Christians only please. Question: Do you attract

[Shouryu]

Ultra conservative (Ie: trying to walk as Jesus walks?) Prudish (ie Maintaining purity?) Teetotoallers (Not being drunk with wine but being filled with the spirit?) if you aren't looking for that...
maybe you should not be looking for a christian?
just saying

*folds arms, tilts head to the side*

You've been here all of five days, and you're calling people out based off of the one or two sentences in which they respond? Are you asking questions just to find reasons to call other people's faith into question? I mean, it's one thing to start a conversation, it's another thing to use that starting point as a way of subtly questioning a person's faith.

 

[Donkeyfish07]

*folds arms, tilts head to the side*

You've been here all of five days, and you're calling people out based off of the one or two sentences in which they respond? Are you asking questions just to find reasons to call other people's faith into question? I mean, it's one thing to start a conversation, it's another thing to use that starting point as a way of subtly questioning a person's faith.

I don't think she means it like that at all, she's a sweet woman. I think she just doesn't actually get what the other guy meant.

 

[Shouryu]

I don't think she means it like that at all, she's a sweet woman. I think she just doesn't actually get what the other guy meant.

Mmm. I do have a tendency to read more into things than there often are. It's no secret that I struggle with just taking comments at face value.

Forgive me, Chey, if I misread you.

 

[Huckleberry]

...lukewarmers (the ones who are like 95% christian
but they want to sleep with a woman on the 5th date)

Is 98.6F considered lukewarm?

 

[Huckleberry]

i tend to get ultra-conservative prudish tee totallers which just isnt me at all. It is hard though to find what ii like and christian in one though

Silver lining:
They won't drink your last beer.

 

[Praus]

*folds arms, tilts head to the side*

You've been here all of five days, and you're calling people out based off of the one or two sentences in which they respond? Are you asking questions just to find reasons to call other people's faith into question? I mean, it's one thing to start a conversation, it's another thing to use that starting point as a way of subtly questioning a person's faith.

What would Nautilus do?

praus youre threads about harry potter and such lumped you in the same category, im not surprised you had something to say

i tend to get ultra-conservative prudish tee totallers which just isnt me at all. It is hard though to find what ii like and christian in one though

 

[MrHonest]

What matters when seeking a wife or husband is making sure that they are your best friend first, then you can call it dating, then you tell God thank you for this person you've blessed me with. Its not easy but I realized that after I met my fiance

 

[wanderer6059]

i used to think God hated me cause i always had the "does coke would sooner cut me than hug me party girls" attracted to me but i know now that was just a gift God gave me to witness to them and i've had a few times were a relationship with the lord has been what they find so i think some of us just have the gift of attracting the lost to show them the way

 

[Liamson]

Truth

 

[kenthomas27]

This may sound odd but I have always attracted bi polar people to me. no joke. male and female alike (and in the male category, jerks are attracted to me. 3 of the guys I got close to ended up in jail for one reason or another)

That doesn't sound odd to me at all, yes it does. )

 

[kenthomas27]

Back in the day...and even for a long time after getting married...

I used to attract guys who were mad at God. Like, they had either been raised in a church and something bad happened and they became angry and blamed God for it, or they didn't believe in God at all and said things like "If God does exist, he's cruel".

And I'd be over there going..."Ah...well...hmm. I see."

Because I learned early on that there was no point arguing, they didn't want to hear it.

Anyway, so, that's the kind of guy I used to attract, for some reason.

Also, I'm 5'9", too...so I get how you feel about that, Chey.

This is what I'm seeing.....



Why are you little fellers so angry?

Because because because because becaaaaaaassse....because of the wonderful things He does!

 

[xXErraticEmilyXx]

I had to come back about the whole faith thing and attracting mostly atheists.
Many of the atheist guys I attract are gentlemen and quite charming. They don't expect me to be special and they're really open about things- they talk about their weaknesses with me and they are protective over me like a brother should be. On the other hand, the few christian guys that have told me that they were interested tend to write me off for not being the perfect girl for them. They expect God to give them someone with all the qualities they already love, rather than learning to love what qualities someone has. This brings up the whole virgin debate. Do any of us NEED a virgin? Do we deserve one? Does having your virginity make you a prize? INB4 "premarital sex is a sin." Yes, I understand that. My point is, why do we think we deserve anything in this world other than respect?
I'll stop here because I feel a little rambling coming on

 

[Liamson]

I had to come back about the whole faith thing and attracting mostly atheists.
Many of the atheist guys I attract are gentlemen and quite charming. They don't expect me to be special and they're really open about things- they talk about their weaknesses with me and they are protective over me like a brother should be. On the other hand, the few christian guys that have told me that they were interested tend to write me off for not being the perfect girl for them. They expect God to give them someone with all the qualities they already love, rather than learning to love what qualities someone has. This brings up the whole virgin debate. Do any of us NEED a virgin? Do we deserve one? Does having your virginity make you a prize? INB4 "premarital sex is a sin." Yes, I understand that. My point is, why do we think we deserve anything in this world other than respect?
I'll stop here because I feel a little rambling coming on

Each relationship we have is different and they each bring new experiences and a new dynamic to the equation.

And yes, it helps to stave off the faults that will invariably lead to a relationship not succeeding but, in the end its a complex equation. So many factors go into whether or not the outcome will be beneficial to both parties.

