Would You Go on a Blind Date?

[ATSTD]

What is funny and sad if you think about it; every woman I slept with from 2005-2014, 9/10 I was drunk.

What a crazy dark decade.

Spring 2014 is when I surrendered my life to Jesus and never had physical contact sex with another human being since.

Thank God.

 

[HopeinHim98]

I discovered that it is best to just go with a 10/10 because she won’t have any doubts that you are into her. No trying to make her feel good because she feels ugly. You can be straight up a hundred percent honest with her, instead of having to try and repair her insecurity.

What if she's a 5 but really sweet and confident?

 

[Lynx]

Went on basically a blind date last September. I saw her photos on a Christian dating app. Did not look like her at all.

When I arrived for the church date, she looked at me like I was a disgusting pig. What a start to a date, while the wheels in her mind were churning, like “why am I doing this?”

She is very quiet and then then tells me that she has been looking for work for like years and no one will hire her.

I told her, “Usually people value a great first impression with a winning atritude.”

We get to the church, she is still very quiet. The Sunday sermon was excellent, the presence of God was there, except while the pastor was preaching, she shows me on her phone an event that was happening that day and asks if I want to go to a beach rave. I decline her offer, as I was expecting to have a good beginning to a relationship if it became one.

After church, she tells me we are better off friends and that she is “tired” and drops me off at the bus stop.

By the way, it took me three hours, two buses and two trains there, just to go on a date.

So, I take two trains and two buses back home, completely torn apart by what just happened.

Next day, I message her and tell her, I don’t think this is going to work out.

She immediately wants to go on more dates with me and I tell her, “I already made my decision” and never spoke to her again.

So, I guess blind dates aren’t always so great.

You sure do focus VERY, INCREDIBLY HARD on that rave thing. You bring it up every time somebody mentions a date.

If this is that much of an issue for you, maybe you should see a therapist about it or something.

 

[ATSTD]

You sure do focus VERY, INCREDIBLY HARD on that rave thing. You bring it up every time somebody mentions a date.

If this is that much of an issue for you, maybe you should see a therapist about it or something.

I do see a therapist.

Maybe I should bring it up next session.

 

[ATSTD]

You sure do focus VERY, INCREDIBLY HARD on that rave thing. You bring it up every time somebody mentions a date.

If this is that much of an issue for you, maybe you should see a therapist about it or something.

I also have been to many raves before I received the Holy Spirit, so I know what goes on there and I know the people it attracts

 

[Lynx]

I do see a therapist.

Maybe I should bring it up next session.

Couldn't hurt. You seem to be dwelling on it an awful lot. Bring it up at the therapists and it might open a few avenues of investigation.

 

[ATSTD]

Couldn't hurt. You seem to be dwelling on it an awful lot. Bring it up at the therapists and it might open a few avenues of investigation.

Will do. I realized I maybe brought it up a bunch on here and in my personal life.

I just never experienced that kind of body language from a human being before.

 

[welsh196]

Howdy and welcome to the Forum.

Thank you!

 

[Karlon]

What is funny and sad if you think about it; every woman I slept with from 2005-2014, 9/10 I was drunk.

What a crazy dark decade.

Spring 2014 is when I surrendered my life to Jesus and never had physical contact sex with another human being since.

Thank God.

a correction of wisdom! Christians appreciate your testimony & honesty. others can learn from this. how many guys in a million behaved properly when the subject is dating? maybe, only 100! i played in bands for decades & had 100's of chances with women & while on the road, it was only 1 week that i misbehaved & got a hold of some wisdom & said, "this is wrong, stop it"! & so i did. & i wasn't a born again Christian yet. blessings to you ATSTD.

 

[Smoke]

"All my dates have been the square root of -100. A solid 10, but also imaginary."

There are two problems with getting a date with a 10. One, a 10 is perfectly aware that she can get something better than us. Two, there is a reason she drove herself to become a 10. You probably don't want anything to do with that reason.

On a side note, I've seen demonstration after demonstration that women consistently think they are about 3 points higher than most people would objectively rate them (strictly superficially). Men are more likely to give a realistic answer. One could argue it's good to gas yourself up, but another could argue it's better to be based in reality.

If a man who was average looking gassed himself up and said he was a 9, his friends would laugh and clown him because it isn't objectively true. When women do this, their friends affirm the delusion. I don't know why I find stuff like this fascinating. Sorry, probably off topic at this point. lol

 

[Smoke]

On a side note, I've seen demonstration after demonstration that women consistently think they are about 3 points higher than most people would objectively rate them (strictly superficially). Men are more likely to give a realistic answer. One could argue it's good to gas yourself up, but another could argue it's better to be based in reality.

If a man who was average looking gassed himself up and said he was a 9, his friends would laugh and clown him because it isn't objectively true. When women do this, their friends affirm the delusion. I don't know why I find stuff like this fascinating. Sorry, probably off topic at this point. lol

I need to note, the demonstrations were of mostly secular women who leaned feminist (which is largely the representation of the average American woman). That's a bit of context that is relevant. From my anecdotal experience, theistic women (even non-Christian) tend to be a bit more based.

 

[Lynx]

On a side note, I've seen demonstration after demonstration that women consistently think they are about 3 points higher than most people would objectively rate them (strictly superficially). Men are more likely to give a realistic answer. One could argue it's good to gas yourself up, but another could argue it's better to be based in reality.

If a man who was average looking gassed himself up and said he was a 9, his friends would laugh and clown him because it isn't objectively true. When women do this, their friends affirm the delusion. I don't know why I find stuff like this fascinating. Sorry, probably off topic at this point. lol

Well... If it mattered I would say that is a shame. Because I have observed that myself, that women will lie to each other.

