Would You Go on a Blind Date?

[HopeinHim98]

That is so sad!

I mean sad that she was so oblivious to your chivalry!

 

[Kainos]

That is so sad!

It didn't bother me at the time, I just knew I wasn't going to appreciate someone who was that inattentive.

With that being said, I wouldn't do the same thing again. I had no common denominator with that girl, because neither of us knew Jesus, which changes everything.

 

[seoulsearch]

Once, and if anyone's had an abrupter end to a blind date than mine, please do share.

I was visiting some long distance friends, and they arranged a date for me with a girl from their social circle who I wasn't acquainted with.

The date was at a cafe/coffee shop in a library. We met outside, exchanged a few pleasantries, and I opened the door for her to make her way inside. She walked through the doorway without acknowledging the gesture. As I was still holding the door open, an elderly couple were making their exit, so I did the right thing and waited for them to leave before letting go of the door. They thanked me on exit, while my date had gone ahead and made a beeline for the cafe without me, totally oblivious.

I knew there and then the blind date was over, because my date was figuratively blind! Without saying a word, I took my leave, turned off my phone, and returned to the suite I was staying at.

Moral of the story, chivalry ain't dead, and don't date anyone like me if the art of noticing isn't one of your strong suits.

That is so sad!

To the men who still believe in chivalry, THANK YOU!

There are still women out there who notice and appreciate it very much (some even SAY "Thank you!") so please don't give up! 💗

I'm in a few Discord chats within the financial/investing community which of course, is 99.9% male, so if you're a woman (and ladies, I encourage you to try it if you're into those topics!) you have to brace yourself for some macho talk, and lots of judging women's pictures of whether they're hot -- or not.

But there are also tons of stories of guys who are earnestly trying to find someone, and it's quite horrific -- women with 4 kids by 5 different fathers, demanding men who are at least 6'4" (6 feet tall just isn't good enough,) with 6-figure salaries (and the first number had better not be a "measly" 1,) who are going to pay for her hair, nail, and shopping sprees, while she and her children to all stay home, and she contributes...

What? Existing?! I guess these women think being "hot" is a big enough reward to any man "lucky" enough to "deserve" her.

I always tell these guys, "I wouldn't even want to try to be friends with a woman like that, and I'm a woman."

Now, I am NOT trying to condemn anyone who's made mistakes or had a rough life. After all, there are plenty of men who have 5 kids by 6 different baby mama's (because with the most recent kid, the paternity test is still pending.) And we all know BOTH genders these days seem to have impossibly high expectations of each other.

But when I hear real stories of men being taken advantage of for dinners in fancy places without so much as a thank-you (because it's seen as an expectation for their company,) I have to tell you, I can't blame some men for wanting to join the Men Going Their Own Way or Red Pill movements.

I'm definitely not agreeing with them or saying they're right -- I can just see why so many discouraged men would be attracted to these philosophies.

 

[seoulsearch]

Just beware if you ask if they are attractive and are told "they have a great personality" 🤔

Uh oh. I don't even have the "great personality" part. I may be in trouble here.

LOL!!!

A big, glaring red X emoji from @Snackersmom had me laughing out loud!

Obviously, I must have her under a spell with my facsimile of a "great personality."

 

[seoulsearch]

Once, and if anyone's had an abrupter end to a blind date than mine, please do share.

I was visiting some long distance friends, and they arranged a date for me with a girl from their social circle who I wasn't acquainted with.

The date was at a cafe/coffee shop in a library. We met outside, exchanged a few pleasantries, and I opened the door for her to make her way inside. She walked through the doorway without acknowledging the gesture. As I was still holding the door open, an elderly couple were making their exit, so I did the right thing and waited for them to leave before letting go of the door. They thanked me on exit, while my date had gone ahead and made a beeline for the cafe without me, totally oblivious.

I knew there and then the blind date was over, because my date was figuratively blind! Without saying a word, I took my leave, turned off my phone, and returned to the suite I was staying at.

Moral of the story, chivalry ain't dead, and don't date anyone like me if the art of noticing isn't one of your strong suits.

I'm just curious --

Did this girl ever ask your friends why you left?

Did they explain why to her?

I'm just wondering if, by chance, she was able to learn anything from this encounter.

 

[Kainos]

I'm just curious --

Did this girl ever ask your friends why you left?

Did they explain why to her?

I'm just wondering if, by chance, she was able to learn anything from this encounter.

You'll know how those things roll. As soon as your explanation is on the grapevine, everyone knows about it.

I spelled out my reasoning for leaving my blind date high and dry, which my friends then passed on to her.

I can't say whether our brief interaction left an indelible mark on her or not, because I'm no longer in contact with those concerned, but I sure learnt something! Chivalry is alive and well, and it inadvertently put the damsel's ego to the sword in one fell swoop.

Unbeknown to me at the time, the girl was known for her reliance on looks and being conceited. If someone had armed me with that knowledge prior to the date, I might've stuck around long enough for her to want throw her coffee at me!

 

[Snackersmom]

Never been on a blind date, but God set me up on an (almost blind) friendship once.

Funny thing is, I knew what the person looked like (incredibly good-looking bodybuilder), and based largely off of that, I felt certain we wouldn't get along. I was literally judging him on his appearance 🤣. So I fought with God over it. But God won out in the end and I eventually contacted him.

