Worst Dating Experiences

[richie_2uk]

What are some of the worst dates you have been on? I know some of y'all have some funny or strange ones. Please share


One date I had was I went out with a guy. Everything went fine then when I'm driving home he calls me and ask if I can still have children. I thought that was a little odd for a first date question.

Just be aware that some people will want to forget the past and leave it there. I know you would like to hear some stories. and it great for those who will and would like to share. but just think of those who wants to keep those types of stories in the past. and maybe just by sharing your past, may trigger off some bad memories for those that's been trying to forget.

Not putting a dampener on things, I know you mean well. God bless all. and I hope that God has healed you all of your hurts and past problems.

 

[presidente]

Let us just say....

A mute. That’s right, for whatever reason, this young lady decided on our first date that it is the perfect time to say absolutely nothing at all. How, exactly, can you have nothing to talk about on the first date?! We just met! You literally know nothing about me, yet she couldn't manage to entertain a small conversation? Or the conversation she does entertain is nothing but one-word responses and hard-to-interpret facial expressions to questions only initiated by me. I don't think she realized we were face to face and not texting one another. Sadly, she didn't have the benefit of waiting to come up with clever responses and supplemental emoticons.

Maybe she was autistic. Your maybe she just found you so good-looking she got nervous and shut down.

Then you have the young women who turns the date into an inquisition. By some off chance we started having a good time half way through the date, and it appeared as if she could look past my immature love of meat because she had already convinced herself that she can totally mold me into at least becoming a vegan after a few guilt trips later in the relationship, it’s still a first date!

Trying to get you to be a vegetarian? That might have been a deal-breaker for me back then. If a woman were one of those vegetarians who was one because of some hyperliberal philosophy or eastern religion, that would be a deal breaker. I wouldn't have wanted to be with someone who considered animals on par with human beings or someone who wasn't a Christian. There are some Christian vegetarians, Adventists and people just concerned with general health. But trying to get me to be a vegetarian might have been a way to make me lose interest last. If you are looking for a wife who can cook, do you want a wife who won't cook the steaks.

Finally, you have the females that turn the date into an unsolicited game of 21-questions simply because we’re having a good time and she can see me being the father to her unborn children based off a positive horoscope reading she received on her iPhone earlier in the day. Asking me how many kids I want to have and when I want to get married is not appropriate first date conversation.

If I had dated a woman who gave credence to horoscopes and didn't repent after a short conversation back when I was dating, I think that would have been a deal-breaker.

Shouldn't that be appropriate conversation for a first date? Looking back, it would have scared me too. I was a little overwhelmed when I first started seeing my wife as friends, and she asked me to come to an uncle's funeral. I suspected this was the woman God wanted me to marry. She sort of knew that, too, but we weren't exactly telling each other this (though we were each trying to figure out if the other knew.) But still, after a week or two of knowing her, going to a funeral? Too much talk of marriage early on kind of made me uncomfortable, but partly that was because I wanted to lead.

What if she's really subtle about it in a way where she mentions liking kids in conversation without it sounding like she is interviewing you to be the father of her future children? I think it's good to get to the big questions first. Like, do you ever want to get married? Do you want to have children? If the answer to the first one is no, or I'm not sure, dating is over. If you want kids and the answer to the second one is a firm 'no' and you want kids, dating is over. Let's just be friends. No one has to waste money buying the other one free meals and there is less chance of heart break. Too many people just date for entertainment. Those who are looking for spouses need to weed out those who aren't serious. It makes sense to find out big stuff like plans on marriage, kids, religious beliefs, and philosophy of marriage (e.g. egalitarian, complementarian, feminism, whether career takes precedence over family) early on. They you start looking for signs to see whether the other person is loving and caring enough to be a spouse versus abusive, and whether the other person is likely to be faithful versus an adulterer/ess. And of course you look for compatibility. I think it's good to find out if marriage is a possibility early on if you are both looking for a romantic type relationship. But you have to do it in a cool way that doesn't weird the other person out.

After how many dates would it be appropriate to ask this stuff in your opinion? Do you think it is okay if the man does it instead of the woman, interviews the woman to see if she wants to marry and have kids? If a woman is aggressive in the wrong way, it can come off to men as a bit intimidating. Maybe women can weigh in on how they'd feel about a man interviewing them. Maybe I'll start a new thread.

The first date is probably too quick unless you are subtle about it. With Internet dating, people can put a few lines about their desire for marriage kids or whatever online, I suppose, to weed out people they aren't interested in.

 

[JimJimmers]

And he went on and on about how he likes to nap, and drive around the city.

Hopefully not at the same time.

 

[thecreationtutor]

I have too many to list them all, but here are a few.