IF it mattered...

Unfortunately it doesn't seem to matter. From what I have observed, people who form relationships based on where their partners are on a hotness scale never seem to be able to form solid, lasting relationships. They keep breaking up and moving on to others.

On the other hand I have seen an eight marry a three, and they loved each other so much that it made both of them look like a 12.

 

[NightTwister]

I've never been on a blind date, but I have been on a couple I wish I'd been blind.

 

[seoulsearch]

I've never been on a blind date, but I have been on a couple I wish I'd been blind.

This makes me think of an interaction in Mortal Kombat in which Johnny Cage, everyone's favorite egomaniacal playboy, brags up his movies to Kenshi, the blind swordsman.

Kenshi answers, "There ARE advantages to being blind."

 

[Lynx]

I discovered that it is best to just go with a 10/10 because she won’t have any doubts that you are into her. No trying to make her feel good because she feels ugly. You can be straight up a hundred percent honest with her, instead of having to try and repair her insecurity.

Story time!

I went to visit Mom one time, and the car I was driving was slightly battered in appearance. My mother commented on the apparent dilapidation of my vehicle. I shrugged and said, "It doesn't hurt the performance." Which is all I care about. As long as my car still rolls, I don't care about a few dents and dings.

Mom burst out laughing and said, "sometimes I imagine that one day you will bring your girlfriend to visit me, and she will have a wooden leg and a glass eye, and you will shrug and say it doesn't hurt the performance."

 

[seoulsearch]

Mom burst out laughing and said, "sometimes I imagine that one day you will bring your girlfriend to visit me, and she will have a wooden leg and a glass eye, and you will shrug and say it doesn't hurt the performance."

I wonder what she says about internet friends.

For the record, when I met her, I think I had my peg leg and glass eye pretty well concealed.

 

[Lynx]

I wonder what she says about internet friends.

For the record, when I met her, I think I had my peg leg and glass eye pretty well concealed.

Well I mean... Mom is right though. The "performance" would not be what I'm interested in, but a peg leg and a glass eye wouldn't impair the attributes I AM interested in either.

 

[ATSTD]

a correction of wisdom! Christians appreciate your testimony & honesty. others can learn from this. how many guys in a million behaved properly when the subject is dating? maybe, only 100! i played in bands for decades & had 100's of chances with women & while on the road, it was only 1 week that i misbehaved & got a hold of some wisdom & said, "this is wrong, stop it"! & so i did. & i wasn't a born again Christian yet. blessings to you ATSTD.

The first woman I slept with, apparently we lost our virginities together and so to me, I thought, “okay, so now we get married.” I knew of Jesus but wasn’t what I call a Christian today. Well, our relationship ended soon after that, I couldn’t think straight in school, I ended up getting kicked out of my high school and went to a continuation high school where all the bad kids went (my last semester of high school) and I was so shattered by the relationship, I thought to myself, “maybe sleeping with a bunch of women will help me get over it.” Four years later and no repentance (or knowledge of what repentance is) i wind up in a mental health facility where I believe I’m in hell because of the life I lived the past four years.

That life is not worth it. I’ll warn everyone of that path till the day I die. It’s a very serious matter, that some people (most people) are deaf to me about.

 

[ATSTD]

Story time!

I went to visit Mom one time, and the car I was driving was slightly battered in appearance. My mother commented on the apparent dilapidation of my vehicle. I shrugged and said, "It doesn't hurt the performance." Which is all I care about. As long as my car still rolls, I don't care about a few dents and dings.

Mom burst out laughing and said, "sometimes I imagine that one day you will bring your girlfriend to visit me, and she will have a wooden leg and a glass eye, and you will shrug and say it doesn't hurt the performance."

My car is like that, except it currently needs electrical work.

A guy even hit my vehicle, on my back passenger side. I pulled over to the side, looked at it, it was bashed in. I told him, “you’re good.” The guy was so relieved. I think I might have created peace amongst the white and black communities in the area after that.

The car drives great when it does. I just recently almost fully restored the vehicle about a year ago. Just needs electrical work I believe.

Almost every girlfriend that I brought home to meet my family, at least one family member had an issue with them.

First my dad had an issue with my first girlfriend and told me, “you can do better.” Second girlfriend, I didn’t introduce to any of my family,. Third girlfriend, race into my aunts driveway and hit the back of my sister’s car, while my sister was pulling out, so they were like arch enemies from the get go. Fourth girlfriend, we almost got married. My mom never met her but my dad did and he didn’t have a problem with her but my sister said she looks like a mouse. So yeah, great family….

Remind me to never introduce a girlfriend or wife to family. My mom on the other hand always loved each girlfriend introduce her too. Probably why I live with her and not my other relatives.

 

[Karlon]

The first woman I slept with, apparently we lost our virginities together and so to me, I thought, “okay, so now we get married.” I knew of Jesus but wasn’t what I call a Christian today. Well, our relationship ended soon after that, I couldn’t think straight in school, I ended up getting kicked out of my high school and went to a continuation high school where all the bad kids went (my last semester of high school) and I was so shattered by the relationship, I thought to myself, “maybe sleeping with a bunch of women will help me get over it.” Four years later and no repentance (or knowledge of what repentance is) i wind up in a mental health facility where I believe I’m in hell because of the life I lived the past four years.

That life is not worth it. I’ll warn everyone of that path till the day I die. It’s a very serious matter, that some people (most people) are deaf to me about.

you are wise in your recognition.