Advice from the married to the singles.

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Miss criss, you made me think of that song send in the clowns by Judy Collins. That made me laugh for some reason. Now it's not so depressing.
 
shrimp said:
Not too many things that I say are overly serious. When I am I almost use an angry tone and it scares people away.- Working on it.
But I just noticed it because I like tee shirt writing and pictures. it makes people like walking billboards and I can't help but look! I was trying to be a little silly. but I don't get mad at other people for not understanding what I say because, generally speaking, I am not understandable. :)

No worries. :D
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sometimes humor doesn't translate well here, unless of course you go crazy with the emoticons, (which i personally hate using) but am also afraid that people won't catch my sarcasm.
 
MissCris said:
This thread is depressing.
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It's not so much depressing for me. It's more like I have trouble following it. You know, sometimes it's like I can get easily..................................fire engine....................sometimes I can get distracted and so that's what's going on here but I read your post completely from the first word to the last.
 
I woke up thinking about my divorced friends in this forum. The things I see them going through tug at my heart and call me to prayer even before dawn.... and that's just the things I see. I can't begin to imagine the unseen things they deal with. I've barely begun to type this and my eyes are filled with tears for them.

They must have so many unanswered questions.

I don't know what it's like to wake up in the middle of the night to check on my children and not have them in the same home with me. I don't know what it's like to have the courts strip me of the right to decide when and where I can be with my child when I have done nothing wrong. I don't know what it's like to feel so betrayed by someone who made a vow to be with me for a lifetime. I don't know what it's like to see that person with someone else now. I don't know what it's like to feel as if the people of my church are pointing fingers at me, the very people who should be offering me love, comfort and prayer.

I see their love for the Lord. I see their love for their children. I see their insecurities. I see them hurting and know that I don't even see the half of it. I know this is the last thing they would ever have chosen for themselves and their families.

I want them to know that some of us see it. Some of us are not pointing fingers. Some of us love them. Some of us are praying. Some of us care. Because we know God does and if we share His heart, there is nothing else we can do.

And some of us are praying for them.
 
Jullianna said:
I woke up thinking about my divorced friends in this forum. The things I see them going through tug at my heart and call me to prayer even before dawn.... and that's just the things I see. I can't begin to imagine the unseen things they deal with. I've barely begun to type this and my eyes are filled with tears for them.

They must have so many unanswered questions.

I don't know what it's like to wake up in the middle of the night to check on my children and not have them in the same home with me. I don't know what it's like to have the courts strip me of the right to decide when and where I can be with my child when I have done nothing wrong. I don't know what it's like to feel so betrayed by someone who made a vow to be with me for a lifetime. I don't know what it's like to see that person with someone else now. I don't know what it's like to feel as if the people of my church are pointing fingers at me, the very people who should be offering me love, comfort and prayer.

I see their love for the Lord. I see their love for their children. I see their insecurities. I see them hurting and know that I don't even see the half of it. I know this is the last thing they would ever have chosen for themselves and their families.

I want them to know that some of us see it. Some of us are not pointing fingers. Some of us love them. Some of us are praying. Some of us care. Because we know God does and if we share His heart, there is nothing else we can do.

And some of us are praying for them.
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and it's posts like this that remind me that I need a box of Kleenex when I log into CC. Thanks, Jules.....really. Thank you.
 
Fenner said:
I've been married for 14 years, it will be 15 years in May. This doesn't make me a marriage expert, but I can offer some insight to my own marriage.

Love changes, I love my Husband, but it's not the new what I've heard call puppy love. For me it's more, you're my best friend and I don't want to live without you love.




We know each other very well now and in many ways. We really do finish each other's sentences. Not all the time, but a lot of the time.

Relationships change with time. Unfortunately some wither and die, other's grow. You have to work at marriage. I don't mean break rocks with a sledge hammer, I mean keep it going. Date each other. I get mad at him sometimes, he has quirks that irritate me, usually I don't tell him. Except if he bite's his silverware when he eats, I can't stand that. But there are things about me that irritate him too from time to time.