I had met this guy who was in the navy, every time his ship was in we were always together, he had asked me if we could only just see each other, i really liked him so i was all for it. Anyway
He left for a month to do work ups, and when he came back he called me and said he missed me and wanted to see me that night. We go out to get something to eat and as were sitting there he looks at me and goes, Your starting to get fat. What do you even say to that! So were sitting across from each other he takes my hands and i'm thinkin he's going to apologize , but he says there is this really hot girl over there and she keeps looking at me, should i go ask for her number?
Needless to say that didn't work out.

I had been dating this guy for a good while and it was Valentines day, my favorite place is PF Changs, so he takes me there. The whole night he is looking the girl that seats people up and down. Like i mean seriously checking her out, the i can't even talk to you, what did you just say, sorry i wasn't listening kind of checking her out.
So that was a fun night.

Or how about the time Carlos calls me after our date and says you know, i really like you, and your really hot, but i like really really skinny girls, and if you could just lose ten pounds.....

This next one i just really love. I was with a guy named Brad, and if not for the fact he did drugs, slept with his best friend and lied all the time he would have been great. Anyways, its my birthday and he goes... i've got tickets to this thing, and i know your gonna like it. We go to this "thing im really going to like" and it turns out were seeing this heavy metal band called The death star orchestra.. I mean do i seem like the kind of person who listens to bands called The death star orchestra! Turns out He took me there because his best friend was going to be there, which was a girl just an fyi.

My sister kinda sets me up with this guy at the church we were going to. I was actually really excited because he was a christian and from what i could tell actually acted like one.
We go out on our first date and he tells me all about how his ex girlfriend was so hot, and how she had really big.......... Yeaaaaaaah you can figure out the rest of that.

My favorite one is this.
We had been together for a year when he says this. If i keep calling you the name Rachael by accident it just means i might love you. Rachael was my girlfriend before you....
Why him and i aren't still together is a mystery!

yikes - that's all i can say to that

 

[thecreationtutor]

Hmm - Friend invited me to go to a Christmas play at church, with her mom - didn't speak to me once, before or after - not really a date but whateva

I took a girl out I had no interest in really, was just being sarcastic and and a jerk, went rally's - told her not to stick her fingers out the window or i'd close them on her - i did just that at the rallies. Came back to the place I was staying - she tried to make a move, but i kicked her out the apt.

bad dates - hmm: I think that was the worst one lol

 

[Crimson_Lark]

I took a girl out I had no interest in really, was just being sarcastic and and a jerk, went rally's - told her not to stick her fingers out the window or i'd close them on her - i did just that at the rallies. Came back to the place I was staying - she tried to make a move, but i kicked her out the apt.

bad dates - hmm: I think that was the worst one lol

What the heck!?! You threatened to crush her fingers?! Then you did!? LOL Her move should have been a swift kick to your shin!

 

[ptlman]

Holly,I have a solution for all of ur dating problems. I analyzed ur worst dates and came up with a perfect theorem for u to try.On each date or relationship, u got dogged for a Third Wheel. That was rough about the 10 lbs. (U r kinda cute) The plan is that u become the third wheel that someone cant take their eyes off of.How does that sound?

 

[Shouryu]

And he went on and on about how he likes to nap, and drive around the city.

I like to nap. I like to drive around the city.

(Of course, I rarely get to do either, being an adult and all, but when I do, it's quite lovely.)

Just be aware that some people will want to forget the past and leave it there. I know you would like to hear some stories. and it great for those who will and would like to share. but just think of those who wants to keep those types of stories in the past.

Here's a crazy thought.

If you don't want to share your experiences...DON'T SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCES.
If you're worried that reading the thread might bring back some unpleasant feelings..DON'T READ THE THREAD.

Hang on a sec, let me look over my shoulder.

Nope! There is NO ONE behind me, pointing a gun at my head and making me participate in this thread. If there IS someone participating in this thread against their own will, then I hope the have the sense to maybe text the police during their next bathroom break.

I know this must boggle some of you, but EVERY SINGLE DAY, I...*gasp*...skip...*bigger gasp*...reading threads!

OH NOES!!!

It it it's crazy, I know, but just go with me here. Sometimes, I just...I just look at the title of a thread. You know, before you've even clicked on it to open it? Yeah, I read that title, and inside of my brain, I says to myself, "Self! I don't particularly care about this topic. Let's not even bother." Sometimes it's, "Self, you're a little sensitive about this. It's just going to upset you." And my mousing hand? It says, "Okay, that's a good idea. I won't click that."

Uh oh, someone had a family member that had cancer, and they're posting about it. YOU BETTER NOT DO THAT, SOMEONE IN HERE MIGHT HAVE HAD CANCER AND YOU'RE GONNA BRING BACK BAD MEMORIES!!!

