Older women and younger men

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kenthomas27

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Jullianna said:
It's very weird to me when guys who are only a few years older than my son (who is 22) flirt with me :) Makes me very uncomfortable :)
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well! Aren't I a little red faced..........I'll have to quit having those thoughts.....oh shoot..Hail Mary full of grace, the Lord is with thee; blessed art thou...wait - how many.....

uhh - Father - how many Hail Mary's did you say?

I said six. And I know what you're thinking. Did he say 5 Hail Mary's or 6? Well to tell you the truth in all this excitement I've kinda lost track myself. But being as this is a 44 magnum prayer, the most powerful liturgy in the Catholic Church and would take your guilt clean off, you gotta ask yourself. Do I feel lucky?

Well do ya, punk?



Hail Mary, full of grace.....
 
Crazyteen

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Wow lol
A boy in our neighborhood who is 20 has been dating a 65 year old lady for about 6 months now.
(their not christian)
I saw them kissing in a busstop and I asked him if she is his girlfriend, and he was like: "Girlfriend? This is my wife!"
 
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Huckleberry

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seoulsearch said:
I always find it interesting when people say, "You're just a baby." What they really mean is, "You don't know half as much about life as I do," and it's such a way of looking down at someone. I really hate the, "Oh you have plenty of time. You're only such-and-such years old..." answer.

As I wrote in another post--people told me that all the time when my husband left for someone else when I was 25. "What are you worried about? You have plenty of time!! You'll find someone in no time!!" But time always moves forward. And now I'm almost 40 instead of 25. Another 15, 30, 45 years could easily pass by in the same manner.

And when people tell me what a "kid" I am, I always reply, "Age is relative. My Grandpa is turning 96 this year and still lives independently--to him, you and anyone else under 80 are just toddlers."
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NOT A FINGER!!!
 
seoulsearch

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Well, Mr. Berry, I figured that since you're older and wiser :), you'd be way more resilient... and would handle it well. :D
 
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Grace-Like-Rain said:
New thread since this is a bit of a side street from the original "married by age 50" thread by Seoul.



Im glad you mentioned this Reece. This is something I have been pondering. I've in the past (eHarmony or whatever) been approached by younger men (in their 20s) and I admit I was curious, a bit amused at my own expense, and incredulous. What would a guy in his 20s see in a woman my age, with teenage daughters no less! I am probably doing them a grave disservice by dismissing them out of hand, and I feel bad about that. My first reaction is just to assume they are being friendly. That pretty much has to be it, right?? I just have a hard time wrapping my brain around it. Not the age itself so much as the difference in life situations. I dunno... thoughts from anyone on younger men and older women?

(Having said that, I know several couples with significantly older women and younger men, and they have all been successful. So I know it's not impossible. Maybe it's a pride thing? I feel like my husband should be at least as old and wrinkly as me. Haha.)
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this made my day. just as i was finishing my coffee this made me laugh. great combo, caffeine and laughter. lol you have to first be an older woman to worry about a younger man asking you out. at the young age of 36, i'd hardly consider you an older woman. lol still laughing
 
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Jullianna

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kenthomas27 said:
well! Aren't I a little red faced..........I'll have to quit having those thoughts.....oh shoot..Hail Mary full of grace, the Lord is with thee; blessed art thou...wait - how many.....

uhh - Father - how many Hail Mary's did you say?

I said six. And I know what you're thinking. Did he say 5 Hail Mary's or 6? Well to tell you the truth in all this excitement I've kinda lost track myself. But being as this is a 44 magnum prayer, the most powerful liturgy in the Catholic Church and would take your guilt clean off, you gotta ask yourself. Do I feel lucky?

Well do ya, punk?



Hail Mary, full of grace.....
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LOL! Sorry! :)
 
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Chey60

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Tintin said:
having the role of spiritual leader in the family home. I'm not immature but I still have some things to learn.
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ha!!!
so you feel that if you were with an older woman she couldn't look up to you as a spiritual leader?

I have never dated or been in a relationship with anyone my age or older since I was 21 ..and before you shout (Cougar), Cougar chases it's prey, I don't chase anyone. That is just the age range who approach and like me..
if an older man has ever approached me it's been someone super old and super old looking. I don't mind growing old with someone I just don't want to have to catch up!

my last BF was 42 and I am 53.. I looked up to AND respected him..
it didn't work out because he wasn't over his ex that he had been with for 3 years..and he didn't really like the whole respect thing..

anyway.. I believe if the man is confident, sure of himself and a leader ...the woman WOULD respect him..
its the men who are scared or milque toasts who end up getting walked on.
 
