Wheeeee! My boyfriends mom is planning a trip to visit me and meet my family! I mean, his dad is coming too, but he's here all the time since he's a pilot and Anchorage is a frequent stop for cargo planes.
And in many Asian cultures...the process for becoming engaged doesn't just involve a young man asking the father of the bride. Instead, the young man and his parents meet with the woman's parents and the man's family collectively asks for the marital blessing.
So so so so...if both of them are traveling thousands of miles to meet my parents...
*blink* *blink*
does anyone understand why I'm freaking out here?
understandably so. watch out for trying to please others, when it is not the others wedding
A lot of Chaos comes from trying to make everyone else happy, when the truth is, it is not the others wedding
I know from experience in my first Marriage, got married to the same woman twice in one week, to make Grandparents happy and Mom of my bride happy, since these two were at odds with each other and my brides dad was passed away already
So by tradition Grandpa was to rightfully give my Bride away.
So our wedding was a people pleaser to these two at odds to each other, and so a week before the original wedding we married in Nevada, where Grandpa gave her away, and this way the came to the original wedding, where they watched her step dad give her away, laughing at this, knowing we were already married and it was already done
And the Mom, laughing at them not knowing that we were already married
It was our marriage taken away by others and being under the lie to love thy neighbor as self in this way, that twisted everything to be at their will, and ours taken away
So please be careful, not all people are pleased and if you want all to be pleased, then your free will is taken away
And read it in Genesis at Noah's time what God is so dis pleased with.
Man taking away others free will.
And read it in David and Bathsheba what David did, to please himself from his own body desires.
Whoever is getting married it is their wedding, and it should be their wishes as to how it will take place.
Hope to help, as I spew this out of me