Really?

Hey, someone keeps posting vacation pictures from Prince Edward Island! Well, they better knock it off! Someone on the forums got served with divorce papers in PEI!!! That's so insensitive!

I mean, that's where this is really going, right?

If you want to forget your past and leave it there, and NOT share, go ahead. No one here is stopping you.
If you don't want to read our stories and find some amusement or commiseration because it makes you feel things you didn't want to feel again...then...don't read.

 

[Lecrae]

All of these were from the same girl:

*One date she said that I'm stupidly quiet and was rude about it, and we had just sat down at the dinner table... I stopped talking the rest of the date because she made me feel upset and felt my effort wasn't worth it. I didn't say one word the rest of the date or the 30 minute ride home. She asked if she did anything wrong. LOL
*She started calling me her "boyfriend" before we even went on one date. That was a red flag right there.
*One date she told me she wanted (literally) 10 children, but she didn't know how to have sex (she was 17 when she made that comment...). Talk about awkward. I'm not going to give my girlfriend or wife the talk. Just, no. Especially during a date.
*While on a date, she started flirting with one of her co-workers. Really?
*On another date, she told me how she likes male attention all the time. Major red flag.
*On another date, she went out of her way to find her ex at a HUGE concert. I had to go find her because her friend "lost" her. When in the end I found out they sent me on that wild goose chase to make sure I wouldn't catch her getting cozy with her ex. Yes, this was during a date.
*The climax of the stupidity - she wanted to get married right after she graduated high school. Granted, I know some couples do this and they're mature enough to do this, I'm not condemning those people. However, a girl who doesn't even know what sex is and was as immature as her, nope. Not gunna happen. We're no longer together. She was a jerk to me.

 

[arwen83]

I like to nap. I like to drive around the city.

(Of course, I rarely get to do either, being an adult and all, but when I do, it's quite lovely.)
.

Oh yes, I do too. But I do other things as well. I got the impression that many of his days consisted of alternating from napping and driving

 

[Crimson_Lark]

In my enduring search for love I have had more than a couple bad dates:

I could bring up....

- The guy who wanted me to hold his dog's poop bag. I refused.

or


- The guy who drilled me with questions, then when I told him I wasn't interested, he threw a verbal tantrum. Afterwards he texted me a long explanation of why I made a HORRIBLE mistake.

or

- Another guy told me he added me to a dating book he was writing. (this was after one date) Then he called me and wanted to meet to give me a manuscript. He didn't change my name and it was SO AWKWARD to read it because he pretty much proclaimed his love along with a list of other women he dated. I gave it back and asked him to take me out of his book.


or

-The guy who wouldn't look me in the eye. Have you ever had a conversation with someone where they refuse to look you in the eye for an hour? Even when you ask? It's almost unbearable.


BUT I would choose:

The guy who introduced me to his dog on the first date. Unfortunately the dog was dead, cremated and in a Parkay container. When he opened the lid, he revealed the ashes. The guy barked in time with the moving lid and proceeded to chase me around the island in his kitchen. (since I was backing away from him and the 'barking' ashes)


Good times.

 

[Shouryu]

Oh yes, I do too. But I do other things as well. I got the impression that many of his days consisted of alternating from napping and driving

Ya know...if I won the lottery...

Come to think of it, I think you just described the life of a racecar driver. I suppose you have to throw in the occasional press conference and maybe a silly commercial or two.

 

[Lecrae]

In my enduring search for love I have had more than a couple bad dates:

I could bring up....

- The guy who wanted me to hold his dog's poop bag. I refused.

or


- The guy who drilled me with questions, then when I told him I wasn't interested, he threw a verbal tantrum. Afterwards he proceeded to text me long explanations of why I made a HORRIBLE mistake.

or

- Another guy told me he added me to a dating book he was writing. (this was after one date) Then he called me and wanted to meet to give me a manuscript. He didn't change my name and it was SO AWKWARD to read it because he pretty much proclaimed his love along with a list of other women he dated. I gave it back and asked him to take me out of his book.


or

-The guy who wouldn't look me in the eye (AT ALL) Have you ever had a conversation with someone where they refuse to look you in the eye for an hour? It's almost unbearable.


BUT I would choose:

The guy who introduced me to his dog on the first date. Unfortunately the dog was dead, cremated and in a Parkay container. When he opened the lid, he revealed the ashes. The guy barked in time with the moving lid and proceeded to chase me around the island in his kitchen. (since I was backing away from him and the 'barking' ashes)


Good times.

Okay, I lost it on the last one. hahahaha

 

[Hellooo]

You win, Crimson!

