sure you brace yourself for the possibility of hurtful words, and recognize the difference between proverbs 27:6 and verbal abuse.

I hope that helps.

Thank you for your post. You seldom post here so thank you. Good advice. The truth will always set you free. Free from delusions. But your true feelings I think is better revealed to a person you are in love with and not just a crush because it is fleeting and you may appear not serious.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

With that being said, I have a crush. Whenever I see him, he pursues to a point where there is an interest on his end and it is obvious (and as much as I try to avoid him). But there are a few things that are mixed signals. I'm keeping my options open.

I don't think anyone should hang up their hats on one person. Keep your options open. I'm talking, meeting new people, etc. etc. I've already had a few opportunities to go on dates.

I'm not going to put my heart on one dude.

It's good to enjoy friendships with men with no expectations. You never know when will love appear in the horizon. But it looks like someone is playing mind games with you with those mixed signals. Enjoy but also be careful sister.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Reading through this thread, I feel like I've heard this song before.

I don't think I receive many crushes, but then I don't put myself out there a whole lot.

I suggest you post in the unmask yourself thread.

 

[shineyourlight]

It's good to enjoy friendships with men with no expectations. You never know when will love appear in the horizon. But it looks like someone is playing mind games with you with those mixed signals. Enjoy but also be careful sister.

Trust me, I'm moving on. Once mixed signals appear, I just drop it. Hence me keeping my options open!

 

[christian74]

Aw thanks D

Gosh Pipp, seriously, what's your problem?
The only thing I remember from that unmask thread is your face with those adorable freckles.
Seriously, I hope you were just joking around.

 

[renewed_hope]

I kind of didn't crush on my current beau. I thought he was cute and really sweet...ya know a typical salesman lol. I met him when I went to drop of my friends Christmas present and a few weeks later I came back because I made some cookies for the salesmen. He greeted me at the door and asked if I made him cookies and he was surprised that he was right. When I gave notice and quit that job I heard the faintest voice tell me to text him so I found his number and sent him a text and the rest is history...turns out he was the one who was crushing on me lol

 

[christian74]

I forgot to add something.
Having a crush IS tormenting because the person you are having a crush does not look at you in the same way.
However, in my opinion, it's better to have a crush than not having anything at all, sometimes.

 

[Galatea]

I forgot to add something.
Having a crush IS tormenting because the person you are having a crush does not look at you in the same way.
However, in my opinion, it's better to have a crush than not having anything at all, sometimes.

Yes, I think so, too. I'm kind of in a fantasy world as there is like 0.000001% chance that he will reciprocate, but I am so optimistic, I've convinced myself that the 0.000001% might actually happen. Someone has to win the lottery, right?