I’m assuming your comment was tongue-in-cheek as you’ve surely noticed how quickly comments are generated throughout most of Sister Seoulsearch’s threads in the Singles Forum. Let's face it, even
YOU were motivated to comment.
Seoulsearch contributes not only to the lives of the CC singles people, but to the married folks as well. If the Singles Forum were a church group, most would choose her to lead it because she has all the excellent qualities of spiritual leadership.
Seoulsearch is:
1. A peacemaker
2. Humble and not arrogant
3. A leader by example
4. Not quarrelsome
5. An encourager
6. Strong in faith, a good witness
7. An excellent communicator
8. Hospitable, kind & fair to all
9. Not a respecter of persons
10. Effective with ideas for spiritual growth
11. A teacher who is willing to learn as well
Doggone it, AuntieAnt--the system won't let me rep you again so soon (along with a few others who have been overwhelmingly kind to me, thank you so much and I appreciate you very much!!! <3)
Judging from some of the comments in the threads lately, I am going to try to be more considerate of the fact that we have several newcomers joining our Singles Family (Welcome! Even if you are not single
), as well as a few visitors from other parts of the forum.
Thank you so much for your kind words, Auntie--I very much believe the same of you, and always stop to read your posts wherever I see them on the boards.
I also had to smile when you stated that I am "not quarrelsome."
My parents would tell you otherwise, lol. It all depends on the situation and how strongly I feel about it. I have had several run-ins over the years, but if at all possible, I try not to go overboard if I can help it. The one thing I won't take, however, is anonymous hate comments--I report them and make them public every time (I often turn the comment itself into its own thread.)
If someone wants to tell me they hate me and wish I'd never write anything again straight to my face in the threads or in a PM, I see that as open communication, and my reaction is pretty much, "Hey, you're entitled to your opinion, no problem. God bless you and best wishes, because He knows there are plenty of people I disagree with too!"
But if someone tells me something like that and won't leave a name or identify themselves, I see that as bullying, and that's something I won't tolerate. I will also assume that if they are making critical anonymous comments to me, they are also doing that to others, and that's why I report it--to hopefully stop the abuse of the system.
I should state for the record though, that I do not consider myself a leader, though people sometimes want to make me one because I try my best to be responsible. However, what God seems to have built me for is to be an assistant TO leaders, and/or people who are trying to get somewhere but aren't sure how, or need a little encouragement along the way.
My actual preference is to be the behind-the-scenes person who is doing the things that others don't really notice--it's just hard to do that on a public forum and still get conversations started.
If I am obsessed with something, it would be getting people talking to each other in a meaningful way, because this is how stereotypes are broken and people with differences are able to come together.
My favorite threads are the ones in which the posters and contributors take over... and the whole conversation just kind of shapes itself, leaving me to just step back behind the curtain and draw up the plans for another round of mischief.
Thank you all for participating, and I hope that you will continue to do so.
