Ok..let me run something by you all..if you have advice or comments I welcome them.
I used to be really really close friends with a guy,years ago. Once when him & his g/f (who shared a daughter together) were really hurting for money and were having car issues,I told him that I was getting some money from the car accident I was in & that as soon as I got paid from it,I'd be more than happy to give him some money if he still needed it.
So not long after,I got my settlement,and we were driving somewhere & he asked me if my offer was still open,and I said of course,how much do you need? He asked for 1K. without hesitation I told him,no problem,I could give it to him later that day,and he was like,when I get a chance I'll pay you back. I told him "listen..I don't expect to be paid back..if you can,fine...if you can't that's fine too...what's important is you have a working car right now for you & the girls,period."
Not too long after this...maybe 8-10 months..him & his girlfriend split up. They shared custody of the child even though they weren't married,and both him & his ex have gone on to marry other people.
I had lost touch with him until I joined face book a while back...he & I have never connected too much since,as he's not really big into face book,and I no longer have an account.
The guy I am staying with at the moment says that this guy has been asking about me for the past month or so & the guy I am staying with has told him my situation,how messed up my life has sort of been in the past few years,etc. The guy I gave the 1K to kept telling him...give me his phone number I want to talk to him. But I've still not heard from him yet.
The guy I am staying with has his number and says.."Here,you need to call him..and you need to tell him yer' situation and ask him if he can ever repay that money you gave him all those years ago"
I said,"I can't do that,man..that sounds so tacky...it's not like we've stayed close in that time,and what if he doesn't even remember that? I was like 26 around then...so long ago"....He said" Trust me dude,no one forgets someone giving them 1K..just ask him,whats the worst he can do,hang up on ya?"
lol ok..so my question is this...is it wrong or stupid or tacky or ungodly of me to even ask this guy if he could pay me back?
I think I know the answer to this. Hey this is like that head/heart thread...anyways...ummm...
It's not like God hasn't blessed me a hundered fold over the years for helping him out. So I feel kinda selfish.
I mean..yeah,I could desperately use the money now,but is it wrong of me?
Sorry to ramble & sound all pathetic,but I just don't wanna be anything like the servant who was forgiven his debt & then threatened his neighbor for such a pitiful amount. Not that I would threaten him...but I also wouldn't wanna try and guilt someone into "helping" me. Ugh. I need to pray more or something.