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At the risk of not being taken seriously I'll simply say that I am a fairly relaxed kind of guy with very little in the way of standards. Take care of yourself responsibly, be willing to talk and willing to listen when the opportunities present themselves, willing to accept even if you can't understand that which is true rather than taking it over and over for a spin in hopes of changing it, and finally never hide behind any sort of screen as my life is an open book that only requires that you ask about it.
Beyond this I can honestly say that nothing else really matters to me, and if you're willing to give me a chance as a person, as someone who you can trust, as someone you feel you can lean on, someone in whom you believe, how could I do anything less than try?
Beyond this I can honestly say that nothing else really matters to me, and if you're willing to give me a chance as a person, as someone who you can trust, as someone you feel you can lean on, someone in whom you believe, how could I do anything less than try?
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Although I've only "grown up in the Lord" as of late, I had plenty of time to realize what I want in a my next marriage. I do hope to get married again someday, just not night now. I'm still "licking my wounds", so to speak. Been going to a therapist, he assures me there are still good women out there. He says I may have to meet 40 before I find a good one (I live in a factory area, lotsa women with lotsa issues, many born of their cliques.
Anyway, my list is like many others here...
1. she must love the Lord first, like I know I must.
because of this, she will not be drawn to the insanity of worldly women I've endured, and lived through. in the past.
2. I don't expect her to look "perfect" physically, but feminine and attractive, in a whole "mind, body and spirit" way...
hard to adequately put into words. To at least make an effort to take care of themselves, as that's what they expect
from us men. It works both ways!
3. God wants man to be the leader of his family. So for goodness sakes, submit to him like the Lord says. maybe I sound cold here, but I have not yet dated a Christian woman. From what I've seen at church most of what I've written, those gals live it. So I'm sorry if I sound trite, I've just been through a lot. My therapist sure says so...he says I've had the **** kicked out of me, in his words. He's amazed I've weathered the storm as well as I have. I guess what I'm saying is I expect some respect, just as she will.
Anyway, my list is like many others here...
1. she must love the Lord first, like I know I must.
because of this, she will not be drawn to the insanity of worldly women I've endured, and lived through. in the past.
2. I don't expect her to look "perfect" physically, but feminine and attractive, in a whole "mind, body and spirit" way...
hard to adequately put into words. To at least make an effort to take care of themselves, as that's what they expect
from us men. It works both ways!
3. God wants man to be the leader of his family. So for goodness sakes, submit to him like the Lord says. maybe I sound cold here, but I have not yet dated a Christian woman. From what I've seen at church most of what I've written, those gals live it. So I'm sorry if I sound trite, I've just been through a lot. My therapist sure says so...he says I've had the **** kicked out of me, in his words. He's amazed I've weathered the storm as well as I have. I guess what I'm saying is I expect some respect, just as she will.
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Wow, everyone's so pessimistic! You're all listing the qualities you want, and then say that you probably won't find anyone with those qualities. I mean, I fit ALL of these! And, I'm modest, too. 
But, being serious now, that's what faith is all about. No one's perfect, so you can't hold out for that, but if you trust God with your desires, and seek His will for your life, then He will bring you together with someone whom you'll be great with. The best relationships I've seen are the ones which have God at the center, and in which both parties trusted God with their relationships, where they sought His will. I'm not saying that you shouldn't bother looking, but if you are trusting Him and seeking His will, and the traits you are seeking are within His will, then you should trust Him to provide.
But, being serious now, that's what faith is all about. No one's perfect, so you can't hold out for that, but if you trust God with your desires, and seek His will for your life, then He will bring you together with someone whom you'll be great with. The best relationships I've seen are the ones which have God at the center, and in which both parties trusted God with their relationships, where they sought His will. I'm not saying that you shouldn't bother looking, but if you are trusting Him and seeking His will, and the traits you are seeking are within His will, then you should trust Him to provide.
Not much actually, but quite a lot to move from being just attracted to actually liking her. Being mature (acting her age if she is older than 22-24), being humble (I don't like flashy and shallow women), and just being kind for the sake of being kind. I know certain girls think it's cool to have this attitude where they like to put others down, but it just comes off as juvenile.
Three things only:
Sadly we men "believe" what we see...
1) Body is important: Noone like me would get a bike with a big motor for a truck.
2) I need to know if I can pay for the GAS and spare parts (these aren´t free) (they never were).
3) I don´t like using big jackets or big shoes.... I feel comfortable my own size.
PS
Faith is involved, BUT ALL NEED TO BE TESTED.
Sadly we men "believe" what we see...
1) Body is important: Noone like me would get a bike with a big motor for a truck.
2) I need to know if I can pay for the GAS and spare parts (these aren´t free) (they never were).
3) I don´t like using big jackets or big shoes.... I feel comfortable my own size.
