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I think it is your decision if you want to move on
Make new friends, travel out of USA and both things will make an impact in you
About marriage thing, I cannot advise you since I am only 28 years old and I never had a woman with me.
If you really feel you want someone with you. What are you waiting for?
Stand up in the name of Jesus and find that person with integrity and respect.
The beautiful thing is when you make friends, you will start to gain more confidence than before
and security will aid you.
Hi Agnus,
My divorce was in 1999, so yes, I've done a lot of moving, literally.
In that time I've done a lot and met a lot of people. It would take me a while to list everything here, but yes, I've traveled to 4 countries outside the USA and have been to about 20 states within. I've lived in one area of the USA for 38 years, then up and moved across the country for some time, and have just recently moved to yet another part of the country once again. I've participated in probably a dozen ministries, taken just as many Bible classes, went through new membership classes with a friend who was joining our church and was scared to do it alone, even though I'd already been a member of that church for almost 10 years. I spent several years writing to and visiting prison inmates. People seem to think singles are single because we sit live in caves watching TV and eating Cheetos all day
. I do go through times of being an introvert but I haven't spent the entire time sitting on my couch (though don't check up on me right now
).
Many people believe that "finding that right person" is as easy as getting up and "getting out there" but for some of us who are living full lives, it's not. People assume that if we don't have someone, we're "not trying hard enough" but that's not always how it works.
I'm at a point right now where for whatever reason, I've met lots of people who are in the same position as I am. Life and God's plans for us are not always what we think or want, and it's hard to accept. I know a kind, noble Christian man who lost his child and wife tragically when he was 28. You'd think if God would have it for anyone to marry again and have a family, it would be this man. But he is now in his 70's, and has been alone all that time, despite being one of the hardest-working, most outgoing people you'll ever meet.
This is the hard part of Christianity, where we have to say, "Lord, your will, not mine, be done." Even if that means being alone, which, for many years, was my biggest fear as well.