Now I'm just worried that I can't use my casual reference to my women friends here anymore, because it's someone's username now.
In reference to the OP and the prior OP (Red), I think Red really does make a pretty solid point: I think I know what I want...but I really won't know it until I see it. Donk starts with some pretty good groundwork. After the initial physical attraction and/or friendship that connects two people to the point that they decide to explore "more than friendship," I think (keyword: THINK, i.e., believe, theorize, postulate) that what most men really desire is someone who is trusting and supportive. Just as most women seem to desire being cherished an appreciated, I think most men want to feel trusted and supported in their choices. It's not that we should never be questioned or that we should be followed blindly; rather, that our spouse honestly believes that us men have our (man and woman) best interests at heart, rather than doing things selfishly.
That's not to say that Christian men won't ever be selfish and do something stupid, because we can be, and likely will at SOME point...but to know you have your wife's trust and support makes you feel THAT much stronger. This, of course, can easily be abused (see: every person here who's companion left them for another), but if your companionship is truly, deeply rooted in Christ, it shouldn't be an issue. But no one should ever consider themselves safe or immune. King David, anyone?