PS
Faith is involved, BUT ALL NEED TO BE TESTED.
J
It only takes a spark, to keep the fire burning.... as the song goes. When there's a spark, there the attraction begins. The spark might starts in conversation, communicate through chat, emails, and founded common interest. The girl needs to be just herself, enjoy the company, the life brings and wisdom. Then who knows?
Physically, the beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Spiritually, be led by it
Mentally, no need to be super genius/intellectual just know how to connect.
Emotionally, be gifted, just know how to relate.
What else? Feel Free to add more...
Physically, the beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Spiritually, be led by it
Mentally, no need to be super genius/intellectual just know how to connect.
Emotionally, be gifted, just know how to relate.
What else? Feel Free to add more...
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Sorry if I'm oversteppng the boundaries into the singles forum because I'm married, however I just wanted to share some insight. The qualities listed aren't necessarily going to make a marriage successful. The factors that cause division in a marriage are going to be; how many kids do you want if any, do you like or hate pets, do you like to travel, do you like to go out or stay in, do you want your kids to be involved in anything or nothing, what kind of house do you prefer, what kind of hours do you want to work, how does the person deal with conflict, can they admit they are wrong, do they want to spend their weekends at a family cottage or working in the yard or at church, how clean or cluttered are they, the list goes on. Anyways, it's not about looks and shape because age and kids will play with that, it's about what kind of life you want. Her smile might be radiant but if you never get to see it because you're always fighting then what's the point. Just my observations, I suggest you don't take them lightly.
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Hi, dear friend De Tour!
I might be quite (or absolutely) wrong. In the past, as a rover scout of this life, I followed external signs, tracking my mental map and went screwed up in failures. Life also taught me to wear what I don´t want to wear and also knew a software (the inner part) do matters both men and women. I cannot use the full functions of a huge computer with my small-mind software.
I tend to believe the more I looked like the one I wanted, it was the best for both. It is said: "Polos opuestos se atraen" ("opposite poles draws") (?) and it downed on me it is the opposite. The her beliefs are like mine we came close and, obviosly, faith is not in front the forehead to be read or heard. Fashion is the outlook many has seen as a bait (I´m talking from the place where I am, the culture I´m trying to isolate from being detached) to follow up, and I´m quite sure I don´t like big fishes. i don´t like to fish (neither being fished) so I left that issue into God´s hands.
I made the decision to be alone. I don´t care telling this publicly (I´m me and there´s no other way).
I also vasectomized to get rid of those problems "beauty" caused me, and I also want Him to lead me to an isolate place where I´m not aware I´m an human being with natural drives: I messed up too many lives, and mine too. Since that happened (it was my own fault) I made a plan to help my children or whomever I might help.
Women or men seek the same, feel the same, though ladies had it wired differently and EACH IS DIFFERENT. So "we", as men, need to know EACH women particularly. There´s not a real clue for "each" as a general rule, and just read from them, just ask those you´ve met, to see how many have changed from one point to another extreme and, perhaps, ovulation is involved in their drifting away and, the only real clue we men have is abiding in God´s works and will: He is the best matchmaking and marriage councellor.
Everything has to be tested!
I might be quite (or absolutely) wrong. In the past, as a rover scout of this life, I followed external signs, tracking my mental map and went screwed up in failures. Life also taught me to wear what I don´t want to wear and also knew a software (the inner part) do matters both men and women. I cannot use the full functions of a huge computer with my small-mind software.
I tend to believe the more I looked like the one I wanted, it was the best for both. It is said: "Polos opuestos se atraen" ("opposite poles draws") (?) and it downed on me it is the opposite. The her beliefs are like mine we came close and, obviosly, faith is not in front the forehead to be read or heard. Fashion is the outlook many has seen as a bait (I´m talking from the place where I am, the culture I´m trying to isolate from being detached) to follow up, and I´m quite sure I don´t like big fishes. i don´t like to fish (neither being fished) so I left that issue into God´s hands.
I made the decision to be alone. I don´t care telling this publicly (I´m me and there´s no other way).
I also vasectomized to get rid of those problems "beauty" caused me, and I also want Him to lead me to an isolate place where I´m not aware I´m an human being with natural drives: I messed up too many lives, and mine too. Since that happened (it was my own fault) I made a plan to help my children or whomever I might help.
Women or men seek the same, feel the same, though ladies had it wired differently and EACH IS DIFFERENT. So "we", as men, need to know EACH women particularly. There´s not a real clue for "each" as a general rule, and just read from them, just ask those you´ve met, to see how many have changed from one point to another extreme and, perhaps, ovulation is involved in their drifting away and, the only real clue we men have is abiding in God´s works and will: He is the best matchmaking and marriage councellor.
Everything has to be tested!