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Chey60

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Crazyteen said:
Wow lol
A boy in our neighborhood who is 20 has been dating a 65 year old lady for about 6 months now.
(their not christian)
I saw them kissing in a busstop and I asked him if she is his girlfriend, and he was like: "Girlfriend? This is my wife!"
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I think I threw up in my mouth a little..

yea..not christians is right..
at that young age, he thinks he wants her because of certain AHEM things..
but when he turns 30 or so, lets just see.. think Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore.
this is just yucky for real..
and I would think the same thing if it were an older man that age and a younger woman..
I am all for a 10 year age gap.. Well anything not underage.. if that's your thing..
and it's real and it's a GOD thing..
but so not for this icky stuff here! eww!
 
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Chey60

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I will admit that I only skimmed the first post and didn't read anyone else's posts (yet), but I just had to say I could never be with a younger man. That has always been my mindset. The godly man I marry has to be older than me. He can't even be the same age. Strange? Possibly. But here's the deal: I'm sure some of you have noticed my passionate stubbornness on other threads as I post...well, if my husband were younger than me, I would just know that he was clueless and I, being older, was far wiser and I would, therefore, blissfully ignore him until he left me. Seriously. He would have no say in my life, which would be wrong since he's supposed to be the headship and I am supposed to submit to him. :)

So, yeah, no younger men for me. And, I will only go about 10 years older than my own age, too. I used to say 20 years, but that would be my mom and dad's ages, respectively, and that is just plain weird, you know? Yup. :)
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I guarantee.. a younger man come up to you and be completely assertive, taking control and leading in a nice way not a tyrant way.. and he was good looking, smart, a Godly man ..your knees would buckle and you would say "ok"..
I know this.. because I, like you , have been in that stubborn , controlling position (we get it from EVE remember? which is why God said that "he must rule over you"..and all that)
but the right man, regardless of (a decent) age younger, could change your mind..
my last bf did.. 42.. to my 53 and I would totally submit to him..he was assertive, knew what he wanted (well he didn't really but he pulled it off let me just say..) he took charge, and I allowed him to..

so never say never..
you are 33?
hm... bet a 27 year old will come into your life soon.. :) and you will change your mind.
 
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Huckleberry

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seoulsearch said:
Well, Mr. Berry, I figured that since you're older and wiser :), you'd be way more resilient... and would handle it well. :D
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I'm fine, kid.
Super-glued my ego back together.
Now for a nap.
 
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Chey60

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
New thread since this is a bit of a side street from the original "married by age 50" thread by Seoul.



Im glad you mentioned this Reece. This is something I have been pondering. I've in the past (eHarmony or whatever) been approached by younger men (in their 20s) and I admit I was curious, a bit amused at my own expense, and incredulous. What would a guy in his 20s see in a woman my age, with teenage daughters no less! I am probably doing them a grave disservice by dismissing them out of hand, and I feel bad about that. My first reaction is just to assume they are being friendly. That pretty much has to be it, right?? I just have a hard time wrapping my brain around it. Not the age itself so much as the difference in life situations. I dunno... thoughts from anyone on younger men and older women?
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So.. I am not saying this because I am interested in any super young guys.. younger for me that is acceptable is 40 or 43 to 52...
older is 54-57...

in the past, much younger guys approached me and though I was flattered, it didn't serve any other purpose except for that..I wasn't really ready for a relationship anyway and they weren't being serious..

now it seems, that I am serious and that I am truly walking the walk.., ready to be a wife.. when a younger man say, 42 is attracted to me and wants to take me out..he will find out my true age (well I don't lie .. i tell them) and then he's bumfuddled.. he doesn't know if he wants to marry a woman my age, either because he thinks I will die before him..
or he might want more children and I am not having anymore, or he is just unsure all together..
but then some men my age feel I am too "Young" for them..because I am silly, outgoing and child like..I dress kind of rockerish (I am a singer/artist after all :) lol and I look and act younger than I am.. I think they feel more comfortable with a woman who is more business like and or more old fashioned..someone who can go into politics with them or something...

it's just a strange place to be.. I am an enigma
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Older women.....they are almost always a lot more fun to be around than a young 20 something girl that's still trying to figure out who she is......that's just my experience. When I was 19 I dated a 38 year old woman. It was an enjoyable relationship while it lasted and I learned a lot of things. Now that I'm in my late 20's, I don't really have a problem with older women being so concerned about my age but I remember being much younger (18-21) and being frustrated at the pretty women in their mid-late 30's that were interested when we first started talking but decided they weren't interested after they figured out how much younger I was. If someone is uncomfortable with an age difference though, what can ya do?
 
