I am seeking to meet a Christian Woman to Marry... (USA)

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whether you choose to accept this or not, coming here to do a "drive-by personal ad" is seldom going to be treated with the serious intention you hoped for.

I found this out the hard way awhile back. You are so right in saying that things may go more smoothly if you integrate in the community. Excellent post Monica.
 
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JesusLives said:
Now if his request had been retired looking to stay home or travel using all christian moral standards I would have hopped on that in a hot minute. I so want to take a road trip and have no one to travel with it's killing me.
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I just returned from a road trip from Michigan You are right, it is not so good traveling alone.
 
JesusLives

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I just returned from a road trip from Michigan You are right, it is not so good traveling alone.
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But it is so much more fun to travel with someone and share the fun and sights. I have traveled alone before and it was boring.
 
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tourist said:
Same for me also. I do not think that 59 is that old as that is my age also. 59 is the new 49.
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In my head I still feel like a teenager, but I don't know about the rest of me.
I look in the mirror and say who is that woman.
 
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Well, when someone whose opinion I have come to respect says this about me, it is time to admit that I took it a little too far (note to self: sarcasm does not translate well over internet). I will admit to feeling feisty and slightly annoyed since this is the OP's second thread asking "hey who wants to apply to be my wife". He has already been informed this isn't a dating site. (See this thread).

But I truly don't wish any ill on the OP (or any men in general for that matter). Should he meet a woman who wants to marry him, I am sure he will do his utmost to be a good husband and take his marriage vows more seriously than most. And I really didn't want to get into it with him so much as give people a good laugh along the lines of the what we say vs what we mean variety, point out the extreme negative way this could be taken by the readers, and point out that there are some things I see as possible inconsistencies.

I will admit to letting attitudes that were less than godly get the better of me, but please kind enough to side with me that it did not merit the negative characterization the OP responded with. He makes me out to be little better than a shallow, selfish, extremely bitter, family hating feminazi which anyone who knows me at all would know is completely inaccurate.
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Thank you, Cinder. I found that difficult to right and I probably should've PM'd you about it instead. I apologise for not doing so. Thank you for sharing though. I had no idea he had written similar things before and that he'd harp on about it following my post. I guess I feel that there has been a lot of man-bashing of late in the forums (some of it warranted, sure) and I didn't want it to continue. I'm certainly not perfect. I get frustrated, angry even with all of the false teachings and trolls that come here to cause division. So I'm working on it. We all need a saviour, yes? :)
 
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*write, not right. Dyslexic moment there.
 
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Well, don't feel like the Lone Ranger. I can't remember when I stopped being a youngster myself. Of course I stopped increasing age at 39! Every year is a year closer to the Lord. Do you know the song that goes, "And the Lord Whom I love will be waiting for me, when I come to the end of my road."
 
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28Man_Seeking_Wife said:
I really could care less for the ridicule this post may elicit, and I am not asking for anyone's advice on making this post either...

If you are a woman in the United States seeking the same, private message me! I am a philosophy/theology grad student aiming to be a teacher. I am old fashioned, willing to be assertive and be the pursuer. As far as the type of person I am seeking, perhaps someone who hasn't bought into the lie of secular feminism which has destroyed marriage and family life in America? Someone witty, athletic, non-prudish... a folky-guitar singer? Okay I shouldn't be so specific, but the first for sure! I am not seeking an internet quickie-bride, I desire to get to know and befriend a young woman in real life to see if the Lord might bless the relationship with a lifelong vocation mirroring the nuptial (UNBREAKABLE) union between Christ and the Church.

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This all seems vaguely familiar... Wait... Oh YEAH! Bodacious christian hottie wife guy! Welcome back buddy! Glad to see you are still on the hunt. Persistence is key.
 
