Strangers asking women for phone numbers

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presidente

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I saw a suggested video clip on YouTube the other day, and it was of a man asking a young woman he met on the street for her phone number, after warming her up to it first.

When I was single, I didn't do that sort of thing, ask a girl I met on the street for her phone number. I had to know something about a woman's faith before considering trying to date her, with what little dating I did. Usually, women don't hit guys up for their phone number, so we men tend not to have to worry about that so much. I did have one girl give me a phone number in college that I recall, unsolicited, and another young woman I met on a bus give me her name card. But it wasn't a usual thing.

I'm wondering about the Christian single women here. Do you ever face the situation where some male stranger comes up to you making friendly conversation and then asks for your phone number? How do you react? Would you date a stranger you met on the street?
 
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It has happened to me twice, that I guy just randomly asks for my phone number. I usually say I don't have
a cell or that I can't remember the number. I was extremely uncomfortable.
Not to mention awkward lol. There is no basis for there to a be any true connection anyways.
Maybe if I were at an event with like minded believers, things would be different.
I don't think I would date anyone I met on the street, it's like agreeing to date someone from Craigslist....way too sketchy.
LOL.
 
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It hasn't happened to me yet, but I wouldn't give out my number to a stranger I met on the street. I have no idea how I would respond. Probably play it off, or if he were persistent, tell him that I'm not dating right now.
 
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I just ask them for theirs instead and promise to call later-- not that I ever follow up.
 
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MidniteWelder

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
It hasn't happened to me yet, but I wouldn't give out my number to a stranger I met on the street. I have no idea how I would respond. Probably play it off, or if he were persistent, tell him that I'm not dating right now.
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And he'd be all like...
"Then why did I see your profile on E-Harmony? I just thought it would be nicer to do this in person than to hide behind a computer in the comfort of our jammies...GAHHH women!" as he walks away
 
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Shaana said:
It has happened to me twice, that I guy just randomly asks for my phone number. I usually say I don't have
a cell or that I can't remember the number. I was extremely uncomfortable.
Not to mention awkward lol. There is no basis for there to a be any true connection anyways.
Maybe if I were at an event with like minded believers, things would be different.
I don't think I would date anyone I met on the street, it's like agreeing to date someone from Craigslist....way too sketchy.
LOL.
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No need to lie to the creepy stranger. Just be firm, say "NO, I'M NOT INTERESTED" and walk away.
 
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adekruif

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I've always wanted to ask a bank teller: "I trust you with my bank account number, can I at least get your phone number?"

Rachel probly wants to kill me...
 
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I've done it before, but not off the street. I was in a building at least. And it wasn't literally meeting someone and within five minutes asking them out.

I saw these people a few times on seperate days before (and no, not consecutive days or anything weird like that). And, I talked to them on those previous occasions. But I didn't necessarily talk all that long, sometimes just small talk.

It's not as weird as it sounds. Then again I'm probably the most non threatening guy on the planet and I didn't ask them to a remote cabin in the woods (more like a crowded movie theater).

It worked like, once or twice even. But, neither time really went any where. One of them went down in flames pretty hilariously so at least there was that!
 
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Tintin said:
No need to lie to the creepy stranger. Just be firm, say "NO, I'M NOT INTERESTED" and walk away.
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I wish it were always that easy, but some men hear "no" and think "challenge accepted!"
 
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Misty77 said:
I wish it were always that easy, but some men hear "no" and think "challenge accepted!"
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Well, if you ask enough people enough times, sooner or later one of them might say yes!

And, maybe ask the same person a second time on a different day. Possibly. But if you're a passerby on the street or in the checkout isle at the grocery store, that moves from friendly and outgoing into other territory.

Some might say it's even going into a zone... of danger (Catherder will get that one, I've seen his avatar).

[video=youtube;yK0P1Bk8Cx4]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yK0P1Bk8Cx4[/video]
 
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Misty77 said:
I wish it were always that easy, but some men hear "no" and think "challenge accepted!"
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Oh dear. That's not good. If they're pressing you and don't seem to get the hint (are being creepy), just kick them in the goolies. They'll get the message.
 
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I've had conversations with women over the years in placess such as restaurants, stores etc. And we've exchanged numbers and gone out and had a nice time. This occurred on the intial meeting. Its never been a problem..
 
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I ask for random women's phone numbers all the time. *shrugs*
 
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presidente

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adekruif said:
I've always wanted to ask a bank teller: "I trust you with my bank account number, can I at least get your phone number?"

Rachel probly wants to kill me...
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And she can check how much is in your account before she decides whether to give you her number or not.
 
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presidente

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Tintin said:
Oh dear. That's not good. If they're pressing you and don't seem to get the hint (are being creepy), just kick them in the goolies. They'll get the message.
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Do you think in Old Testament times they'd chop a woman's foot off for that?
Deuteronomy 25
[SUP]11 [/SUP]If two men are fighting and the wife of one of them comes to rescue her husband from his assailant, and she reaches out and seizes him by his private parts, [SUP]12 [/SUP]you shall cut off her hand. Show her no pity.
(NIV)

I suspect you were joking Our culture thinks little of doing such things. Apparently, God does not like it.
 
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presidente

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ServantStrike said:
I've done it before, but not off the street. I was in a building at least. And it wasn't literally meeting someone and within five minutes asking them out.

I saw these people a few times on seperate days before (and no, not consecutive days or anything weird like that). And, I talked to them on those previous occasions. But I didn't necessarily talk all that long, sometimes just small talk.

It's not as weird as it sounds. Then again I'm probably the most non threatening guy on the planet and I didn't ask them to a remote cabin in the woods (more like a crowded movie theater).

It worked like, once or twice even. But, neither time really went any where. One of them went down in flames pretty hilariously so at least there was that!
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When I was single, I only wanted to date Christian women who were sincere about their faith. So that would rule out seeing a pretty girl on the street and asking her for a date.
 
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Tintin

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presidente said:
Do you think in Old Testament times they'd chop a woman's foot off for that?
Deuteronomy 25
[SUP]11 [/SUP]If two men are fighting and the wife of one of them comes to rescue her husband from his assailant, and she reaches out and seizes him by his private parts, [SUP]12 [/SUP]you shall cut off her hand. Show her no pity.
(NIV)

I suspect you were joking Our culture thinks little of doing such things. Apparently, God does not like it.
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Yes, I was joking but not in one sense. Women should fight off creepy characters if they try anything.
 
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If I was enjoying the conversation I'd give the guy my number. Doesn't mean I'm making a life commitment, I'm just interested enough to get to know him more. If I wasn't interested when he asked for my number I'd simply say 'I don't like to give out my number to people I don't know, sorry'.

I gave out my card to a guy I met on a flight one time. We exchanged a few emails, but that's as far as it went.
 
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I've done that quite a few times.....results vary. I think it's better to just give yours out though, saves you the trouble of calling someone who just gave you her number to be polite (Seriously, you'd be surprised at how many people just won't say no)
 
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I often approach strange women on the street and offer them my phone number, but they always refuse to take it. I guess they don't have anything to write my number on.

Would it hurt you ladies to carry around a pen and notepad in your purses??? You have everything else in there!!!
 
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