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I both agree and disagree. lol, I'll elaborate a little. I don't think dating is impersonal at all. What your describing to me is not dating. It's some crazy idea that I don't recognize. Dating to me, from a man's perspective is more like "Wow, I think you look amazing. I've only talked to you a little bit but I'm hooked. I'm definitely interested. I'd love to get to know you better. I'm going to be myself and let you see me, and I want you to be yourself so I can get to know the real you". To me, THAT's a date. It's not like "Well I'm holding interviews todays, please submit your application and give me references. Please include phone number and denomination please....I'll call you for an interview if you have the qualifications for the position".
Also, though you may say you have a low score when it comes to dating. YOU only think you have a low score. Let me tell you sis, there is a man out there (Not only man, MEN as in multiple) that are going to think you are amazing the second they lay eyes on you. They are going to love that you don't want to get trapped up in small talk and don't care about the "social rules". Just because you think that your low value in that department, doesn't think that all men are automatically going to think that.
That's my response, though I have to add. I don't believe in friends first. I believe in go for the Gold right from the get go or don't go for it at all. I'm not saying friends first doesn't ever work, but I think it's very primitive and useless in comparison to immediate pursuit.
Also, though you may say you have a low score when it comes to dating. YOU only think you have a low score. Let me tell you sis, there is a man out there (Not only man, MEN as in multiple) that are going to think you are amazing the second they lay eyes on you. They are going to love that you don't want to get trapped up in small talk and don't care about the "social rules". Just because you think that your low value in that department, doesn't think that all men are automatically going to think that.
That's my response, though I have to add. I don't believe in friends first. I believe in go for the Gold right from the get go or don't go for it at all. I'm not saying friends first doesn't ever work, but I think it's very primitive and useless in comparison to immediate pursuit.
You have pretty much summed up my thoughts. Trying to become a "friend" first takes a tremendous amount of work than simply pursuing the desires of you heart. It is better to risk a broken heart than to attempt to establish a friendship only to have it fizzle out on the details. Either someone accepts you for who you or they don't. I have found that there are not to many of us who have that sense of adventure unafraid of the risks of being rejected. This is not the first time around the block for us after all. I believe from reading your posts that this is true of you and of myself as well.
Yeah that's pretty much my definition of friendship or what I'm thinking when I decide I want to be friends with someone (male or female).
I appreciate the attempted encouragement, but since I can't seem to even find one, well at this point, it doesn't mean much. Thanks for trying though.
And yes it seems we will continue to disagree (at least in terminology), but I do feel like I understand a different way people might be looking at it now.
I appreciate the attempted encouragement, but since I can't seem to even find one, well at this point, it doesn't mean much. Thanks for trying though.
And yes it seems we will continue to disagree (at least in terminology), but I do feel like I understand a different way people might be looking at it now.
I met a girl on here 2 yeara ago we were frienda for 4 months and then friendship became a hopeful future bonding but we always prayed and prayed and asked God for permission. 2 years later we're engaged and km on my way tonsee her on a bus trip that will take 15 hours into Mexico. 
sorry this is a christian site! We were friends first and that was all our original intent :$
sorry this is a christian site! We were friends first and that was all our original intent :$
I met a girl on here 2 yeara ago we were frienda for 4 months and then friendship became a hopeful future bonding but we always prayed and prayed and asked God for permission. 2 years later we're engaged and km on my way tonsee her on a bus trip that will take 15 hours into Mexico. sorry this is a christian site! We were friends first and that was all our original intent :$
sorry this is a christian site! We were friends first and that was all our original intent :$
I met a girl on here 2 yeara ago we were frienda for 4 months and then friendship became a hopeful future bonding but we always prayed and prayed and asked God for permission. 2 years later we're engaged and km on my way tonsee her on a bus trip that will take 15 hours into Mexico. sorry this is a christian site! We were friends first and that was all our original intent :$
sorry this is a christian site! We were friends first and that was all our original intent :$
jk randy, that's awesome
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There is no reason that Christians couldn't or shouldn't find someone attractive and meet on this site. Marriage is God's plan. As long as someone isn't harassing another person, I say if you see someone you find attractive, go for it. IF they refuse your attentions, the let it go. I mean, there is a single room and single forum
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There is no reason that Christians couldn't or shouldn't find someone attractive and meet on this site. Marriage is God's plan. As long as someone isn't harassing another person, I say if you see someone you find attractive, go for it. IF they refuse your attentions, the let it go. I mean, there is a single room and single forum