We've had moments when we've been really angry at each other. We worked it out, talked about it. There was a time when I wasn't sure what was going to happen. I leaned on God heavily during that time.

Things also change when you have children. Not everyone wants children, we did. We have 2 and they are 7 and 8. When our Son was born, we were tired and clueless. He delivered News Paper's in the wee hours of the morning and then went to work all day. I worked a couple of days a week. Thirteen months after our son was born we had a daughter. Still did the same things with work. Eventually he got a better job, things got a little easier for us. We thanked God for everything and still do.

I hope we say married forever, we've talked about our Marriage vows and how serious they are to us and To God.

I hope I gave some insight to some.

God bless.
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This is beautiful and filled with HOPE. Thank you for sharing your honest moments!!!!! GBU
 
To single men who are thinking of marriage - when your wife comes home after having a terrible day at work and explains to you everything that went wrong that day, don't try to fix anything. Just listen to her and console her. I had to learn that one the hard way early in my marriage!
 
mailmandan said:
To single men who are thinking of marriage - when your wife comes home after having a terrible day at work and explains to you everything that went wrong that day, don't try to fix anything. Just listen to her and console her. I had to learn that one the hard way early in my marriage!
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I think the same goes for the wife to, just listen. I've had to learn that to. He just wants to tell someone about it someone he trusts.

OnthisRock, thank you! GBU too.
 
Here is a question to the married men. Am I allowed to correct my wife if she makes a mistake in the middle of her rant, like a grammatical or pronunciation or calculation mistake?
To the married women - how would you react if your husband did that to you?
 
Roh_Chris said:
Here is a question to the married men. Am I allowed to correct my wife if she makes a mistake in the middle of her rant, like a grammatical or pronunciation or calculation mistake?
To the married women - how would you react if your husband did that to you?
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That seems like a good way to end up cooking your own dinner and then sleeping on the couch :p

Really, I think I'd probably completely lose track of whatever I was ranting about, trying to figure out if he was right.
 
Roh_Chris said:
Here is a question to the married men. Am I allowed to correct my wife if she makes a mistake in the middle of her rant, like a grammatical or pronunciation or calculation mistake?
To the married women - how would you react if your husband did that to you?
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In short, the answer to your question is no. As in life, in marriage it is best to learn from your mistakes to avoid future discomfort and stress. A husband who is properly trained would not attempt to correct a grammatical mistake of the wife. It would be most amusing though and well worth the cost of admission. I am not saying that I would attempt such a stunt though as that is something best left to the experts.
 
Roh_Chris said:
Here is a question to the married men. Am I allowed to correct my wife if she makes a mistake in the middle of her rant, like a grammatical or pronunciation or calculation mistake?
To the married women - how would you react if your husband did that to you?
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Roh_Chris said:
Here is a question to the married men. Am I allowed to correct my wife if she makes a mistake in the middle of her rant, like a grammatical or pronunciation or calculation mistake?
To the married women - how would you react if your husband did that to you?
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If you must... but if she's intelligent and has a good sense of humor she'll begin trolling you.

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MissCris said:
That seems like a good way to end up cooking your own dinner and then sleeping on the couch :p

Really, I think I'd probably completely lose track of whatever I was ranting about, trying to figure out if he was right.
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This couch is part of my list of 'things to get before I get married'. I think it will cover all occasions when I am asked to sleep on the couch.

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Which may be quite often ...


tourist said:
In short, the answer to your question is no. As in life, in marriage it is best to learn from your mistakes to avoid future discomfort and stress. A husband who is properly trained would not attempt to correct a grammatical mistake of the wife. It would be most amusing though and well worth the cost of admission. I am not saying that I would attempt such a stunt though as that is something best left to the experts.
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They have training for husbands? :eek: I thought they wanted to marry men and not pets. :confused:
 
Roh_Chris said:
Here is a question to the married men. Am I allowed to correct my wife if she makes a mistake in the middle of her rant, like a grammatical or pronunciation or calculation mistake?
To the married women - how would you react if your husband did that to you?
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My Husband has done that to me! I can't remember what I did, probably laughed.
 
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