After a very awkward start, It turned out to be one of the most fulfilling friendships I've ever had. I knew what he looked like, but was blind to his personality. Behind the muscles and gym bro bravado was a sweet, lonely guy in need of a friend who would try to understand who he really was. I learned a lot from him too, he was surprisingly insightful and helped me sort out some issues that had been plaguing me for years. God definitely knew what He was doing! No surprise there, huh? 🙄😜

We don't talk much these days, but it was one of the best experiences of my life! I think I'll always have a soft spot in my heart for him.

 

[LifelongLearner]

Blind dates never appealed to me, i like to know if a waste of time is in the offing.
Also, old people i knew when really young, didn't seem to feel the near desperation so many do about dating now. Think they were tougher and more independent, which makes me wonder how much of the current trend is part of societal/behavioral conditioning.
I do think most history we're taught is a pack of lies but think we're given a good idea of how such relationships should be approached in the bible. The impression i get is romantic attachments were for physically/emotionally/spiritually mature people, not the recreational habit so many have now?

 

[maxwel]

I would go on a blind date.

I think a blind girl would find me quite attractive.

I've often thought of dating blind women exclusively.

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[LifelongLearner]

I would go on a blind date.

I think a blind girl would find me quite attractive.

I've often thought of dating blind women exclusively.

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That is definitely a we're not worthy reply, love it!

 

[seoulsearch]

I would go on a blind date.

I think a blind girl would find me quite attractive.

I've often thought of dating blind women exclusively.

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Max beat me to the punch.

The more I read this thread, the more my brain keeps interpreting it as, "Would You Go Out With a Date Who Was Blind?"

(On a serious note, I've often wondered what dating is like for people who aren't affected by society's visual definitions of "beauty" and "attractiveness.")

Would a blind person not care if someone wasn't rail thin, or didn't have a body like Marilyn Monroe, or (for the ladies,) big muscles?

 

[cinder]

Uh oh.

I don't even have the "great personality" part.

I may be in trouble here.

Well not anymore, it's threaded all through the forum now. And we like it so you can't take it back.

 

[cinder]

I might consider it with a bunch of caveats (including interrogating the people who are trying to arrange it why they think this particular person is a good one to know). So yeah, that's never going to happen either.

 

[HopeinHim98]

So the way my friend did it, is a family she'd known awhile invited her and a guy they respected over and then after supper eventually conveniently left them alone to talk in the living room. They hit it off on a mature, spiritual level and have been slowly getting to know each other since. Still not official but heading that way. It's cool cuz they're both 35 and it's both their first relationship. They both really love God and I'm looking forward to seeing how God leads them.

 

[Karlos1015]

Love story thanks for sharing it

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Max beat me to the punch.

The more I read this thread, the more my brain keeps interpreting it as, "Would You Go Out With a Date Who Was Blind?"

(On a serious note, I've often wondered what dating is like for people who aren't affected by society's visual definitions of "beauty" and "attractiveness.")

Would a blind person not care if someone wasn't rail thin, or didn't have a body like Marilyn Monroe, or (for the ladies,) big muscles?

That reminds me of a date like that once. A couple who knew me well wanted me to ask out the wife's little sister. She was coming back for Christmas break from her Christian university. I never met her, but as a favor agreed to entertain her when she gets home.
I learned later that they really were hoping for marriage.
Good grief I never even met the gal and we're not talking about an impulsive 15 year old.
🙄

We went out and had good conversation....nice personality and very pretty. She liked table tennis and was a LOT better player than me! She could hold a conversation while beating me badly. I wasn't normally a bad player, but I looked like it that day.

It was a good blind date.....
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Or maybe I should say Deaf date!
😄
She was nearly completely deaf, but could still read my lips while playing games if she was facing me!
I was shocked when I found out that she had a special telephone and explained her "disability."
So that was my first deaf date.

 

[HopeinHim98]

That reminds me of a date like that once. A couple who knew me well wanted me to ask out the wife's little sister. She was coming back for Christmas break from her Christian university. I never met her, but as a favor agreed to entertain her when she gets home.
I learned later that they really were hoping for marriage.
Good grief I never even met the gal and we're not talking about an impulsive 15 year old.
🙄

We went out and had good conversation....nice personality and very pretty. She liked table tennis and was a LOT better player than me! She could hold a conversation while beating me badly. I wasn't normally a bad player, but I looked like it that day.

It was a good blind date.....
.
.
.
.
.
.
Or maybe I should say Deaf date!
😄
She was nearly completely deaf, but could still read my lips while playing games if she was facing me!
I was shocked when I found out that she had a special telephone and explained her "disability."
So that was my first deaf date.

That's cool!

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

That's cool!

Nobody's perfect.
We all have flaws/imperfections/physical, emotional, spiritual challenges. If we think we are perfect, we hit hardships that humbles us.
Hers was the nearly total loss of one of her senses. I was impressed by her story.

 

[Kireina]

Our first date wasn't a blind date, but we hadn't met in person before. We didn't know what each other looked like, but from that very first moment he saw me step out from the taxi he told me later thay he knew that I was the one he wanted to spend for the rest of his life. He knew right then that I was the one 😅 We both felt the same. That day I was so glad I got to meet him in person because meeting him that day was the start of something amazing. He is now my Mr. 😇🩷

Regarding my take on blind dates? It depends on the circumstances depending on the time...(night time i won't) and place...public places only where there are many people can see us 😊 and what I know about the person beforehand. 😊 Thanks 🩷

 

[welsh196]

Absolutely no chance 😂🤦🏻