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I am writing a book on the etymology of certain races, which is based on the Bible, genetics, history and culture. I want to write a paper and submit it to TEDx. I have to start weight-training and start bulking up. My band is getting back together and we are lining up a couple of gigs. So many things to do but so little time and energy.
Opinion question for you all:
My parents and oldest sister (still younger than me) are taking my youngest sister to her universit tonight and then returning tomorrow afternoon. So last night as I'm enjoying some time with friends from church, I get a text from my oldest sister asking if I would go with them because she thinks my youngest sister "would really appreciate me being there." I know my youngest sister hasn't said this because it's not like her to say those types of things. I think more than anything my oldest sister just thinks it would be fun if I came along.
The problem for me is that I have no PTO left this year that I can take, so I would have to miss a full day of work. Her solution was just to work on Saturday, which I normally do anyway, but I normally work Saturday to get overtime. There's no chance for overtime this way. Then her response is, "I know it's a sacrifice, but I think she would really appreciate you being there." Being there for what? I mean, I'm glad to help move stuff in, but does it really matter where we say goodbye? And it's not like I'm never going to see her again.
The other downside to it is I'm probably going to end up sleeping on the floor in a hotel room.
Then I wake up to a text this morning from my sister saying that they would like to go and get lunch with me today. Now, I completely understand that these are all sweet requests and all, but then the other, more currently stressed out side of me thinks, "Does no one give a care at all that I need to get hours in for work?" Because taking an hour for lunch, which is the minimum amount of time it would take, means I wouldn't even get 8 hours in today, especially because if I do end up going with them tonight, I'm not going to be able to work as late as I would need to.
What is making this so much harder for me is that, for whatever reason, I've been feeling really stressed out this weekend. The busiest part of this month isn't even upon me, and it's not like I've been weighed down with tons of stuff to do, but all day Saturday and most of the time since then, I've had this really heavy feeling in my chest that I just can't shake. Aside from the fact that I've been doing other things, it's part of the reason why I haven't posted much here the last few days. And looking ahead to this week, I have to take my kitten to the vet Wednesday which means working late, I have a meeting with my pastor Thursday morning which means working late... Just to get 40 hours in.
So to be put in this position by my sister does not feel fair with the present state that I'm in. If I say no to either or both, I'm going to seem like a huge jerk.
So do I simply throw all of my cares aside to appease my sisters? Should I go to take my youngest sister to school?
In other news, this is starting off as a horrible day. Quickbooks isn't working (hasn't been for a few days now). My dad has already responded to my question about this issue in a way that tells me that the fewer questions I ask today the better. And I hate being so negative.
My parents and oldest sister (still younger than me) are taking my youngest sister to her universit tonight and then returning tomorrow afternoon. So last night as I'm enjoying some time with friends from church, I get a text from my oldest sister asking if I would go with them because she thinks my youngest sister "would really appreciate me being there." I know my youngest sister hasn't said this because it's not like her to say those types of things. I think more than anything my oldest sister just thinks it would be fun if I came along.
The problem for me is that I have no PTO left this year that I can take, so I would have to miss a full day of work. Her solution was just to work on Saturday, which I normally do anyway, but I normally work Saturday to get overtime. There's no chance for overtime this way. Then her response is, "I know it's a sacrifice, but I think she would really appreciate you being there." Being there for what? I mean, I'm glad to help move stuff in, but does it really matter where we say goodbye? And it's not like I'm never going to see her again.
The other downside to it is I'm probably going to end up sleeping on the floor in a hotel room.
Then I wake up to a text this morning from my sister saying that they would like to go and get lunch with me today. Now, I completely understand that these are all sweet requests and all, but then the other, more currently stressed out side of me thinks, "Does no one give a care at all that I need to get hours in for work?" Because taking an hour for lunch, which is the minimum amount of time it would take, means I wouldn't even get 8 hours in today, especially because if I do end up going with them tonight, I'm not going to be able to work as late as I would need to.
What is making this so much harder for me is that, for whatever reason, I've been feeling really stressed out this weekend. The busiest part of this month isn't even upon me, and it's not like I've been weighed down with tons of stuff to do, but all day Saturday and most of the time since then, I've had this really heavy feeling in my chest that I just can't shake. Aside from the fact that I've been doing other things, it's part of the reason why I haven't posted much here the last few days. And looking ahead to this week, I have to take my kitten to the vet Wednesday which means working late, I have a meeting with my pastor Thursday morning which means working late... Just to get 40 hours in.
So to be put in this position by my sister does not feel fair with the present state that I'm in. If I say no to either or both, I'm going to seem like a huge jerk.
So do I simply throw all of my cares aside to appease my sisters? Should I go to take my youngest sister to school?
In other news, this is starting off as a horrible day. Quickbooks isn't working (hasn't been for a few days now). My dad has already responded to my question about this issue in a way that tells me that the fewer questions I ask today the better. And I hate being so negative.
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Hmm. Well, if you've taken all the time off that you can than that's it. It's what real life is like, not being able to do everything one (or others) want at the time wanted. (ok, that sounded odd....)
Have you asked your youngest sister? I am pretty sure she will manage even if you are not there
Maybe invite her over to your place for some time later?
Have you asked your youngest sister? I am pretty sure she will manage even if you are not there
Maybe invite her over to your place for some time later?
Unless it is going to cause a real financial struggle for you, I think you go in both situations. Honestly, do you know how rare what you have is? It is a new experience for your sister, and she is still making memories for her and the family. She wants her brother to be a part of it.
Are all of the other things weighing on you affecting your desire to go? If you didn't have any other stress on you, would you still not want to go? I understand how things can pile on, but this is still a big deal for her and a short term inconvenience most likely for you (not trying to make assumptions), but she will most likely remember your presence there than you will remember missing work.
Are all of the other things weighing on you affecting your desire to go? If you didn't have any other stress on you, would you still not want to go? I understand how things can pile on, but this is still a big deal for her and a short term inconvenience most likely for you (not trying to make assumptions), but she will most likely remember your presence there than you will remember missing work.