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KJV15John11

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I had just checked out of a grocery/department store and was heading for an exit. That's when I heard a pair of high heels clicking behind me as they walked. I resisted the temptation to turn around. Those heels followed me all the way outside. When I stopped behind my car to open the trunk, she walked right past me, looked over and smiled. I smiled back. There wasn't a long stare between us but long enough for me to notice that she was an attractive older woman who was dressed very nicely. I immediately thought of a comment made on CC how older women are more confident, go for what they are after, and don't play games. I'm not saying she was after me, she just displayed a self-assurance that would attract a man who was confident in themselves and would make her very approachable.

Some of my thoughts come from a past relationship who was 6 years my senior. She displayed those same traits and would constantly get attention from guys who were much younger to much older. She still allowed me to be the leader without losing her independence. She was a really good dancer so she learned how important it is to follow the man's lead. When she taught me to dance, she would give me instructions, but still would allow me to lead, even if I didn't know what I was doing. Eventually, with her gentle guidance, I gained the confidence to lead her around the floor.

I suppose the same technique could be applied to any situation. Using a loving and supportive approach, most men could easily become the man their woman wants and needs, and allows the men to reach their own potential. It's like nurturing a plant to grow and take root, so that someday, it will become a tree she can lean on later.
 
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Tintin

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Chey60 said:
ha!!!
so you feel that if you were with an older woman she couldn't look up to you as a spiritual leader?

I have never dated or been in a relationship with anyone my age or older since I was 21 ..and before you shout (Cougar), Cougar chases it's prey, I don't chase anyone. That is just the age range who approach and like me..
if an older man has ever approached me it's been someone super old and super old looking. I don't mind growing old with someone I just don't want to have to catch up!

my last BF was 42 and I am 53.. I looked up to AND respected him..
it didn't work out because he wasn't over his ex that he had been with for 3 years..and he didn't really like the whole respect thing..

anyway.. I believe if the man is confident, sure of himself and a leader ...the woman WOULD respect him..
its the men who are scared or milque toasts who end up getting walked on.
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Chey, due to the bullying I received in much of my life, I'm not the most confident of guys. Not a walking mat, but I do need to work on my assertiveness. In my experience older women are more mature, so for me, personally, I think a woman around my age or a bit younger would be best. But what would I know?
 
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Chey60

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It's not a bad thing to like women your age or younger :) just let it be because of your preference not because of a perceived notions of the older woman :) keep keeping on brother :)
BTW I get the bullying things. Abuse and bullying is why it took me so long to gain the confidence not to have to be controlling :)
 
CatHerder

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Chey60 said:
So.. I am not saying this because I am interested in any super young guys.. younger for me that is acceptable is 40 or 43 to 52...
older is 54-57...

in the past, much younger guys approached me and though I was flattered, it didn't serve any other purpose except for that..I wasn't really ready for a relationship anyway and they weren't being serious..

now it seems, that I am serious and that I am truly walking the walk.., ready to be a wife.. when a younger man say, 42 is attracted to me and wants to take me out..he will find out my true age (well I don't lie .. i tell them) and then he's bumfuddled.. he doesn't know if he wants to marry a woman my age, either because he thinks I will die before him..
or he might want more children and I am not having anymore, or he is just unsure all together..
but then some men my age feel I am too "Young" for them..because I am silly, outgoing and child like..I dress kind of rockerish (I am a singer/artist after all :) lol and I look and act younger than I am.. I think they feel more comfortable with a woman who is more business like and or more old fashioned..someone who can go into politics with them or something...

it's just a strange place to be.. I am an enigma
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sooo.......coffee? OOps! This is not a dating site!

I <3 enigmas.
 
CatHerder

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I don't see the big deal with older women/younger men regarding leadership. Some men can't lead no matter what their age...and some women refuse to be submissive (oh that word always opens up a can of worms) no matter THEIR age.
 
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Jullianna

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CatHerder said:
I don't see the big deal with older women/younger men regarding leadership. Some men can't lead no matter what their age...and some women refuse to be submissive (oh that word always opens up a can of worms) no matter THEIR age.
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He DOES have a point.... hmmmm
 
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Chey60

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KJV15John11 said:
I suppose the same technique could be applied to any situation. Using a loving and supportive approach, most men could easily become the man their woman wants and needs, and allows the men to reach their own potential. It's like nurturing a plant to grow and take root, so that someday, it will become a tree she can lean on later.
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I tried training a man once:) it didn't work :(
 
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