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With the disclaimer that I am in one of those moods and this post is for entertainment purposes only and in no way do I believe it to reflect the true heart or intent of the OP:

My clarifications are in blue:

If you are a woman in the United States seeking the same, private message me! I am a philosophy/theology grad student (I've spent a lot of time getting my head filled with theories of how everything should be) aiming to be a teacher (you would therefore be the learner and I'll teach you everything you need to know about how things are supposed to be). I am old fashioned (and if I had any PR skills or tact at all I would have changed this to traditional), willing to be assertive and be the pursuer.(that's why I asked any interested female to pm ME rather than finding ones I might be interested in) As far as the type of person I am seeking, perhaps someone who hasn't bought into the lie of secular feminism which has destroyed marriage and family life in America (I want a woman who wants to stay home, make babies, cook and clean)? Someone witty (make me laugh), athletic (chubby, unattractive ladies need not apply), non-prudish (I say I'm old fashioned but I want to go pretty far before the wedding)... a folky-guitar singer? Okay I shouldn't be so specific (but I'm still looking for my perfect match and I really am this picky), but the first for sure! I am not seeking an internet quickie-bride (I won't marry you just because you pm me), I desire to get to know and befriend a young woman in real life (that's why I'm looking on the internet) to see if the Lord might bless the relationship with a lifelong vocation (being married to me will be a lot of work) mirroring the nuptial (UNBREAKABLE) union between Christ and the Church (I'm a theology major, I'm going to overspiritualize everything, use big words you can't understand, and oh I don't believe in divorce).
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I laughed so hard that I almost had to have my leather couch professionally cleaned!!!
 
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I love it! Women are usually the ones that do not date "chubby" guys but that's ok. If a man feels the same it's just not right!
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Nope. It's the other way around.
 
Elizabeth619

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tourist said:

whether you choose to accept this or not, coming here to do a "drive-by personal ad" is seldom going to be treated with the serious intention you hoped for.

I found this out the hard way awhile back. You are so right in saying that things may go more smoothly if you integrate in the community. Excellent post Monica.
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And that is really sad. While this isn't a dating site there have been people who have met from here and are now happily married. The owner of this site does not condemn anyone looking for someone, but people like to poke fun and harass those who do.

So far the OP has been mocked, and criticized over his own personal preference in what he wants in a mate. How on earth is that even a Christian attitude?
Then there is the horde of feminists that wanted to take personal offense over one person's view on how he wants his future marriage to work. He doesn't want some insane man hating feminist. Why is that so bad? He didn't say he wanted to oppress his wife. He didn't say he wanted her to be a baby factory, but that is how he is treated.

Anyway, I'm sorry you have been treated badly too. Seems to happen quite often. What a shame.
 
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Elizabeth619 said:
Then there is the horde of feminists that wanted to take personal offense over one person's view on how he wants his future marriage to work. He doesn't want some insane man hating feminist. Why is that so bad? He didn't say he wanted to oppress his wife. He didn't say he wanted her to be a baby factory, but that is how he is treated.
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You're attempting to construe some ridiculously hyperbolic conception of feminism that wasn't implied, to begin with. Female social and political equality is hardly tantamount to "insane, man-hating feminism." There's no misandrist sentiment to be found in contemporary iterations of feminism, and to misconstrue the ideal of equality as implied by the OP's belief concerning the "lie of secular feminism" (an obvious reference to modern feminism advocating social and political equality at the expense of an interpretation of Biblical scripture) with misandry is little more than a false attribution.
 
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You're attempting to construe some ridiculously hyperbolic conception of feminism that wasn't implied, to begin with. Female social and political equality is hardly tantamount to "insane, man-hating feminism." There's no misandrist sentiment to be found in contemporary iterations of feminism, and to misconstrue the ideal of equality as implied by the OP's belief concerning the "lie of secular feminism" (an obvious reference to modern feminism advocating social and political equality at the expense of an interpretation of Biblical scripture) with misandry is little more than a false attribution.
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I think the term "feminism" is a pretty loaded one, much like "Liberal", "Conservative", "environmental", and of course "evolution".

