Did you cause your DIVORCE?
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I like the disclamer!
I also like the blue story and that reminded my stoty and reminds me of many men. Sadly to say that, when we many, we had not a clear idea on the material aspect of childbearing, the ways others spent money, particularly when too used to live as a single man, wiyh a reduced budget.
Yes! It sounded like my marriage story, That´s a true one, though mine would need to add I´m too diferent from my ex-wide (the one who raised my 3 childen) and perhaps she helped me to grow, too.
Well! I wish I could tell I did the best I knew (perhaps it wasn´t all what I could). I loved my kids, I washed their dirty cloths and diapers (except when I got my daughter Joy, which was a little different from my two sons). I gave as much as I could and I´m sure it wasn´t enough, and seldom I´m happy I didn´t give all, because I was viewed as an underachiever, to the point i had to build two "huts" to finally have my space, my own room, free from hers, to have the right for privacy (a thing those in-laws never knew or respect).
Yes! I don´t deserve to be married. I wasn´t ready and I don´t care I won´t be but, here in this country we have a saying: "Cuando un niño nace, Dios lo trae con un pan bajo el brazo". It´s something like that: "God´s gives every parent what their children need".
Divorce came when BOTH spouses never reached a real agreement. Mine was I saw things differently (as any here sees). If a man "never contributes" where is the fault? Who picked him to be married?
Of course, as it could be also a verifiable fact, we men have also picked wrongly. We (or I) picked wrongly, but she´s not an evil or a demon. She´s the mother of my 3 kids and, being left by oyther man she chose, she got another baby -under my marriage- and that wonderful baby got my surname and love but, can children be cared and reared with "love" and without food + clothing? Mothers know it can´t be done. But both are guilty parts, the innocents are those children (sometimes, I would say (to remove my guilt), "children aren´t guilty for a divorce", but "they came in" because of their parent´s invitations and our personal faults).
Both chose sposes to be married!
There are cases where a person was "forced" to be married, and those are for: rape, family business or those who forced their children to live apart (by controling parents?)
There are more cases... I´m guilty for my wrong doings!
I also like the blue story and that reminded my stoty and reminds me of many men. Sadly to say that, when we many, we had not a clear idea on the material aspect of childbearing, the ways others spent money, particularly when too used to live as a single man, wiyh a reduced budget.
Yes! It sounded like my marriage story, That´s a true one, though mine would need to add I´m too diferent from my ex-wide (the one who raised my 3 childen) and perhaps she helped me to grow, too.
Well! I wish I could tell I did the best I knew (perhaps it wasn´t all what I could). I loved my kids, I washed their dirty cloths and diapers (except when I got my daughter Joy, which was a little different from my two sons). I gave as much as I could and I´m sure it wasn´t enough, and seldom I´m happy I didn´t give all, because I was viewed as an underachiever, to the point i had to build two "huts" to finally have my space, my own room, free from hers, to have the right for privacy (a thing those in-laws never knew or respect).
Yes! I don´t deserve to be married. I wasn´t ready and I don´t care I won´t be but, here in this country we have a saying: "Cuando un niño nace, Dios lo trae con un pan bajo el brazo". It´s something like that: "God´s gives every parent what their children need".
Divorce came when BOTH spouses never reached a real agreement. Mine was I saw things differently (as any here sees). If a man "never contributes" where is the fault? Who picked him to be married?
Of course, as it could be also a verifiable fact, we men have also picked wrongly. We (or I) picked wrongly, but she´s not an evil or a demon. She´s the mother of my 3 kids and, being left by oyther man she chose, she got another baby -under my marriage- and that wonderful baby got my surname and love but, can children be cared and reared with "love" and without food + clothing? Mothers know it can´t be done. But both are guilty parts, the innocents are those children (sometimes, I would say (to remove my guilt), "children aren´t guilty for a divorce", but "they came in" because of their parent´s invitations and our personal faults).
Both chose sposes to be married!
There are cases where a person was "forced" to be married, and those are for: rape, family business or those who forced their children to live apart (by controling parents?)
There are more cases... I´m guilty for my wrong doings!
I wish this video would be understood in a spiritual way, so it would help any to understand WHERE the real faults were hidden inside each of our divorces.