There has to be some idea of how things will work and what each person values in the other person has a lot to do with how it will work.

I don't that trying to eliminate people on the basis who is qualified to date who, is entirely reasonable. Not that there is anything wrong with someone wanting to be with a Virgin but, at the same time, it shouldn't be placed upon some pedestal as the all encompassing virtue of virtues.


Some helpful questions to ask ourselves before getting into anything are:

-Do I respect this person's character enough that I can forgive them when they make a mistake?

-Can I forgive them for the things in their past they did and never hold it against them in the future?

-Am I willing to respect their boundaries even if they are different from my needs in a relationship?

-Do I believe in their hopes and vision of the future?

-Do I see the potential of a relationship leading to them being the most important person in my life?

-Do I respect their thoughts and ideas?

-Am I in a place in my life where I can give a relationship the necessary attention it deserves to be with this person?

 

[xXErraticEmilyXx]

Each relationship we have is different and they each bring new experiences and a new dynamic to the equation.

And yes, it helps to stave off the faults that will invariably lead to a relationship not succeeding but, in the end its a complex equation. So many factors go into whether or not the outcome will be beneficial to both parties.

There has to be some idea of how things will work and what each person values in the other person has a lot to do with how it will work.

I don't that trying to eliminate people on the basis who is qualified to date who, is entirely reasonable. Not that there is anything wrong with someone wanting to be with a Virgin but, at the same time, it shouldn't be placed upon some pedestal as the all encompassing virtue of virtues.


Some helpful questions to ask ourselves before getting into anything are:

-Do I respect this person's character enough that I can forgive them when they make a mistake?

-Can I forgive them for the things in their past they did and never hold it against them in the future?

-Am I willing to respect their boundaries even if they are different from my needs in a relationship?

-Do I believe in their hopes and vision of the future?

-Do I see the potential of a relationship leading to them being the most important person in my life?

-Do I respect their thoughts and ideas?

-Am I in a place in my life where I can give a relationship the necessary attention it deserves to be with this person?

You've restored my hope in humanity rofl

 

[Chey60]

*folds arms, tilts head to the side*

You've been here all of five days, and you're calling people out based off of the one or two sentences in which they respond? Are you asking questions just to find reasons to call other people's faith into question? I mean, it's one thing to start a conversation, it's another thing to use that starting point as a way of subtly questioning a person's faith.

No... just pointing something out..
that the those things were listed as negatives when in fact, they aren't really considered negatives in a christian's life..
I have been here all of 5 days and you are making snap judgments about me? ..
my conversation didn't start out with my response you know

 

[Chey60]

I don't think she means it like that at all, she's a sweet woman. I think she just doesn't actually get what the other guy meant.

Thank you Donkey..
maybe I didn't? but
if he meant that as christians we shouldn't be pure, give up drinking (or getting drunk anyway), or be holy ( ultra conservative??)
then I wasn't misunderstanding

thank you for going to bat for me

appreciate ya!

 

[Chey60]

Truth

This is good ..depending on the situation
but yea otherwise it's a great quote

 

[Chey60]

Mmm. I do have a tendency to read more into things than there often are. It's no secret that I struggle with just taking comments at face value.

Forgive me, Chey, if I misread you.

I forgive you no matter what..
but I don't know if I was misread or not..
I think I am totally lost about what is going on now ?

 

[Chey60]

Each relationship we have is different and they each bring new experiences and a new dynamic to the equation.

And yes, it helps to stave off the faults that will invariably lead to a relationship not succeeding but, in the end its a complex equation. So many factors go into whether or not the outcome will be beneficial to both parties.

There has to be some idea of how things will work and what each person values in the other person has a lot to do with how it will work.

I don't that trying to eliminate people on the basis who is qualified to date who, is entirely reasonable. Not that there is anything wrong with someone wanting to be with a Virgin but, at the same time, it shouldn't be placed upon some pedestal as the all encompassing virtue of virtues.


Some helpful questions to ask ourselves before getting into anything are:

-Do I respect this person's character enough that I can forgive them when they make a mistake?

-Can I forgive them for the things in their past they did and never hold it against them in the future?

-Am I willing to respect their boundaries even if they are different from my needs in a relationship?

-Do I believe in their hopes and vision of the future?

-Do I see the potential of a relationship leading to them being the most important person in my life?

-Do I respect their thoughts and ideas?

-Am I in a place in my life where I can give a relationship the necessary attention it deserves to be with this person?

Good stuff
well said..

 

[JoyofLord]

Do you attract the wrong people constantly?

I attract Too short
and keep in mind I am 5'9" and with heels I am close to 6 ft. so too short is an issue.
too old, too young, atheist, agnostic or backslidden or lukewarmers (the ones who are like 95% christian
but they want to sleep with a woman on the 5th date)

I probably could name more things but I am just curious if the rest of you, male and female as christians
notice that the types of people you attract are usually wrong for you completely? or that you are also wrong for?
(I'll check answers later tonight.. I have fellowship/study meeting)

I seem to attract old guys, what is it with guys who are like 60+ who think I would go out with them. Eeeew it's my dad's age no thanks. I laugh at the ones who say they are Christian yet want to sleep with you and when you say not I don't have sex until I am married they are shocked LOL What does Christian mean? obviously not the same in everyone's books. They want to try before they buy, to me that shows the lack of commit they have towards me and our future relationship if they are that shallow.