Your posts are very interesting. I have never met any woman who wanted straight-up, 100% equality and nothing else. Is that what you want? (I'm not trying to put words in your mouth, I am just trying to see if I've met someone I've never met before.)
 
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Depends on how far you'd be willing to go to define equality, I suppose. It'd be neither pragmatic nor logically consistent to espouse absolute gender equality in light of the handful of notable discrepancies between the two genders -- physical prowess and endurance, for instance. I wouldn't personally advocate equality to the extreme point of being forcibly subjected to a direct combat role in a military draft, as an example, or being detrimentally pressed into emergency diplomacy with an entity that might hypothetically be less receptive to the notion of gender equality.

Even so, gender equality from most ordinary perspectives in reference to politics, civic and economic life, or social life in general isn't an unreasonable or unjustifiable aspiration. I'm more of a proponent of pragmatic equality in lieu of "100%" equality, although I'd define "pragmatic" in a very broad sense. Women are, after all, capable of doing nearly anything as well as men in the context of domestic society.
 
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Depends on how far you'd be willing to go to define equality, I suppose. It'd be neither pragmatic nor logically consistent to espouse absolute gender equality in light of the handful of notable discrepancies between the two genders -- physical prowess and endurance, for instance. I wouldn't personally advocate equality to the extreme point of being forcibly subjected to a direct combat role in a military draft, as an example, or being detrimentally pressed into emergency diplomacy with an entity that might hypothetically be less receptive to the notion of gender equality.

Even so, gender equality from most ordinary perspectives in reference to politics, civic and economic life, or social life in general isn't an unreasonable or unjustifiable aspiration. I'm more of a proponent of pragmatic equality in lieu of "100%" equality, although I'd define "pragmatic" in a very broad sense. Women are, after all, capable of doing nearly anything as well as men in the context of domestic society.
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This seems unfair, from my point of view. It is tantamount to saying, "Women, in general, aren't as good at science, therefore women can't be scientists or science teachers." Just because women as a gender are less adept at combat situations, doesn't mean that a particular woman is. Some men are less physically adept, and therefore pruned out at the medical test. Why not offer women the same opportunity? It seems like you are advocating a la carte feminism.
 
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You're attempting to construe some ridiculously hyperbolic conception of feminism that wasn't implied, to begin with. Female social and political equality is hardly tantamount to "insane, man-hating feminism." There's no misandrist sentiment to be found in contemporary iterations of feminism, and to misconstrue the ideal of equality as implied by the OP's belief concerning the "lie of secular feminism" (an obvious reference to modern feminism advocating social and political equality at the expense of an interpretation of Biblical scripture) with misandry is little more than a false attribution.
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Why are you in this thread other than to argue the OPs personal preference, and anyone who disagrees with your views? I'm not going to argue with you. It's rather pointless but you and a few others flocked to this thread like vultures looking to devour him. What is the point in that?
 
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This seems unfair, from my point of view. It is tantamount to saying, "Women, in general, aren't as good at science, therefore women can't be scientists or science teachers." Just because women as a gender are less adept at combat situations, doesn't mean that a particular woman is. Some men are less physically adept, and therefore pruned out at the medical test. Why not offer women the same opportunity? It seems like you are advocating a la carte feminism.
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You must've misunderstood me. To clarify, I'm not attempting to imply that exceptions shouldn't be made toward women that voluntarily pursue an occupation and have the qualifications to do so -- I'm really only pointing out that equality to its denoted logical extreme is arguably unjustifiable, specifically in reference to being forcibly pressed into a given scenario in light of discrepancies between genders that would drastically influence, or would otherwise be heavily contingent upon, a given circumstance.
 
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GIRLS AND WOMEN WHO ARE TO GET MARRIED YOU MUST BE LIKE A VIRTUOUS WOMAN IN PROVERBS 32 WHICH KING LEMUEL,THE PROPHECY THAT HIS MOTHER THOUGHT HIM , ABOUT IF NOT YOU,YOUR MARRIAGE WILL NOT LAST AND NOT BE ENJOYABLE!!!
 
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