 

[my_adonai_]

Ladies always turn off when they see their dates as chubby, thats exactly what i saw in my very FIRST date . Met up a girl, i could tell she was not THAT interested anymore through the conversation, actually it lasted about 5 minutes and we were all on our ways. we friends till now, love the friend zone..

Last time we met, ooohh you have lost weight...

why is weight such a turn off? i love food lol

 

[my_adonai_]

All of these were from the same girl:

*One date she said that I'm stupidly quiet and was rude about it, and we had just sat down at the dinner table... I stopped talking the rest of the date because she made me feel upset and felt my effort wasn't worth it. I didn't say one word the rest of the date or the 30 minute ride home. She asked if she did anything wrong. LOL
*She started calling me her "boyfriend" before we even went on one date. That was a red flag right there.
*One date she told me she wanted (literally) 10 children, but she didn't know how to have sex (she was 17 when she made that comment...). Talk about awkward. I'm not going to give my girlfriend or wife the talk. Just, no. Especially during a date.
*While on a date, she started flirting with one of her co-workers. Really?
*On another date, she told me how she likes male attention all the time. Major red flag.
*On another date, she went out of her way to find her ex at a HUGE concert. I had to go find her because her friend "lost" her. When in the end I found out they sent me on that wild goose chase to make sure I wouldn't catch her getting cozy with her ex. Yes, this was during a date.
*The climax of the stupidity - she wanted to get married right after she graduated high school. Granted, I know some couples do this and they're mature enough to do this, I'm not condemning those people. However, a girl who doesn't even know what sex is and was as immature as her, nope. Not gunna happen. We're no longer together. She was a jerk to me.

Something tells me she knows what sex is. And that first red flag should have responded with a white flag from you brother ..

 

[Angielah22]

I went on a disaster date once with a guy who was a friends cousin. He had seen me on facebook & wanted to get to know me. He asked me to meet him in Indiana at Mr Gattis pizza. I didn't feel comfortable going alone, so I had to sneak a different friend along with her boyfriend so they could spy on me. He calls me at the time we were supposed to meet saying he just woke up. He arrives 30 minutes late & the first thing that comes out of his mouth isn't nice to meet you or anything, it's "ARE YOU GOING TO PAY"? I was shocked, but with me being the nice person that I am, I said okay. During the whole date he had his phone out text messaging & calling people. My friends were sitting at another table laughing & pointing at me & i'm trying not to laugh because I was already frustrated with him & I so desperately wanted to go to their table. & during the times we had an actual conversation, all he did was cuss every other word. There were little kids around us & their parents were giving us dirty looks. I should have used the excuse me, so i can go to the bathroom line to sneak away...

 

[Theygaveutheirworst]

Went on a date with a girl I kind of knew at work. Someone told me she had been interested in getting to know me outside of work, so I decided to ask her out on a Friday night to go see a movie. When I arrived at the movie theater I received a text from her telling me she was going to be running late due to traffic. I decided to call up my best bud to help calm my nervousness while I waited for her. About 15 minutes later she walked up to me while I was still chatting. Trying to hurry up and end the convo with my bud, I noticed she was digging around in her purse for something. After she dug around for a few seconds, she pulled out a packet of cigarettes and started smoking- at that point I pretty much knew that this wasn't going to turn into anything serious. After I ended the convo and started chatting with her, she started running off a bunch of choice words, describing how bad the traffic was getting to the theater- strike two! After the movie ended she invited me to go play beer pong with some of her friends- strike three! Now I only ask a girl out after I hang out with them a couple of times and get to know them.

 

[presidente]

He asked me to meet him in Indiana at Mr Gattis pizza.

Sounds like a great deal for him though-- free Mr. Gatti's pizza. I haven't had that in years. i don't live near one of their restaurants.

 

[Elizabeth619]

Just be aware that some people will want to forget the past and leave it there. I know you would like to hear some stories. and it great for those who will and would like to share. but just think of those who wants to keep those types of stories in the past. and maybe just by sharing your past, may trigger off some bad memories for those that's been trying to forget.

Not putting a dampener on things, I know you mean well. God bless all. and I hope that God has healed you all of your hurts and past problems.

Then they don't have to enter the thread. There is no requirement to do so.

People on here talk about past experiences all the time. Lost loved ones, relationship problems, dating problems, etc. any of these could "trigger" bad memories yet people choose to discuss them for various reasons. Some of these reasons may be therapeutic to discuss aloud and some may feel better bc others can relate and so on.
The title of this thread says enough to show what this thread is about. Therefore people are properly "warned" of the context. If the thread makes them uncomfortable then they shouldn't read it.